Searching for My Soul Mate and Best Friend

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Looking For
A Marriage Partner
Church Name
Berean/Covenant Church
Church Attendance
Every week
Church Raised In
Do you drink?
1 or 2 on occasion
Willing to relocate?
Sure, why not
Marital Status
Do you have children?
Yes but they're grown
Do you want children?
Does Not Want Children
Education Level
Masters/Post Grad
My Profession
Retired Minister, Paralegal
music, concerts, hiking, walking at the mall, theater, concerts, travel
About Me
I want to find my Soulmate and get married.

Update: I just bought a new car, and I am ready to drive further in confidence!

The philosopher Lao Tzu said "The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." The thoughtful search for my sweetheart and best friend begins right here! I am thoughtfully seeking the magic that comes from romantic chemistry, attraction, genuine love, mutual respect, and honor!

Socrates said "The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.” My profile is straightforward and honest. It includes the great and less than great facts. I look exactly like my photos. If I look younger than my age, there are reasons: I must credit great products like men's hair color gel! Oh, You should see me without the hair color gel! Oh no, never mind! You shouldn't see me that way!

" Ïf you meet me and forget me you have lost nothing,
But if you meet Jesus Christ and forget Him, you have lost everything!"

My Christian Faith is very important to me. Yet I am a very normal fun loving guy with a great sense of humor. I still believe that spiritual things are far more important than anything else. But I am not a religious fundamentalist. My faith is deeply intellectual.

In our tragically damaged world, the subject of sex is greatly over emphasized! Because of this, many guys and ladies simply cannot see past the sexual attraction. Our damaged world has caused sex to be a cheap and temporary thrill that comes without any commitment. I am excited to share the experience of romantic magic, attraction, and falling in love, but I will see you as a genuine lady of value and not just a sex object.

Being educated means that I stuck it out through the academic process, time, and demands. It does not mean that I am well off financially. And it does not mean that I think that I am any better than anyone else. Because I am educated, I do enjoy intellectual conversation. I am creative, resourceful, conversant on many subjects, and a determined problem solver. Because of my education and faith, I generally find no need to curse or use the F word. In fact, many have found it hilarious when they hear my creative choice of alternative words! Lol!

I am a gentleman who treats my special lady as my Princess! At times, I will share with my Sweetheart sincere and carefully chosen romantic words, just for her! I am a comedian of sorts, so I find humor in almost everything! I enjoy and just having fun. Communication is key, so my special lady will never have to doubt my love for her! I strive to be a very good listener, because what she shares will always be very important to me!

Although I do not smoke. I use a Vape. My favorite flavor is Butterscotch Reserve Tobacco. Of course, a Vape is much safer than smoking and the smell is pleasant.

Presently, I am in retirement transition, so my income is not what it was during my active career. Because of divorce, my financial and career losses were significant. But I still enjoy life, spend some money, and find romantic elegance in creative ways. I still have very high taste, but now I must find creative ways to enjoy the same things in a less expensive way. If you are only interested in guys who are well off financially, just pass me up, okay? I want to be wanted for the quality guy that I am; my appearance, personality, sense of humor, and how I treat my special lady. Whether I’m wearing my favorite Hart Schaffner & Marx suit, or I am casual, I will always look my best for you! You will always be pleased to be seen with me.

Those who know me would say that I am charming, romantic, a good listener, treating you like a lady, and always providing exciting conversation. They would also tell you what I think of romantic love; that love is not real unless it is freely wanted and given. One cannot make another person want or love. When two people mutually want and freely give love to each other, it is magic! My friends would also tell you that I am a card! Lol! My exaggerated sense of humor is fun and exciting! At times, I will keep a poker face and bluff you completely! When the joke hits, it will cause uncontrollable laughter!

French Poet Paul Valery said, “Love is being stupid together.” And sometimes, to have romantic fun together, a couple in love must just "be stupid together" sometimes themselves into stupidity! Lol. Bruce Lee said "Romantic love is like a friendship caught on fire!" I believe that Sweethearts are also best friends, and their romantic love is like ä friendship caught on fire!"

If you become my Sweetheart, we will always have fun together! You can always count on me to listen, to help, to be your true Sweetheart & Best Friend, and even to laugh and to cry together!

I was married for twenty seven years, never expecting to be single again! During the ten plus years since, I have recovered from divorce, learned how to date again, and I have learned so much about the second time single life! I noticed that those who are single again actually have a vocabulary that is unique to the "single again lifestyle!" Without even knowing it, my language and vocabulary has also changed to a more exciting and refreshing way of communicating!

I was a college academic advisor who changed careers in midlife. For 21 years my sole career was in ministry. I was ordained by The Evangelical Free Church of America, and later transferred to The Berean/Covenant Church. I was a Christian Apologist with a demanding guest speaking schedule, radio talk shows, and campus debates. Presently I am semi retired. I do freelance Paralegal work, periodic guest speaking, and I also perform periodic weddings.

My favorite artists include: Atlantic Star, Chaka Khon, Earth Wind & Fire, Barry White, Bos Scaggs, Shalamar, Tavarez, Natalie Cole, Donna Summer, Simply Red, the BB&Q Band, GQ, LaZebra, Luther Vandross, George Benson, Phil Collins, The Doobie Brothers, Chicago, and many others! I also enjoy piano jazz, and coffeeshop music.

I also enjoy dancing, fine dining, shopping at the mall, reading, intellectual conversation, trail walking, sight seeing, travel, camping, and cookouts. I greatly enjoy the fall seasonal activities, and the holiday activities of Thanksgiving and Christmas.

FAMILY: I have a son who is an Executive Chef and a daughter who is a Certified Pet Groomer.

EDUCATION: My education and awards includes a Bachelor of Theology, Master of Arts, and an Honorary Doctorate: I studied Paralegal via Scott Community College.
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Listening to soft romantic music and talking, an elegant dinner, walking and holding hands
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