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| Looking For |
A Marriage Partner |
| Do you drink? |
No |
| Profession |
Computer professional |
| Willing to relocate? |
Possibly, who knows |
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| Marital Status |
Divorced |
| Do you have children? |
Yes |
| Do you want children? |
Undecided/Open |
| Education Level |
4 Yr College Degree |
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| Interests |
| computers,reading,listening to music,walking,swimming |
| About Me |
I am a Chinese female, currently working in the IT industry in Singapore. Have lived in Los Angeles, CA for 5 years, divorced, with a daughter
who is American and the joy of my life.
I am born and raised in Singapore, a first-world country in Southeast Asia.
You may wonder why I don't put Singapore as my location. My reason is that Singaporean men are generally not accepting of divorced and single moms, even if it is the spouse who is unfaithful, so I am not looking there. Such is the extent of the discrimination and stigmatization here. And such is life in a world marred by sin, of which I am a part of.
I'm not saying that other places have no discrimination, it is just that
it is worse here in Singapore, being an Asian society.
Discrimination is human nature. We are all guilty of it some way or other,
just a matter of degree. Such is our fallenness.
Just as I have lived in the United States, of which the Constitution says that all men are equal, but till today, discrimination still exists, some people still consider themselves better than others because of all sorts of reasons. God says for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. So no one is neccessarily better than another. There is really no place for hypocrisy, for God knows everything about us (ref Psalm 139).
All of us will sin, I will sin, and will continue to sin until the day we see Him face to face, but in our failures, when we repent fully and seek to please Him, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Man looks at outward appearance, God looks at the heart.
I don't have good looks. I have very small eyes, a pug nose, high cheekbones and when I don't smile, my mouth droops so I look either very glum or very angry. My chest is as flat as an airport runway, but by God's grace I was able to breastfeed my daughter for 2 years (with the partial help of formula of course) for she had such a big appetite. That's the way God made me, and I accept it because He is the potter and I am the clay.
I hope to find a responsible Christian man. This is the most important quality I am looking for. He is also one who strives to live by Christian principles, who is humble, fair-minded and non-chauvinistic.
Though I am looking for a marriage partner, my belief is that first and foremost we should be best friends. I don't believe that chemistry, looks and physical attraction are what make 2 persons stay together, but that of shared values, compatibility, mutual respect and commitment through hard times.
If you have heard of Myers-Briggs Type indicator, I am ISTJ
http://www.personalitypage.com/ISTJ_rel.html
This is generally quite accurate description of me, though I am not one go by the book rigidly, especially when it doesn't make sense.
Nor do I think I am always right. If facts prove otherwise, I am not afraid to admit I am wrong.
However, there are some things I won't compromise, as in my firm conviction to always live within my means, as spending the rest of my life paying off consumer debt is not the way I want to live.
I will also not compromise on my stand that sex is only confined within marriage. Please give my profile a skip if you don't share my conviction on this.
As for my Christian faith, I hold on firmly to the hope in the future as depicted in Isaiah 11:6-9, though in the context of the present world it seems more like a fairy tale. I am of Anglican background, but consider myself non-denominational.
I have been hurt pretty bad in my past marriage.
I'm now somewhat afraid of ending up in the same kind of nightmare,
so pardon me.
I don't know what the future holds for me, whether I will find someone who will love God first so he can love me right.
Or if God wants me to stay single for the rest of my life for
whatever purpose He wants me to do on this earth.
But I rest secure in that whatever it is, my future is secure in Him.
I will also be honest about which places I will not relocate to. I will not want to relocate to any thiird-world country.
Not because I despise third-world countries, but because I know
that my weakness is that I cannot deal with the kind of conditions
in those countries. I need proper sanitation, proper climate control,
roofs that don't leak when it rains, a home that is clean and not infested with rodents and cockroaches or dog poo. I need these because I have lived in a house with precisely such dilapidated conditions on 22nd Street Los Angeles throughout my 5 years of marriage. The irony of living in a third-world environment in a first-world country. Plus being
treated as a sex slave by my ex, pressured to do things in bed against my wishes and I have suffered ENOUGH.
If you are still interested to explore this long-distance friendship
that may lead to marriage, you are welcome to write me.
Note : if you just want to be friends only and nothing more than that and are not seriously marriage-minded, honestly, I don't have the time.
I have to work full-time, take care of a kid I love but who often drives me up the wall, across the ceiling and down the other side, plus
dealing with my bipolar disorder. If you want a totally healthy gal, I'm not the one for you.
Note I will sometimes not be proimpt to respond for reasons stated above.
Also note that I already have a 9-year-old daughter, and at my age and my condition I don't think I can have another kid, but if God is willing, He will make it happen.
One last thing I have to make myself very clear. I am NOT an airhead.
To those scammers who think they can get me to send them any money, don't bother to contact me. I will not fall for any "if you love
me you will help me out" kind of nonsense, which I get a lot of.
I know all your tricks, so you might as well give up now.
Remember one day that you WILL have to face God for what you do,
and the consequences are dire, which I shall not bother to elaborate here.
Thank you and God bless. |
| First Date |
Since I expect it to be a long-distance relationship, the first real face-to-face date will happen only after we really get to know each other very well and
have a high chance of being a couple whose marriage is blessed by God.
If you are in a hurry to get hitched, then I am not the one for you.
No offence. No hard feelings.
Shalom. |
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