engaged and living together -- please let me know what you think
Posted : 31 Jul, 2009 04:06 PM
Thank you all for your advice and prayers! God has taught me through this whole thing, that if people will not listen to mans counsel, that you must lay it down and allow Him to move thier hearts! God is in control, I am not! Jesus is amazing, and I have such peace now! :)
engaged and living together -- please let me know what you think
Posted : 29 Jul, 2009 12:31 PM
Ok, so my best friend met this great guy from the netherlands almost 2 years ago online. She has seen him about 5 times in the past years, and those times they stayed together anywhere between a week to three weeks. (just some background there)
2 weeks ago, he moved here to America, and she had previously got a apartment they where going to live in when they got married. Anyhow, when he got here, he began to stay in the apartment, my friend decided she would stay at my apartment during the nights, so she would not be sleeping there. I thought it was a great idea. So we set up a bed in my living room, and I slept on it and give her my bed. I had agreed not to worry about them "messing up" and she had agreed to stay at my place at night...
anyhow, the first week he was here, she stayed the night with him one night. I texted her and asked her that night around 2 am where she was. no answer, so i left it alone and the next day she told me she fell asleep on the couch. Knowing her as well as I do, it was hard to believe, but I let her tell me that anyhow.
Then 2 nights ago, I had spent the evening with her, and when we returned to our apartments (btw, i live RIGHT NEXT DOOR- in the next building) I was walking to my building and she walked to hers where her feince is living. Anyhow, I felt in my spirit that I should ask her if she planned on coming to stay at my place that night, but ignored it and let it go, because i wanted to give her the benifit of the doubt.
So around 4:30 am I woke, and was very upset to see she wasn't there. I was more upset I hadn't gone with my gut earlier. So I texted her and asked her if she was staying with him all night and told her i was disapointed and sad.
The next thing i knew, she came SLAMMING into my apartment, turned all the lights on, and started to scream at me. Telling me i was selfish for waking them up and texting them in the middle of the night, and it was non of my business. Anyhow, I felt bad after that happend, and told her I was sorry for texting her that. It was a really bad fight. She actually pushed me at one point.
Anyhow, that next day, i got a email from her that said she was just going to live with her feince, and if she had to she'd get her marraige licences signed early. I highly doubt the pastor will do that, but thats what she said. I pleaded with her to not do it, and to wait until they got married, which is only a month away - well 6 weeks.
Anyhow...I guess my question is, what would you do in this position. If it was your best friend. she didn't want to talk to you about it, period, and you KNEW she was out of Gods direction for her life. I'm lost. I have not said anything to anyone about this, but i am very sad, and haven't been able to eat for the past 2 days because I am so upset about this.
yeah, i don't get it either. I think its a bit pointless. if your going to have a long term relationship, why not get married. I mean, esp if your a Christian. HELLO!!! lol
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