Are Christian guys shy about dating Christian women?
Posted : 9 Sep, 2007 10:58 PM
Its not that its a big thing, but Most of the time its because we are used to having to impress all the time and act different around women who only care about that stuff. So its hard to act ourselfs infront of you,and we want to act ourselfs but in our minds are saying to us (example)
"shes a great Christian woman she could be the one iv been looking for..or not just act yourself, just act yourself..just be cool" but the whole time this is going on in our minds "or somthing like it" the chances to actully ask you ladies out slips away. i know some guys are secretly affraid of Rejection. Rejection from a Christian Woman is harder to take than from some bimbo at the mall "haha, i know it sounds bad, sorry :)" its just an example. But you know us guys are forgetting that Christian women are Christians! yup Christians believe that everyone is equal and we dont judge.
Christian women should be easier to talk to because they wont judge you, and if they are not interested wont make you feel bad showing you they are not.
advice to the guys:
For myself talking to women in general isnt a big deal. they are humans too,haha. When your talking to a women pretend its like talking to an old friend, at the same time you wont be able to act anything but yourself. and its really up to the woman if they like your personallity, if they are not interested then oh well there are plenny more than that one woman, also remember that God has somone picked out for you and if one doesnt go through than it wasnt meant to be.
at the most make a new friend, after all you are talking to them for a reason Right? ok then talk to as many woman as possible..you never know the woman that wasnt to interested in you but she has friends and one of her friends might want a guy Exactly like you. so remember that! and remember that Jesus has your back.
Are Christian guys shy about dating Christian women?
Posted : 10 Sep, 2007 01:03 AM
I don't know who you have been hanging out with but this born-again Christian man in Colorado has no hesitation at all asking a Christian lady out...maybe you are a bit intimitading to those poor Florida boys!
Are Christian guys shy about dating Christian women?
Posted : 10 Sep, 2007 08:31 AM
I know, I know, men are generally intimidated by beauty! ;) ;)
It just seems that the mentality is completely different in the church. Seems that there are very different rules(as there should be) than the secular world. In the secular world a man and woman start to date and the attitude is "I wonder how long that's goin g to last" wheras in church when a man and woman start to date, that's it....they are marriage bound, in fact, seldom (very seldom) do I ever see couples break up that started dating within the congregation. I don't understand the big deal, where did this pressure come from?
Are Christian guys shy about dating Christian women?
Posted : 10 Sep, 2007 04:25 PM
Cory, what you said about Christain guys forgetting we a re Christians... I don't really have alot of experience and pretty much new at all this, but Christain men seem, in my opinion, to be just as aggresive as men of the world when it comes to the pick-up lines and such. But back to the original question on intimidation. I have noticed that men seem to always shy away when they find out I'm a Christian. It kind of hurts. in my mind I'm thinking this is something that should be appreciated, but then the guys seem a little stand-offish. I don't know, maybe alot of them are just looking for a good time and know that isn't what we are looking for. I have actually met a couple of really nice Christain men here who seem that they truly desire to have a relationship with a Godly woman, and I find that inspiring. So all you gals out there who are searching, DON'T COMPROMISE YOURSELF TO IMPRESS A MAN. If he's a good Christian, he will not only respect you, but encourage you and help you stay true to yourself.
Are Christian guys shy about dating Christian women?
Posted : 11 Sep, 2007 10:48 AM
Sarahi, No not all guys are putting on a a show, alot act them selfs. I think its dumb not to act yourself.
MJ, Not all men are the same, some are argressive some are not. evryone is different "as you already know". With the few experiences iv had i have seen how some guys act and they seem very shy. When Men Shy away after they know your a Christian, you are right they are only looking for a good time, or how about we call it a Sin Time. Maybe not all of them but most of them. You shouldnt let it hurt you ! them guys dont really care about you anyway, and who wants that?
This i believe is a great place for Christian singles. You can meet as many people as you want. and knowing that they are Christians is the best part.
Are Christian guys shy about dating Christian women?
Posted : 12 Sep, 2007 02:42 PM
Well I don't know what's the deal. Unsaved men don't have a problem with asking me out but it is hard or not likely for a Christian guy to ask me out. IN fact none have asked me out. But unsaved men are always hitting on me.
Are Christian guys shy about dating Christian women?
Posted : 16 Sep, 2007 02:29 AM
For me it would be the friendship aspect that makes me shy away from asking someone out who is christian... as much as it shouldn't it tends to become an awkward situation and thats my reason why I don't at times and possibly why some others don't either. Plus not all Christian girls give the right response when they find out someone likes them, not saying any of you do this, but when you are around these people for church it can get awkward.
Are Christian guys shy about dating Christian women?
Posted : 17 Sep, 2007 08:25 PM
I think years ago it was assumed that every guy wanted a good girl 95% of the time. Good could be one definition of a Christian gal although far short of the ture meaning.
Today we have a lot to live up to--and most of it seems we are alone---if single---most of us guys don;t talk about the normal testosterone urges and desires--after all to our chrisitan single guy frinds we are to be more spiritual than that and to our non-chrisitan friends we are thinking about our witness to them. Then there are the guys who are marriad and they can't remember what it was like to be single and in the contentment of their union it is easy to forget.
Now on top of that here comes a christian gal---we want to let her know we are normal inside with all that makes up a man but we know she has been hit with that usually in a crass insensitive, selfish way from other guys hittin on her. So what are we to do? Do we go for the non-chrisitan gal who thinks we are nice, safe and she feels like the aggressive one because she still knows we are men? Or do we stay home playing scrabble agianst outselves?
ANSWER: it is a strange world. Treat a man know you will appreciate him and not judge him. Appreciating his strength, comment on it, his courage and convictions brag about them to your freinds but don't wait till you go down the alter till you kiss him, squeeze his muscle or appreciate him for his masculinity and abilities. If more christian gals made christian guy feel glad he is a man appreciated verbally, flirting, touched or massaged in a sensitive way, and valued highly well, man teated like that can wait far longer for the rewards meant for the marriage bed. Once other christian guys see that and other christian gals do it---then christian guys would be staning in line to date you and others like you.
