Joined this site a fortnight ago, and would like get a little insight from members on here.
When you’re seeking friendship, a long-term partner, or a future spouse on a platform like this one, what sparks your interest when you’re browsing profiles? Do you find yourself drawn to someone’s photos, the physical attributes listed, or perhaps it’s the shared interests in the way someone describes themselves and their values in the ‘about’ or ‘looking for’ sections? I’m curious to know what gives you that nudge to send that initial message, wink or like?
An occasional meaningful conversation keeps some on the site, whereas some of us choose to leave the site without them.
Distance is a factor, so a pretty face may not get one to go to the other side of the world for words.
I am among those that read the profiles. Words are important to me. One can do a word search on Interests and read the profiles of those that filled out the interests portion on their profile.
All the details in your profile are important.
If I see that someone smokes, I usually don't write them.
If I see a woman is separated, I choose not to write or initiate conversation.
From how a person completes her profile, I choose to write or not write.
Here, I am more drawn to single women who want children.
I get my nudges in how they answer their profile.
One nudge, country.
Second nudge, WANT CHILDREN.
Third nudge, not separated.
Fourth nudge, don't drink or smoke.
Fifth nudge, doesn't exclude my age.
Sixth nudge, likes reading the Bible and speaks of God.
Seventh nudge, is not nasty and doesn't write nasty words.
But so many newcomers disappear into cyberspace and don't last a day as they are spotted magically for being scammers and there goes any good conversation you had.
Thank you for the welcome! and for your thoughts regarding my question.
I noticed a couple of things that would motivate you to reach out to someone. I’m curious—if someone’s profile catches your interest but includes something that doesn’t quite align with your preferences, like drinking on special occasions, living halfway across the world, being separated, or not wanting children, would you be open to compromise?
Somethings, I am open to compromise. Other things, I am less open to compromise.
I can go years without touching alcohol. I do not mind if someone has a glass once in a while or for special occasions or at a picnic. But I'm really not into drinking.
Habakkuk 2:15 says, “Woe to him who gives drink to his neighbors, pouring it from the wineskin till they are drunk, so that he can gaze on their naked bodies!" Of course, in that case, it probably fine.
Definitely, I have no interest in women that are open to abortion.
Definitely, I have no interest in women who are separated from their husbands.
Really, I do not have interest in divorced women, except for friendship only.
I would like that divorced women get back together with their last husband.
I'm open to talking with some people and corresponding with some people, but for anything more, there is criteria. I'm just not interested in everyone. One has to have criteria. And criteria differs from one person to another. I hope for someone who is similar. I like to be on the same page. "The house divided cannot stand."
i have been to the other side of the world 4 times for words. I do not care to do it again. Never was it worth it. Words change and charm is deceptive. It is better to find someone more local.
Of women not wanting kids, they will find many men who don't want kids. I WANT KIDS. I have no interest in women that don't want kids. It cheapens relationship. But as an activity partner or a friend or a shared interest in something, I welcome someone to do things with or just to talk, but I don't want to be romantic with any woman who does not want kids, and I don't want to be romantic with another man's wife. So, I limit myself. The Bible is the standard. The Bible is the guidebook. The Bible has the guidelines. Some more closely follow them. Some less closely follow them. Some do not follow them at all. But I note them.
