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Henry2019^ View Profile History	Serious alternative to online dating scam Posted : 19 Jun, 2022 04:21 AM Thought of sharing my thoughts on the dating scheme, the actual, honest picture and lifestyle we all live right now, today. As you all know (I guess the younger gens may not interpret the same wavelength here) we live our lives constantly hooked up and connected to so-me and dating (singles) like, and could be in the future, an actual biomechanical extension of the human body. I am not exaggurating. We are 24/7 connected, living our "Insta-lie" life trying to find social comfort electronically, virtually, artificially, all through phones and computers, instead of real life natural communication. Actually so-me I call anti-social media, because it is an addiction source, as studies show, degrading our health - in some cases severely among youth of today - but at the same time, as we all know, an obligatory unwanted but yes so essential and important part of our modern lives. Why? The answer is simple. Because there are no alternatives. Especially regarding dating. But also our social life; many are completely isolated from real life natural interaction with human beings, and this, my dear Christian friends, I find extremely alarming and disturbing. The fact that, from morning to evening, we search for "human touch" and "feelings" and "love" through online sources is a clear sign something is wrong. Write me your thoughts, everyone appreciates to read yours too. This is why I come to my point: today, as we know, millions suffer enormously continously and endlessly by the lack of any serious alternatives to dating sites, with aim to find a trustful life companion. We suffer fighting scam, trickery, dangers online, untrustful all the time, nowehere near as Christian as it should be - Christians want to trust eachother, likewise, as Jesus teached us and talked to us face to face - I want to underline this: face to face, in real life. This was also his important message: we should value real human and humane interaction, our need for true feelings, our need for human way of natural communication - something online artificial so-me and dating life never can fulfil. Thus, I come to one solution: we need serious alternative to so-me and dating online. Agree? I created once a "friend team" - the idea simply this: (and simplicity is the truth! :) We could have local organised activity, with aim to meet, not tweet. It could be using social media and it should, but the real focus would be on real life meetings with activities, never chats, forums online, sharing anything online, but meeting and doing it all for real. It could be a "friend team" focusing on exactly this: meeting and getting to know eachother through real life activities and hobbies. I'm not writing this without reason; there is nothing like it yet. So, as you understand, these should be global, local. I have experience in this. So if you would be interested in this concept, helping to create a local activity, I can help you on the way. I hope I can share some light into this dark world. Let's remember, Jesus would never use a smartphone. Let's remember, what the true values of Christianity is: social interaction and meetings between people, naturally, not virtually. That brings both physical and mental health, and fulfils all our human needs, something no phone or computer could ever do. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	Serious alternative to online dating scam Posted : 19 Jun, 2022 01:03 PM I think during lockdown that was the case for most people, I know I found being stuck in doors boring & as a result spent lot of time online. Now that I am back at work & socialising with my family & friends again I spend a lot less time online & feel better for it…:-) Post Reply
AngelsandAirwaves^ View Profile History	Serious alternative to online dating scam Posted : 19 Jun, 2022 03:15 PM I agree it is sad that a lot of us have been heavily relying on using social media as the main source to meet and communicate with people....While I think it's a nice way to communicate ideas and to be able to sometimes reach out to others (especially friends and family at a distance), it shouldn't be the only method by which how we interact with one another. Even dating sites/meet sites whatever should of course be a "tool" or resource to expand those interactions, but relying on them solely, I don't feel is a good idea. That's why I've even made it more of a point to get out and do more activities, volunteer somewhere, try to get involved more actively in church, or even just take some classes/etc. It does help to be able to meet some new faces and just expand. However, I will note that it has been more difficult to meet people in person.... With vacillating covid policies and more social and political unrest, it creates a lot of division along with it... I think that's why so many more people have been online than ever. Like Jayzee said after the whole pandemic happened, things really changed.... I mean the majority of my coworkers now work remotely or some of my friends and family do as well. People are more closed off and isolated. We've also had a significant increase in crime lately (especially where I am). Unfortunately, this does make people less want to get outside the comfort of their homes. I am not saying it's like that for everyone everywhere, but I've heard so many different people say they feel safer indoors. I know God will of course keep us safe wherever we are, but I do understand what people are talking about with the way the times are changing. It is important though that we do have "real" in-person interaction (preferably healthy and positive if possible) as God designed us to be social creatures. He wants that for us. Anyway, I've rambled way too much. Great topic though! Post Reply
NotSettlingYet^ View Profile History	Serious alternative to online dating scam Posted : 20 Jun, 2022 04:18 AM We do have this in our church. On Facebook there are different groups called "hangout" "adults 28-40 years old" ect, where the members put out invitations to activities. Last week we had a barbecue, this Friday we will do Hedgehog-safari. Different people just put out the activity they initiate, and anyone is welcome to join, bring a friend ect. I have found loads of new friends after only 3 months in this new town. People are all in for it after the covid-years, and are really excited to do really simple and weird kind of activities. I am considering doing it myself in a week or two, inviting people to come to my place for a hangout evening one of the sunny evenings when it is lovely to sit and enjoy the sea breeze from the shore next to my house. Post Reply

Henry2019^ View Profile History	Serious alternative to online dating scam Posted : 8 Jul, 2022 04:13 AM Sounds great. Will myself seriously consider re-establishing a local friend team activity, focused on meetings in real life, only using so-me as trigger platform (no chats or online forums instead meetings). As we true Christians know, Christ himself would never use a smartphone or computer to socialise or emphasise human relations and communication built on such an artificial, misleading and badly corrupting technology, that most of us are slaves and addicts with, forgetting completely about human needs for touch, feelings, emotions and natural expressions and contact understanding. God knows, and sees how our children these days are already traumatised, disfigured and malfunctioning mentally and physically, some in extreme danger. So-me is anti-social media. All our concentration and focus as well as communication is solely based on intermediate electronic filtering, a middle hand that filters rejecting mostly, not accepting. This is true also with our lifestyles; we have enormous welfare and are isolating from eachother more and more in egocentric fashion - sounds familiar doesn't it in regards to man's relation with God, how it turned to isolation right? The reason I do not want to go into here, although I have a clear stance on it. Let's remember to promote what Jesus wanted us: human contact and natural interaction, leading to deeper understanding and relationships, not the opposite with so-me anchoring, leading to divorce after divorce. Post Reply
NarnianGirl View Profile History	Serious alternative to online dating scam Posted : 1 Sep, 2022 11:18 AM Hmmm. I am not sure Jesus would not have used technology to spread His message... or at least approved of it. Apostle Paul wrote much of the New Testament... and he used communication methods of his time - writing! Agree with you about the importance of personal face to face meetings! But for those of us not blessed by local fellowship within reach, on-line ministries are a real blessing. It's not really different from 'in real life', we always have to pray and seek God's leading as to where we should go for friendships. Scammers and cheats are all around us in real life too.. and even more dangerous than the on line ones. It is much easier to be attached to someone, when we see them face to face. So caution is needed no matter where.. Post Reply
Henry2019^ View Profile History	Serious alternative to online dating scam Posted : 14 Sep, 2022 02:31 PM Just to briefly inform you my dear friend: youth of today even commit suicide because of their mental health problems due to so-me addiciton and the artificial life staring 24/7 constantly at their phones like smartphone zombies indoor and outdoor. I would not call this comparable with, or less dangerous, than real life. We have to understand the technocracy dangers we face now, and not accept everything simply "going with the flow" - that is the real danger of our society right now and utmost dangerous for our children and future generations, who are formed and mold casted from childhood. There is a significant difference in anchoring in real life, not living the Insta-lie, or living hooked to the mentally disturbing artificial addiction life of anti-social media. Post Reply