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HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	People say I don't seem interested, why Posted : 4 Mar, 2023 11:22 PM I have had two men tell me this online. For instance, a guy I've been talking to only twice with a little back and forth conversation told me recently "you don't seem very interested." I am not giving off that vibe at all in my opinion, in fact, I give enthusiastic answers with exclamation points even. I sound very engaging. Another guy said I sounded serious?? Are these guys just trying to change my personality? I can't say a bunch because I don't know the guys very well but I'm friendly
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	What should I do in this situation Posted : 24 Feb, 2023 09:23 PM I was talking to this guy for about a year and a half pretty consistently like every day. We met this past December for three days (he came out of state). After meeting, I noticed he wasn't replying to my text messages at all. After 10 days he replied to me and said sorry for late reply. I replied and he again didn't reply for about 7 days. I then replied and got mad a little and said I don't go for boring married scammerz anyways. He said again sorry for the late reply and said he is not married and not a scammer. I just didn't understand why he didn't give a solid explanation to me about why everything seemed to have gone cold in my eyes? Should I contact him again? Or leave it?
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	Should I send a friendly message or move on Posted : 22 Feb, 2023 02:56 PM I met a guy on here and we had been talking on and off for about one and a half years. We clicked pretty well and he lives out of state. His pictures looked good but some he looked kind of depressed/worried. He claimed he flirted with me first but he said he was shocked that I saw him as more than a friend. He claimed that he sounded like a depressed downer and he was surprised I liked him after that. He said that when we would talk, he thought I saw him as a friend. Then later he said he never flirted with me and he used this as a defense mechanism and said he didn't want to lose me. The whole thing got weird. He kept saying I sounded serious through text message like my personality which I am not serious. I like to laugh and I am friendly but again he didn't want to fall for me I guess in case things didn't work out. When I would get mad over text, he would constantly want to resolve the issue. He said he wanted to meet around my work schedule like before and after. He kept asking me what I wanted to do but didn't plan any activities, just kept asking me. This December, he finally came to meet me in California for about three days. We went out to lunch twice and walked around a lot in the city. He was really nice and I did enjoy his company. During the meeting, he didn't talk to me like almost at all. He was super quiet. I was the one that was always asking questions. He wanted to meet at a park at night which I declined but I said I would meet him the next day. He gave me a Christmas gift and card and I gave him something too. When he got back, I noticed he wasn't texting me so I said hope you had a safe trip back. No response. I then said Merry Christmas I liked my gifts after Christmas a little and he took 10 days to text me back and said sorry I was busy glad you liked them. Then I texted and again a week passed and he wasnt responding so I got mad and said I don't go for boring, married scammers anyways. And he said he forgave me for calling him boring but said he was not married or a scammer. I replied and even apologized on this app we have but I deleted and reinstalled it. I notice he still has the app and is not blocked. Should I just send a friendly message or just let this go?
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	Should I send a friendly message or move on Posted : 22 Feb, 2023 02:56 PM I met a guy on here and we had been talking on and off for about one and a half years. We clicked pretty well and he lives out of state. His pictures looked good but some he looked kind of depressed/worried. He claimed he flirted with me first but he said he was shocked that I saw him as more than a friend. He claimed that he sounded like a depressed downer and he was surprised I liked him after that. He said that when we would talk, he thought I saw him as a friend. Then later he said he never flirted with me and he used this as a defense mechanism and said he didn't want to lose me. The whole thing got weird. He kept saying I sounded serious through text message like my personality which I am not serious. I like to laugh and I am friendly but again he didn't want to fall for me I guess in case things didn't work out. When I would get mad over text, he would constantly want to resolve the issue. He said he wanted to meet around my work schedule like before and after. He kept asking me what I wanted to do but didn't plan any activities, just kept asking me. This December, he finally came to meet me in California for about three days. We went out to lunch twice and walked around a lot in the city. He was really nice and I did enjoy his company. During the meeting, he didn't talk to me like almost at all. He was super quiet. I was the one that was always asking questions. He wanted to meet at a park at night which I declined but I said I would meet him the next day. He gave me a Christmas gift and card and I gave him something too. When he got back, I noticed he wasn't texting me so I said hope you had a safe trip back. No response. I then said Merry Christmas I liked my gifts after Christmas a little and he took 10 days to text me back and said sorry I was busy glad you liked them. Then I texted and again a week passed and he wasnt responding so I got mad and said I don't go for boring, married scammers anyways. And he said he forgave me for calling him boring but said he was not married or a scammer. I replied and even apologized on this app we have but I deleted and reinstalled it. I notice he still has the app and is not blocked. Should I just send a friendly message or just let this go?
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	Do you think I should contact him once more or let it go? Posted : 22 Feb, 2023 12:44 PM Thank you for your beautiful scripture. I'm not quite sure still what I should do about this though

HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	What are you giving up for Lent this year Posted : 22 Feb, 2023 10:21 AM I decided sweets because that is the most difficult for me. I was debating on coffee possibly. Also, to add to the Lenten season, to pray in the morning/not hit snooze button and sounds funny but standing up straighter (my posture is not the greatest haha). I was thinking of writing down things you are grateful for but I am grateful for everything. So what is the thing you are giving up or adding?
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	Do you think I should contact him once more or let it go? Posted : 22 Feb, 2023 10:10 AM I'm Catholic and yes of course I believe in God
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	Do you think I should contact him once more or let it go? Posted : 21 Feb, 2023 08:27 PM I met a guy on here and we had been talking on and off for about one and a half years. We clicked pretty well and he lives out of state. His pictures looked good but some he looked kind of depressed/worried. He claimed he flirted with me first but he said he was shocked that I saw him as more than a friend. He claimed that he sounded like a depressed downer and he was surprised I liked him after that. He said that when we would talk, he thought I saw him as a friend. Then later he said he never flirted with me and he used this as a defense mechanism and said he didn't want to lose me. The whole thing got weird. He kept saying I sounded serious through text message like my personality which I am not serious. I like to laugh and I am friendly but again he didn't want to fall for me I guess in case things didn't work out. When I would get mad over text, he would constantly want to resolve the issue. He said he wanted to meet around my work schedule like before and after. He kept asking me what I wanted to do but didn't plan any activities, just kept asking me. This December, he finally came to meet me in California for about three days. We went out to lunch twice and walked around a lot in the city. He was really nice and I did enjoy his company. During the meeting, he didn't talk to me like almost at all. He was super quiet. I was the one that was always asking questions. He wanted to meet at a park at night which I declined but I said I would meet him the next day. He gave me a Christmas gift and card and I gave him something too. When he got back, I noticed he wasn't texting me so I said hope you had a safe trip back. No response. I then said Merry Christmas I liked my gifts after Christmas a little and he took 10 days to text me back and said sorry I was busy glad you liked them. Then I texted and again a week passed and he wasnt responding so I got mad and said I don't go for boring, married scammers anyways. And he said he forgave me for calling him boring but said he was not married or a scammer. I replied and even apologized on this app we have but I deleted and reinstalled it. I notice he still has the app and is not blocked. Should I just send a friendly message or just let this go?
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	Should I just ignore him Posted : 7 Feb, 2023 11:03 PM Thank you so much! I appreciate the thorough answer and will continue to be friendly. I think that is best and won't cause an awkward environment. I think also he may be talking to my friends as a way to get to know my friends and be on their good side if that makes sense.
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile	Should I just ignore him Posted : 6 Feb, 2023 11:52 PM Thank you guys! but no I wouldn't get involved romantically like you said, my job is most important. I just was wondering if I should continue being friendly or just ignore him?