ForPassion
Seeking to Share Passion and Memories
- Gender
- Male | 48
- Country
- United States
- City
- Raleigh
- State
- North Carolina
- Height
- 5'6"
- Last Login Date
- Click here to learn more
- Age
- 48
- Eye Color
- Hazel
- Body Type
- Average
- Hair Color
- Black
- Ethnicity
- Caucasian
- Denomination
- Baptist
- Looking For
- A Long Term Relationship
- Church Name
- Why, you want to stalk me?
- Church Attendance
- Every week
- Church Raised In
- Catholic
- Do you drink?
- No
- Smoker
- No
- Willing to relocate?
- No way
- Marital Status
- Single
- Do you have children?
- Yes but not living at home
- Do you want children?
- Undecided/Open
- Education Level
- 4 Yr College Degree
- My Profession
- technical
- Interests
- paintball, skydiving, martial arts, movies, scifi, sleeping, quietness, conversations, cuddling, romance (yes that is an interest), my kids, astronomy
- About Me
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Yes, active 2025 profile.
This is going to be a read because, details. Get comfy and relax for it. Long terms goals only going to be found dealing with short term adventures. So am open to see and discover what adventures lie ahead. What you have in mind? I can expand on anything you ask about.
IF YOU WANT QUICK READ... DISCLAIMERS
Shy and often introverted, but at times I can blabber a lot.
> Seeking a partner within one hour's drive of Raleigh, North Carolina. Let us get to know each other through messages and calls, then meet in person soon. No long-distance or frequent travelers, or those living/working abroad. We should be able to regularly spend time together in person to build a lasting relationship. Occasional travel is acceptable, but I am not interested in someone who will be gone frequently or permanently.
*Not to say I will not travel with you, money and time off from work permitting, but I am not looking for someone locally who will be gone a lot.
**Unless you can convince me that a long term relationship between us is only very, very short term, and you then be here locally permanently (I can not leave this area), I let you give that conversations a go.
*** Not all of us had a life where money allowed us to be "well traveled," and I do not like women that brag a lot about it.
> I am a hopeful romantic seeking passion, faithfulness, compassion, and respect. I desire intimate romance and deep conversations. Honesty, truthfulness, and open communication are paramount. I have experienced betrayal and abuse, but have never cheated. I seek a genuine, sincere partner who embodies kindness and sweetness.
> If we date, I am fully committed to you and expect the same in return. I am not interested in sharing you with others while we are getting to know each other.
> The photos may not fully capture my true self. I am not the best at taking selfies, and smiling in photos is not my strong suit. The camera may struggle to reflect my authentic self.
> I have three teenage children, but they do not live with me. I have been married before. A man's divorce does not define his character. As a divorcee, I ask that you do not judge me based on stereotypes. Many women with children from multiple partners find acceptance, yet men with children even from one relationship often face challenges. Please take the time to know my stories before making any assumptions.
> To save time for a long-term relationship, please review my "turn-offs" first. I know the type of partner I am compatible with for a lasting romance.
> If I show interest, I will message you directly (assuming the website gives you that message). I do not use "favorites" or "likes" unless it also lets me send a message. So if you like what you read, please reach out!
> Everything is going to be blunt, honest, and never, ever "politically correct" just to make other people "comfortable" with their incorrect ways.
> If my profile says for children, “Undecided/Open/No.” Let me expand on that. I probably will not want more biological children, as I never thought about it being single this long. But I am not opposed to you having children already from a previous mate.
QUESTIONS FOR WOMEN
> Why do women often say they encounter fakes and disrespectful men, yet guys like me seem to get ignored?
> Why do some women feel the need to pose with alcohol in their photos?
> Why do some women pose with their tongues out (turn off) or leaning against walls or cars emphasizing their bodies?
> And just for fun, want fries with those questions?
I want us to compare notes and do our own QAs, comparing likes, dislikes, turnoffs (am sure you have a bunch of turn offs too, and I got a few indeed including tats, piercings, women feeling the need to drink to socialize, and things you may not expect, and I have to REALLY like you to compromise), life, God, goals, relationship wants/needs/desires, what we looking for short/long term in anything and everything, and see where that then leads us. I am open to explore and experience what comes to see how far it goes.
So, let us chat, meet, and see how far and long it does goes.
ABOUT ME
> I am a Christian, and I am not perfect. However, it is important that you understand who God is to you and to the world. He is real despite people not believing in Him. I seek someone who shares my values, including a belief in the sanctity of life and the truth of the Bible. I believe there is only one way to Heaven, and I hold strong views against issues and confusion surrounding current societal trends that are against God. If you resonate with these beliefs, we may connect well. And hopefully our ideas, methods, and beliefs do not clash.
> I live simply and make the most of what I have. So I hope you are open to starting with simple activities like coffee, pizza, movies (at home), and long conversations. Maybe bowling? Going out for dinner can feel like a luxury for me, as I am careful with my finances. If you appreciate the little things, we may be a great match!
> Swearing is not part of my daily vocabulary.
> You will not find me on social media stuff.
> I do not live off a tiny mobile device that is a mini computer with a telephone “app”lication. To me, it is not a “phone” but a personal, computing device. I prefer a full size keyboard with monitors and a mouse. I will text, but I am not going to have full blown conversations with it. That removes the human connection.
> I enjoy quiet, relaxing times because life is busy enough.
> I am a homebody, saving money and focusing on personal projects. I do not go out every day, as I already spend time commuting to work. While I enjoy outings when my budget allows, my priorities are rent and my kids. If I had more financial freedom, I would love to go camping, skiing, skydiving, and exploring new places with my children. I appreciate relaxing in nature and stargazing, rather than being surrounded by city lights. I got plenty I can be doing at home (projects, resting) and I need to recharge from a day of being out, usually working. I like adventures and going out as much as the next guy, but I watch my money carefully.
> I can describe myself easily, but it seems confusing too (and some of these are how others have seen me as well): protector, geek, nerd, shy, introverted anti-socialist, warrior, techie, analyst, romantic, old fashioned, dedicated, honorable, sensitive, fun, interesting, look young with eyes so old, mysterious, faithful, goofy. I am so complicated! INFJ something or other.
> I enjoy movies, SCI-FI, fantasy, thrillers, comedy, drama, horror (but I can not watch horror movies where children are killed), and I HATE teenage sex/drug movies.
> Paintball, skydiving, martial arts. Video games (especially retros as I have a history with them). Board games. Sleeping! Cuddling (and more?).
> I am what I call a conservative republican. Only two people I can think of should be the president of America, and I have been saying this for decades: me or Jesus. Then again, God is already King of everything and everyone. Right!
> I will say stupid things, say bad jokes, sometimes be too quiet and sometimes talk way too much like a bumbling idiot. I got a great idea! Kiss me to shut me up when needed. Am not good with sarcasm either.
> I have no tattoos or piercings, and never will.
> I recycle a lot. I never litter. If I can not use it, it gets sold or donated.
> Bonuses to you if you understand this. To give an idea on my ever busy personality, mix a bit of each of these fictional minds in it: Data (logical, not always understanding people), Worf (tough, protective, cautious, stern, reserved), Monk (tiny bit of OCD), the 4th Doctor (as he once said, "Well, of course I'm being childish! There is no point being grown-up if you can not be childish sometimes."), 10th Doctor (being clever).
> I have three wonderful children who do not live with me, but I spend time with them often. It is important for you to understand and respect my role as a father and my amicable relationship with my ex-wife. We are close friends and co-parents, with nothing suspicious between us. I am committed to a partner and will give you my time and attention. However, if I need to attend to my kids (regardless of their ages), even on short notice, I hope you can understand. My children come first, and I will not feel guilty for being there for them (I had someone that tried that with me).
> I am nocturnal by nature but working a day job. Harsh!
If you made it this far you are doing good!
TURN OFFs for the long haul.
Let me get a few things out and whether you think me shallow, possessive, controlling, or whatever, it is just me who knows what I can be compatible with for the long run for many reasons. Short term, let us see. You have your personal preferences too, and you do not trust guys for your own reasons as well. Certain ones of these could possibly be broken for the right person, but I got to really, really like you to bend any, and you may need to take the time to explain some things to me. Hence, conversation. If you want to know my reasoning for some of these ask well, ask. So some turnoffs be...
> If you had sex with more guys than you have fingers.
> Tattoos. Past, present, or future.
> I have no tolerance for dishonesty, distrust, cheating, disrespect, or arrogance. One man, one woman!
> Multiple piercings or body piercings. Rings, bolts, heavy ear loops (they cause droopy ears), the things that open up your skin, chips, whips, chains, dips connected.
> Someone who changes her hair color way too often. I would enjoy seeing your natural beauty more than artificial coloring.
> Smokers.
> Drugs (yes, the green grass is a drug too).
> Drinking. I believe alcohol causes too many problems, so I prefer to be with someone who does not drink. If you occasionally enjoy a drink, I would like to understand the context; who you are with, why, and when. If you need to drink frequently or rely on alcohol to socialize, we may not be a good match. I have trust issues with drinkers. I seek a partner who values a sober lifestyle and genuine connection. Do not tell me you do not have trust issues with guys for one reason or another!!
> If your vocabulary requires swearing every few sentences, I will pass.
> Liberal Christians. How that works? Maybe we can discuss.
> Super long fake nails. Just, why?
> I believe that when you are dating someone, you should avoid being alone with members of the opposite gender (excluding family or coparenting). It can lead to unnecessary temptation and complications. Especially if you going to hang out with an ex-lover who enjoyed your body previously, while your current bo (me) is waiting for you at home. There may be exceptions for certain people in your life (long time, trusted friends for example that would never make a move on you, church friends, etc), and we can discuss those together. My goal is to build respect and trust between us, even though it is important to recognize that trust can be challenging with others.
> I am not interested in someone who is seeking a life of financial comfort and wealth. I seek financial freedom, but I have to live a frugal life. Can you live like this with me?
> Not looking for someone who has blasted her naked body on social media and such for everyone to see. I prefer that your private images remain just that—private.
> I do not appreciate comparisons to past partners. I believe we should focus on building our own unique connection and be the best together.
> A partier. Someone who has to always be at a club/bar/party drinking or dancing or partying until sunrise.
> You see forced lifestyles of confused alphabet-soup people as a normal, acceptable thing. So many reasons this is a problem. Better to speak out and be alone, then be silent for the sinful comfort of others. This is a heavy issue I can go on and on with. Let us chat!
> A woman who is not 100% God made. I am not looking to be gay with some gender confused human. Not for me.
> You do not dress modestly in public. I know you are beautiful. You know it too! But if you enjoy showing off your body in public for others to enjoy too or you need affirmation that you are beautiful from guys left and right, then we may not be a match. The only guy you want to stare at you in public should be me.
> You think being in a non-mongomary relationship is okay.
> You think the world is flat.
> You think global warming is fake
> You think abortion is right for an "accidental/unwanted pregnancy." I can elaborate more, and if you got a story you willing to share, I am open to read/hear.
Wow, you made it this far? Still interested? I had a section for pet peeves and random bits, but wills ave those for later.
Then let us agree that whatever happens between us happens for however long. Do our own QAs, turn offs / dealbreakers, likes, wants, goals, etc, and see where that leads us. Let us make some memories, have some laughs, enjoy one another's company, and see how far we go.
- First Date
- I would just want to keep things simple between us. Go someplace for a coffee/soda and talk. Walk or sit someplace else afterwards. Head out for a meal (lunch/dinner) and keep on talking. Conversation is very important to me. No point to be all fancy or showing off. I am going to be me. Basically, as long as we talk, share stories, experiences, info, dreams. Am sure we can get to a lot of that.
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