I am looking for a guy who doesnt look at porn....doesnt drink everytime we go out...doesnt smoke or do drugs...and likes going to church...maybe a little romantic....Now tell me the truth Does He Exist??
I think a man of this description is easier to find than you think, as long as you're honest about what you're looking for. I find that most of the men you are talking about are not in the "hottie" category. If you want a model-type guy with those qualities, then the answer is no, they don't exist.
I would say that a guy of that type who would still be attractive to you is possible to find.
I mean maybe not to the tee...maybe he does enjoy having a drink or two when he goes out, but in general, YES you can find a guy who isnt drinking or partying and who can still be attractive.
I would like to say that there are men that don't drink. I don't drink, don't do drugs, have full time employment and attend services like clockwork. We are out there. Keep looking.
I'm gonna have to agree with the other guys that replied on this one. It may be hard to find guys that fit this descrition, but it's not that hard. I too would fit this, as I'm sure alot of the guys on this site. I would actually say, as bold as this may seem, that it might be even harder to find a girl accepting of these characteristics than it is to find the actual guy with these standards/morals.
Im gonna get bold here and actually talk about the porn aspect for a second, since nobody else has specifically.
Here's the deal. Porn is actually supposedly more addictive than crack. There are many great guys out there who struggle with it. It use to have a really strong hold on me. Trust me when I say there are many guys who hate the fact that they struggle with it so much. If you really like someone, then you have to work through the addiction with them, not abandon them.
Now heres something controversial. A lot of you women look at porn and dont even realize it. Its called "Chick Flicks". You can read a lot about it in a book called "Marriable". It may be mentioned in "Captivating" as well, not sure. But basically, men are visual when it comes to sex, thus why we can be addicted to porn. Women are more on the emotional side when it comes to sex, so chick flicks are there guilty pleasure. Theres more to it than that, but thats my little summary.
So all that to say, dont write someone off just cause they struggle with porn. You could be missing out on an amazing guy who just needs a little support.
Even a good man can struggle with porn. If but only for a season. In the last days of my marriage my ex-wife encouraged me to visit such sites. I was shocked at her insistence of it while we were still together. She would look over my shoulder and encourage me to brows websites. Even having them pre picked out for me. It felt so strange. So wrong. So evil.
She was a woman that went to more than two church services a week, sang in the choir, was a greeter, taught Sunday school, .........I later found out about her affair with one of the prominent church members.
What she introduced me to on the web became a short lived experience after I lost all intimacy with her. Lasting about two-three months.
Since then the Lord has delivered me. With Gods help I remain clean before my Lord and clean before any woman who would seek a relationship with me.
Temptation isn't sin, just the succumbing to it or the planning of such.
I don't think I have ever been this open on a public forum before.
We all fall short of the glory of God. I truly understand not wanting a man who looks at porn and all that but we have as Christians have to be aware of our own actions, myself included. Am I looking at a man with lust in my heart, how much do I drink when I go out, is there someone there that is prone to alcoholism and I should refrain so that my brother or sister doesn't fall, did I go along with that joke at work about someone else or sexual in nature, are my clothes appropriate, etc....These are questions we have to ask ourselves and do a self-examination.
As a women, yes be specific about the Boaz you want, but ask God to make you the Ruth for that man also but first and foremost the woman or man of God you are designed to be so as to not inhibit you for the purpose or calling you have.
