Searching for My Soul Mate and Best Friend

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Looking For
A Marriage Partner
Church Name
The Berean-Covenant Church
Church Attendance
Every week
Church Raised In
Do you drink?
1 or 2 on occasion
Willing to relocate?
Possibly, who knows
Marital Status
Do you have children?
Do you want children?
Does Not Want Children
Education Level
Masters/Post Grad
My Profession
Intellectual discussion, dining, hiking, camping, movies, music
About Me
The philosopher Lao Tzu said "The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." The thoughtful search for my sweetheart & best friend begins right here! I am thoughtfully seeking the magic that comes from romantic chemistry, attraction, genuine love, mutual respect, and honor!

Socrates said "The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.” My profile is straightforward and includes the great and less than great facts. I look exactly like my photos. These include my profile photo in which I am dressed formally for performing a wedding; and one photo of my colleague and I at one of many campus debates.

Ladies often say that I look younger than my age, but there are reasons: I must credit great products like men's hair color gel! Oh, You should see me without the hair color gel! Oh no, never mind! You shouldn't see me that way! Lol. I also inherited good genes from my mom and I was a consistent runner for over 25 years. Undoubtedly, I have benefited from regular exercise, health supplements, and eating healthy.

Being educated means that I stuck it out through the academic process and demands. It does not mean that I am well off financially. And it does not mean that I think that I am any better than anyone else. Because I am educated, I do enjoy intellectual conversation. I am creative, resourceful, conversant on many subjects, and a determined problem solver. Because of my education and my faith, I generally find no need to curse or use the F word. In fact, many have found it hilarious when they hear my creative choice of alternative words!

I am a gentleman who treats my special lady as my Princess! At times, I will share with my Sweetheart sincere and carefully chosen romantic words, just for her! I am a comedian of sorts, so I find humor in almost everything! I enjoy and just having fun. Communication is key, so my special lady will never have to doubt my love for her! I strive to be a very good listener, because what she shares will always be very important to me!

Presently, I am in retirement transition, so my income is not what it was during my active career. Because of divorce, my financial losses were significant. But I still enjoy life, spend some money, and find romantic elegance in creative ways. I still have very high taste, but now I must find creative ways to enjoy the same things in a less expensive way. If you are only interested in guys who are well off financially, just pass me up, okay? I want to be wanted for the quality guy that I am; my appearance, personality, sense of humor, and how I treat my special lady. Whether I’m wearing my favorite Hart Schaffner & Marx suit, or I am casual, I will always look my best for you! You will always be pleased to be seen with me.

Those who know me would say that I am charming, romantic, a good listener, treating you like a lady, and always a good partner in conversations. They would also tell you what I think of romantic love; that love is not real unless it is freely wanted and given. One cannot make another person want them or love them. When two people mutually want and freely give love to each other, it is almost magic! My friends would also tell you that I am a card! Lol! My exaggerated sense of humor is fun and exciting! At times, I will keep a poker face and bluff you completely! When the joke hits, it will cause uncontrollable laughter!

French Poet Paul Valery said, “Love is being stupid together.” And sometimes, to have romantic fun together, a couple in love must just "be stupid together" sometimes themselves into stupidity! Lol. Bruce Lee said "Romantic love is like a friendship caught on fire!" I believe that Sweethearts are also very best friends, and their romantic love is like "a friendship caught on fire!"

If you become my Sweetheart, we will always have fun together! You can always count on me to listen, to help, to be your true Sweetheart & Best Friend, and even to laugh and to cry together!

I was married for twenty seven years, never expecting to be single again! During the ten plus years since, I have recovered from divorce, learned how to date again, and I have learned so much about the second time single life! I noticed that those who are single again actually have a vocabulary that is unique to the "single again lifestyle!" Without even knowing it, my language and vocabulary has also changed to a more exciting and refreshing way of communicating!

For seven years I was a college academic advisor. In my primary career, I was a minister, ordained by The Evangelical Free Church of America. Presently I am ordained by The Berean/Covenent Church. My career was demanding. I was a Christian Apologist, or Professional Defender of the Christian faith - following the examples of Dr. Walter R. Martin, Dr. Ravi Zacharias, and Dr. William Lane Craig. I was an excellent public speaker with a demanding guest speaking schedule. For several years after I became semi retired, I was a part time sheriff's Department Bailiff. Presently, I do freelance paralegal work, perform occasional weddings, and periodic guest speaking.

Music is a very important part of my life. My favorite artists include: Atlantic Star, Chaka Khon, Earth Wind & Fire, Barry White, Bos Scaggs, Shalamar, Tavarez, Natalie Cole, Donna Summer, Simply Red, the BB&Q Band, GQ, LaZebra, Luther Vandross, George Benson, Phil Collins, The Doobie Brothers, Chicago, and many others! I also enjoy piano jazz, and coffeeshop music.

My favorite Christian bands include Petra, Degarmo & Key, Havan, Resurrection Band, The Sweet Comfort Band, and many more.

I also enjoy dancing, fine dining, shopping at the mall, reading, intellectual conversation, trail walking, sight seeing, travel, camping, and cookouts. My favorite season is the Fall at which time I greatly enjoy the bon fires, cook outs, hay rack rides, corn mazes, and seasonal activities. During the Thanksgiving and Christmas Season, I greatly enjoy The Festival of Trees, Christmas Dramas and Concerts, Shopping or just hanging out at the Malls

I have a son (34) who is an Executive Chef and a daughter (32) who is a Certified Pet Groomer.

My education and awards includes a Bachelor of Theology, Master of Arts, and an Honorary Doctorate:
Th.B., M.A. Apol., Litt.D. I have also studied Business Law at Black Hawk College and I studied Paralegal at Scott Community College.
First Date
Dinner, music and discussion to get to know each other; a romantic walk, or just a meeting at a coffee shop.
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