- Eye Color
- Body Type
- Hair Color
- Looking For
- A Marriage Partner
- Church Name
- Sooke Baptist
- Church Attendance
- Every week
- Church Raised In
- Do you drink?
- Willing to relocate?
- Possibly, who knows
- Marital Status
- Do you have children?
- Yes but not living at home
- Do you want children?
- Does Not Want Children
- Education Level
- 4 Yr College Degree
- My Profession
- Carpet and Upholstery Cleaner
- science, dancing, chess, movies, hiking/walking, swimming, scuba, marine biology, politics, social issues, evolution/creation
- About Me
Looks like I wrote a lot again. But hey, read it. If it jives with you, who knows. If it doesn't, well, that answers the question. If I don't see a connection, I'll tell you.
I’m a working man, self employed for 26yrs. The ex is long gone. I have lots of tp and sanitizer, and I know how to use it! The sanitizer! What were you thinking lol First girl I was interested in said “you’re different”. I was 14. I think all the women I’ve dated and my best friends would probably agree. I’m not the “normal” guy. I’m quite typical in many ways but just a little bit “off” enough to be different. I've a big heart, conscientious, and I think too much
At our age, I’m not looking to date the way I would when I was in my 20’s. I’m still a romantic, flowers, moonlight walks, dancing, dinners, etc but dating for 5 yrs just to see if we’re compatible? No. I think at this age we should know ourselves enough we can ask better questions and we know what are our Must Haves and Can’t Stands and our “I can put up with that”s.
I want to meet someone I’m physically passionate about but ALSO intellectually desire her company and conversation. Just talk normal. What would we talk about if we knew each other for 20yrs?
Same faith, morals, ministry, social interests and a passion for each other.
On this note, Faith, I trust and submit to Jesus as my Lord and saviour. Jesus is sufficient. I'm saved by His grace alone, not by any works. I can't do anything that will make Him love me more, and I can't do anything to make Him love me less. If we aren't on the same page here, the rest is mute.
I'm a nice guy, so I've been told many times. Lots of dating gurus tell me women aren't attracted to "nice" guys. Odd, I keep reading profiles how women are looking for a "nice guy". In weddings they use 1 Cor 13:
4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant. 5 It does not act disgracefully, it does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, does not keep an account of a wrong suffered, 6 it does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 it [b]keeps every confidence, it believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Now these "alpha" guys that women are so drawn to, are they this??
If you ask of me anything, if I am able, I'll probably do it. That's on me, I've a servant heart. BUT, its on YOU "what" you are asking of me.
That said, I’m not looking to be friend-zoned. I’m not looking for a platonic relationship in the long term. Looking for a wife, a helpmate, a companion, someone I simply like to be with. Also a passionate lover, but I also want to wait till marriage. Its old school, but I’ve learned the hard way, objectivity goes out the window if intimacy happens too soon. I’m confident we’ll be compatible in bed, or the kitchen, or the….well, you get the idea ( as Data would say, I’m fully functional, programmed in multiple techniques) but I want to know if we’ll be compatible in “life” before we start down that path.
Also, I am not that kind of guy that knows how to talk to women to get them “all excited and attracted”. That’s the guy that gets women into bed regularly. I ain’t him. You want to talk relationships, religions/faith, science, astronomy, politics, how to fix a toaster, cars, etc etc , great. I just never really learned that “art of attraction”. Some women want that, want the guy to give her those butterflies. Oh, I can flirt, just be careful if you get me started ;) lol
Ever watch a Kevin Costner movie where he says “I don’t know what to say. Tell me what to say!” I relate to that.
I’m also that guy that likes to fix things. If you tell me an issue my mind is churning out possible solutions. If you have a nail in your forehead and complaining about a headache… if you haven’t seen it, do a search, “Its not about the nail” or click here: https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg
Let me describe this a little better; I can be very utilitarian at times. Looking for someone who is my passion, 2nd to Christ. I think of you when I go to sleep and when I awake. When I drive by those “flowers for $5” stands I want to stop and get you some just because I know it will make you smile. When you’re ill I want to be there for you, bring you some soup or tissues or extra blanket, or something to brighten your spirit. Pick a place in the world where we both would like to travel, enjoying our time with each other. Go take some dance classes, or exercising, or walking on the Spit or the various trails. To make plans and goals together, choose a mission to serve. Its about living life…together. Its not all about just “fun”, its intermixed, there WILL be tough challenging times which will bring us closer together and we appreciate the fun more.
But honestly, I've lived alone for so long I don't know how it will work. You might have just come out of a long marriage, or been doing things your way for a long time too. We each have our routines. Life will change. Gonna take a lot of grace, a lot of humbleness, lot of changing on both sides, to weld two older lives together.
Movie references, Richard Gere’s proposal in Runaway Bride
Jame’s Garner’s reply to his children about staying with his sweetie in The Note Book
Passengers, the “life” they lived
Your’s Mine and Ours, the orig with Henry Fonda, as he explains relationships to his daughter as he’s taking his wife to the hospital
For you old schoolers, Archie and Edith’s relationship. (but I’m not quite like Archie 😉 ) But he sure loved her!
Many more examples.
Oh, I live on Vancouver Island in BC Canada. For a relationship to work, one of us would have to move. So see where the Lord leads.
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