Author	Thread: Moral Dilemma
ChristAlone1122 View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 17 Jan, 2026 01:46 PM I have a friend who has been living with her boyfriend for 40 years, she is in her late 70's. In the last 10 years she became a Christian, but he has not. She started coming to church and eventually stopped coming because of pressure from other Christians to either leave her boyfriend or get married to him. He does not want to get married; she loves him, is financially dependent upon him, and doesn't want to leave him. What would you say to her? Am I wrong to stay friends with her? Post Reply
Cuzzie1 View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 4 Jun, 2026 01:37 AM 1Cor7 10-11..10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. Paul is speaking to the married. Sleeping with someone does not make you married otherwise there would be no sin of faunication and there would have been no concubines in the old testament. Everyone would have been considered married. The couple mentioned have not committed to marriage and he has no intention of doing it so they are not married and 1 Cor 7 10-11 does not apply to them. As far as marriage cert is concerned, marriages were registered in the church long before govt registration was brought into place. What it is , is a public sign of commitment before God. The fact that it is now also govt registered does not change that commitment before God because he looks at the heart reason for registration which is a public commitment....and it seems her man does not want to make that commitment. His intent is not to get married and make that commitment, therefore they are not married. My heart does go out to her, she is in a tough position but from a biblical perspective I don't think her living with him is right if they are still in a sexual relationship and not married. If its ok with you i will pray for them both, that God will guide her, give her wisdom and strength through this, and that God will draw him into salvation and a willingness to marry your friend. As far as remaining friends..pray about it and ask God for guidance, but for my 2c worth. I don't think there is a problem with remaining friends, you can still be friends with people and disagree on certain things. I Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 6 Jun, 2026 08:43 AM "Let's twist again like we did last summer. Let's twist again like we did last year." So, they aren't married on paper. So what? They are still one in flesh. (1 Corinthians 6:16) What does the Bible say? Deuteronomy 22:28-29 What does the Bible say? Exodus 22:16 What does the Bible say? 1 Corinthian 6:16 Do you want to invalidate the union between Adam and Eve? Excuses! Excuses! You like to say it doesn't count because they did not have this or that. You like to say their union does not count because they do not have this or that, but that is not what the scriptures say. Thus, you nullify the word of God. Much like Matthew 23:16, you say it doesn't count unless this or that. You replace God's teachings with other teachings. Moreover, in the U.S., they had what is called "Common Law Marriage". Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 6 Jun, 2026 08:54 AM Maybe nothing counts unless it is done on paper. Marriage does not count unless it is done on paper. Rape does not count if the rape has not been done on paper. Is that what you are trying to tell us, Cuzzie? Nothing counts unless it is done on paper. What does the Bible say about that? Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 6 Jun, 2026 10:51 AM When Tamar departed from Amnon (2 Samuel 13), Tamar remained unmarried. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 6 Jun, 2026 10:53 AM Tamar understood that she was one with Amnon. She did not go to another. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 6 Jun, 2026 11:00 AM The church has many moral dilemmas in not teaching what the Bible teaches. Most assuredly, churches teach anything else or anything goes. Churches do not do a good job ever of teaching the Bible. What Sunday school class goes through the book of Leviticus? Where are the moral teachings from the Bible in the church? They get replaced with replacement theology. Not ever does one stick to the scriptures. We replace the Bible with something else. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 6 Jun, 2026 11:04 AM 40 years together. WOW Most marriages never last that long. Why destroy the formula? Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 6 Jun, 2026 11:07 AM I pray that THE LORD will give Cuzzie1 wisdom. Along with that, let's pray for everyone's salvation. A good idea to pray for one's salvation. We all need to be saved. Post Reply

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