Guys are you struggling to get into a relationship?
Posted : 6 Oct, 2023 09:22 AM
Confidence and the gift of gab are certainly a big part of what will initially attract a women. Some men are born with it and some aren't. For those that aren't, learning how would be a worthy pursuit.
Women are hypergamist and rarely have any interest in broke men, so after the conversation begins if a woman doesn't see a future with you she will likely move on rather quickly so It also helps a great deal to bulk up on other things that women are looking for.
For the men who continue to have difficulty with their ability to speak with the opposite sex. It helps a great deal to work on himself in other ways, like losing weight, working out, wearing nice clothes and by all means try and project an air of confidence.
And absolutely do not be a pushover. Women want masculine men and put weak men into the friend zone and no amount of being nice to her will get you out of it.
I hate to say this but finding an "oldfashioned Christian" woman or any good women who are marriage material in this day and age is extremely difficult.
From the time they are little girls. Satan through the use feminism, TV, radio, music, and social media have convinced most women they don't need men and that their education, careers, and having unlimited fun are the most important things in life.
About the time women hit 30, their biological clock starts to catch up to them and they start thinking about finding a guy, getting married and having kids.
Unfortunately by that time all the partying and influence from feminism for them to focus on self gratification. Their standards for the type of man they want has become so unrealistic that 80% of men don't have a chance.
Many of these women want a man that meets the 666 standard. Over 6' tall, has a 6 pack and makes 6 figures. Of course most women aren't as unrealistic as that, but still over all have have unrealistic standards.
My brother you are looking for a needle in a haystack and even if you do find someone and get married the chances of staying married 50/50 as it is usually very profitable for women to divorce especially when children are involved.
Most men see marriage as a permanent covenant with God and most women don't. Sadly the laws are stacked heavily against men and divorce often times destroys the lives of men. And don't think that marrying a Christian women makes you exempt because Christian women divorce at the same rate or more than they do in the secular world.
Even though things look pretty bleak I understand the need for the love of a woman. First impression with a woman will make or break your chances of even getting a first date.
Despite what most women claim. How you look is critical. So make sure you are in very good physical shape by working out and building muscle along with a good hair style or if balding then keep what's left shaved off.
Women are very fashion conscious so wear nice name brand cloths and shoes. They also look at what you drive so a nice ride is also important.
I can't help you with this, but what you say and how you say it when you first meet woman is the most critical moment. She will make a split second decision based on your first words whether she will even consider a date with you.
I remember a study I recently read that said something to the effect that on average women have a list of 300 things they look for in a man and men have an average of 4.
I suggest you go on U tube and other places online and look at examples of how men approach women. But don't take advice from any women. You would think they would be experts, but women most of the time don't know what they want from one moment to the next.
And one last thing. Women aren't attracted to simp type man. They want a masculine man that knows what he wants. If you are to nice and simpy you will probably be put in the friend zone.
If you do get a date don't ask her what she wants to do. You be the one to plan the date. Most women don't want to go to burgerking so don't do something like that.
Don't assume you will automatically get a second date. You will be closely scrutinized by her and it will only take one little thing she finds icky about you and you will be put out to pasture.
The most successful men at dating are the ones who know how to manipulate women's emotions. Women aren't as interested in who you are as much as they are interested in how you make them feel. So knowing as much as you can about the psychology of women and learning how to put it to good use can make all the difference.
"Reference your own topics and posts about Women .
Insulting"
Many women are insulted at the drop of a hat and it doesn't matter how much truth is being told. It only matters whether she likes it or not.
"You're on a Ask women topic even."
I take you've never posted in the ask a man forum? Be honest.
Fear not! I have grow tired of your vacuous postings so I will be ignoring most if not all of them hence forth. I would imagine that's what most before me have already done.
So moonlight you're still stuck on deflecting with insults rather responding with an actual coherent comment. You're a credit to all westernized women.
How very Christian of you to lob more insults. Judging by all the Christian advice you give in the threads post one would think you might have learned something from them.
First off I want to say that everything I write about men and women, I write only as a general rule as there are always exceptions to the rule, but the exceptions do not make the rule. Also the Church is not an exception to the rule either as male & female nature is alive and well there along with all its associated problems.
Now let me also state that I think the most beautiful women are the ones that are in their God given roles at home raising children, keeping house, cooking for their husband's and in general making his life easier when he comes home from his hard day of labor.
Men are in their true element when they work hard to provide for their wives and children and also to provide protection not only from outside threats, but also to protect their wives and children from themselves.
I have mainly been writing about female nature because that is where most of the relationship problems stem from. The actual root cause is coming from Satan and his use of female nature to destroy marriages and the family along with causing many other societal issues such as the killing of innocent babies.
Men have also played a part in it by thinking women would do the right thing when given the same rights and freedoms that men have. Over many decades men have been convinced by Radio, TV and now social media that our job is to kowtow to female nature in order to keep women happy. "Happy wife happy life" or "it's cheaper to keep her" to name a few.
Women on the other hand started out being convinced that they should have equal rights, and they were then convinced they can do anything a man can do, and now they are being convinced they are better than men.
For those who have eyes to see it becomes plainly obvious women aren't equipped to take on the world like men. They aren't physically, mentally or emotionally fit to be leaders and go getters in the big bad world. God just didn't design them to be that way.
By allowing women out into the world at large without the filter of a man standing before her. They end up having to face things they weren't built to face and are now getting it all unfiltered. And contrary to what many would like people to believe. It's not making women better people, but has turned many into bitter, manipulative, promiscuous, abusive, gold diggers, and for some it has also turned them into baby killers.
What I have written so far is only part of what I have experienced personally and learned through observation. In my younger days I learned what I liked and didn't like in women. I used that knowledge and found a woman that fit what I was looking for. She wasn't a Christian but I was and by my example she became convinced that becoming a Christian was the right path and got saved which sealed the deal for me and we were soon married.
We had a long & fruitful marriage and I learned a lot more about female nature during that time. Unfortunately I learned an extremely ugly side of female nature during and after my divorce, the majority of which was related to the change of life women go through.
Most of what I learned I wasn't sure was unique to my situation so out of curiosity I did a lot of causal research and found my experiences were not unusual but in fact very common. I continued my casual research for many years and gained even more knowledge of female nature. I'm certainly no expert but far from being ignorant on the subject.
Sadly but not unsurprisingly I have received some push back from both a male and a female on what I have already written here in the forums. The typical reaction from a woman is to react emotionally rather than logically when something is said she doesn't like. In this case her response was to discount, deflect and try and insult men without offering anything resembling a substantive response.
On the other hand I would have expected a more reasoned response from a male but pretty much all I received from him were insults and absolutely nothing of substance. I believe the reason for that was he was trying to stick up for women because he perceived what I wrote as insulting to them.
I get it that what I'm writing about is going to rub some people the wrong way but from what I have seen and experienced nothing I have written is untrue. I'm also not putting it up here to insult anyone but to give people the benefit of my knowledge. How people react to it is on them.
I also admit to not reacting as well as I should to being insulted but it's something I'm working on. I'm a firm believer in controlling one's emotions and in that regard I'm a work in progress.
I will continue to add sporadic tidbits of information as the mood strikes. So love me or hate me I'm here for the duration (whatever that ends up being.)
