Minnesota Nice - Passive Aggressive or Aggressively Passive, which are you?

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About Me
Call me a pragmatic optimist that believes embracing selective positive individuality is a quality that promotes knowledge, growth and the betterment of life and all its forms. Lives other than our own, this fragile environment we rely upon, global unity, families and ourselves benefit through sensible decision making.

At this time in my life, I find myself seeking companionship born from naturally flowing interaction with the right individual with whom each of us can share life experiences with. I find myself most attracted to women who are open and engaging, intelligent, moral, energetic and fit, opinionated, demure yet assertive, jocular and I lean towards those with dark eyes and hair; being the human lie detector that I am, honesty is a given. There are a great many other qualities that appeal too, but if one finds themselves having to ask for even basic information about an individual due to withholding, it becomes tiresome. It may not appear so, however, I do understand the necessity of privacy but seeing profiles with barely any content tends to make me look elsewhere. When I see profiles that state one of their personality traits as being humble, with the 'Appears on X members Favourite Lists' count at the bottom of the page it makes me laugh.

I hope I'm not the only one who has been lucky enough to know the freedom of expression one feels when the spark ignites between, once strangers who then grow with each other. It isn't as simple here as it is in the physical realm; but when strangers eyes are drawn to each other across a crowded room, followed by perhaps subtle body language drawing these once separate entities closer. These signals producing kinetic reactions sending electrical impulses back and forth within us, it's almost as though we are not separate rather one. With a belief that we are in control of our actions, we take the bold step towards that smile, that spirit, praying in our belief that we're making the right, sensible choice. We see each other more closely, conversation ensues enthralling one another; each sense, self, smell, touch, our sense of right and wrong all highly attuned interpreting what is before us, protecting our hearts and those of the ones we love. That spark is a sense too, meant to bring us closer to the one meant for each of us; trust in your instincts.

As to relationships, being the age I am these things grow slowly; getting to know each other a necessity for obvious reasons, comfort, compatibility and safety to say the least. On the 'getting to know each other topic'; fair warning to all, my motor vehicle features the same vanity plate displayed in plain sight on the rear bumper exactly like the one featured in the Seinfeld Season 6 Episode 21 - "The Fusilli Jerry". So if you're not comfortable with being seen with someone who is a self declared "ASSMAN", it's best you look to the next prospect.

The time has come for me to stop smoking and will change my profile accordingly, for too many years I have been doing this; I should count myself lucky that I haven't had any adverse health implications from this to date.

Alright, I've extinguished my last cigarette some time ago now; of the likely hundred times I've said to myself,"I'm quitting." It's gotten to the point where I'm as sick of saying,"I'm quitting" as I am tired of smoking. So the substituted cold turkey has served its purpose. My reason for stopping, I felt a small impact on my respiratory system. Although primarily, probably like others the large amount of tax I paid for the habit along with it being dirty ended up being the motivation to stop - praise Jebus.

For others considering putting the nails down; for the logical reason of knowing how long it had been since I had drawn my last toxic breath, now I'd tried at least half a dozen times to do the traditional new years resolution to stop unsuccessfully. On one other occasion I've stopped cold turkey for nine months, although I found myself shopping as a substitute. This time what seems to have worked so well, I aligned American 'Independence Day' July the 4th with my own independence from that insidious substance tobacco. Clearly no correlation between the two, but the ease of recalling 'Independence Day' is a double reinforcement of the positive choice of putting the habit behind me. If you are continuing to smoke and truly want to stop, make next 'Independence Day' the day you regain your independence... you won't forget it or regret it.

Aside from this, I've always attempted to lead as healthy a lifestyle as possible; rather than the marathon I use to do virtually every day, I now cycle semi-regularly ie I've got a set of small love handles for the first time in twenty years. If someone can tell me what compares to the feeling afterwards of smashing out a single or double marathon, I'd like to try it. Realistically, to find a companion who knows the benefit of a healthy lifestyle would offer common ground on which to start.

Currently and for a long time in Australia an unspoken evil has been permanently destroying relationships, I speak of domestic violence. For generations women and children in particular have suffered lethally devastating outcomes at the fist(or worse) and at times irrevocable psychological trauma as the result of partners and patriarchs with a lessened ability to communicate thoughts and feelings. Women, naturally as the more effective communicators in the family unit are often suffering under men who are coming to terms with the self realization of their own deficiencies. In some cases, men too attempt to weather a more dominant and controlling partner; but when this is the case, the more submissive male is more likely to self harm or lean towards substance abuse further compounding existing issues. In displaying the photograph of David Spade holding the placard, I don't mean to minimize the gruesome reality that is the anti-social epidemic that has recently been brought out of the shadows in this country; rather, to shine a search light into it.

In terms of my relationship history; a high percentage of the few romantic relationships I have pursued in my life I've been rejected. I had one true love I didn't act upon, due to the social stigma associated to the bond I know we had between each other. I hope that life affords you the generosity, growth, joy, love, regeneration and security I wanted for both of us... I once said to you that if anyone ever hurts you I would even the slate, I will forever stand by that. Never again will I wait so long to express the way I feel for someone I care so deeply for.

Not surprisingly and at times unconsciously, natural attraction to a prospective partner is the predisposed driver assisting us in selecting a suitable mate. In the strive for existence, this combines with basic conditions that better odds of stability. It isn't saying anything new, these basic needs for shelter/protection, provision and regeneration equally guide the choice. Intelligence, communication, teamwork and resilience being the cornerstones of humanity's successful span across our fragile home, coupling these unconscious and subconscious decisions, needs, traits and abilities cumulatively enhance the chance of a successful bond.

When I see individuals misquoting Gospel of Matthew in the New Testament, Matthew 5:27–28: "You heard it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery,’ but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman in order to covet her has already committed adultery with her in his heart". Yet in the Book of Genesis 9:7 “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” This is primarily a dating site, the most common obvious outcome of this is being that we multiply; the human/homo sapien population would be non-existent if we were to literally abide by this commonly misquoted and misinterpreted writing. Attraction is not only a completely natural driver within each of us, but a necessary one; now on the other hand, to be faithful in an ideally monogamous relationship is something that DOES warrant the literal interpretation of this writing.

I do not allow my profile to be seen when in the search for the right individual; only when above mentioned preconditions are met will I chance fate. Rather preferably I choose to wait for the individual to make themselves visible in their view of me; it's my belief that this action offers clearer body language that one can respond to in this blind environment. To the uninitiated, at the top of your own profile page are images of the profiles like myself, blindly albeit closely peering into your window into this dating world as are those in the 'Online Now & Match' pages. To those stipulating a certain age range or similarly unwilling to consider individuals who partake in smoking or even a very small amount of alcohol; you may be unaware these conditions you have put in place prevent those whom you are oddly publicly viewing multiple times from communicating with you; I wish you well in your pursuit, but, alas, it is not meant to be.

During the last relationship of any substantial length of time I was part of, my partner at the time was regrettably a heavy drinker. The warning signs were apparent from the get go, unfortunately I chose to ignore them but never again; therefore, I can't and won't allow myself to be partnered to an individual who consumes too much alcohol. Letting ones hair down once in a while is part of being human, but the continual consumption changes a treat into a habit. Aside from the obvious negative health implications, I speak from extended experience after being exposed to this as a child; it's not something I would like to either make another endure or settle for myself.

Ideally I'd like to be in a close relationship, where we are there for one another in mind and form; to me, a suitable partner will also know a partnership with the greater probability of sustaining itself benefits through a knowledge, acceptance and support of each other.

Tell me girls, do you get as many advances from locations such as the Philippines and Nigeria as I? That, from what I can tell are either asking you for money within a very short period of time or are in a very big hurry to get married with the goal of getting into your country to be divorced. In the case of Nigeria, poverty as the result of civil war post independence from the Commonwealth. Followed by successive military rulers one after the other for fifty odd years through successive coup d'état proclamations, coupled with poor education, corruption, international government and corporate pillaging being the driver behind this fight for survival. As to the Philippines, similar dynamic factors foremost almost 400 years of foreign military occupational rule beginning with the Spanish followed by the British for a shorter period and finally peace keeping American military forces stationed in U.S. Naval Base Subic Bay withdrawing after 47 years in 1992, leaving the people of the country decimated on all fronts.

I'm coming across a number of profiles of individuals that state their home city is located within their own country, however their home state and country of origin is listed as my own country. In doing this, this circumvents preferred account settings of the individuals user in allowing profiles from countries that fall outside preferential parameters set by a user of this service and artificially places these profiles within an individuals match list. There are a variety of reasons for this action, firstly for the reason detailed above; but I'm also beginning to see reason for this tactic in order to sidestep those within close proximity who they don't see as suitable courtiers.

I'll cut straight to my point; this may seem foreign to some, however, I have NO desire to be married; marriage only complicates things. I understand this is something others seek, but not me. You may be able to relate to what I'm about to say; I've been financially and emotionally burnt in a relationship before, this being said I'm very much guarded.

This is a very sensitive topic for me, as previously stated during the last interpersonal relationship of significance I was part of; not to impugn those of faith, however, the 'heavy drinker' I was wrongly associated with claimed she was(in her words)'a more traditional woman' and Christian. We began as childhood boyfriend/girlfriend, then after walking a separate paths in young and early adulthood our paths crossed to then belatedly forever go our own ways. After I put a roof over her head and wrongly placed the property under both names, not just my own, it was only a very short period until this individual made a financial claim against the 100% of capital I had invested. This is going to sound so very romantic, however, in courting after thorough vetting and co-signing an ironclad prenuptial agreement I MAY be open to living under the same roof, but NEVER without seeking the best legal guidance. It's my preference to maintain my own residence and yes I do understand the greater expense in upkeeping a second property, to me the benefit in always having one's own home to return to far outweighs the short sighted benefits of living under the same roof.

As to mini me's, I've spawned two miniature versions of myself; I do not wish to cocreate again. Males too have the sensation of our internal body clock counting down, maybe I experienced it early; for myself at least this goal has been achieved. On that front, to all of those out there I will you every success in your endeavor. All parents know the immediate and delayed joy, sleep deprivation, 24/7 workload and ever present worry that is parenthood.

Where I live is a bit of a ghetto, I'm pretty much surrounded by armed robbers, car thieves, drug dealers/users, stalkers and fraudsters each of both sexes and the dishonesty and inhuman behaviour that match their illegitimate occupations... you get the idea, quite a number of lay-abouts that think the world owes them a living. It's been these germs I live in amongst and their long list of commonly aligned associates and slam pigs that I do my best to avoid, who through their poor education and recognizable genetic features have given themselves away as fraudsters(detailed below) on the Plenty of Fish website and likely here too(my apologies to the legitimate singles on these websites, it's a shame we can't take something on face value when that's all we have to go by initially).

It is said that on the eve of the crucifixion of Jesus Christ, he spent the night among criminals in jail; I have to say, if he was here I doubt the crucifixion would have gone ahead. As the individuals I live amongst would have drugged the security detail, stolen the cross, crown of thorns and his apparel; it is said that Jesus loves criminals all the more, this may be why. A parishioner once said to me that church is full of sinners. My experience of it and certainly not all of them, but it seems more like a business networking opportunity riding on the back of salvation for sale, the only requirement being tithing and blind faith.

Some may question, living in a location such as this, why don't I move? This is my home town, I've moved away for a period but now I'm back; when I was young, I lived in a different suburb to where I am now and I always use to wonder why where I now live was in such a state. Quite obviously, the element as detailed above contribute greatly; their having no vested interest other than their want to maintain the status quo of an inhospitable image that turns real people off from wanting to settle here, rather their push to drive the law abiding people from their homes. Effectively maintaining a habitat that breeds and nutures criminality, nothing lasts forever. My push back against this element has been and is necessary to maintain order over the intimidation tactics, violence and rampant criminality my corner of my home state was/is subjected to on a daily basis. When I see order restored and those responsible for the disorder my fellow citizens have had to endure rightly reprimanded; perhaps then might I consider options available to me, but for now this is home. Some would say I'm lucky, in that I really don't have to work as I have secure housing and income for life, I feel much better when I do work though; not to mention the supplement it adds, making things easier to acquire and maintain in this expensive country.

As my profile states, I'm taking steps to get back to work; regrettably when the whole recent global pandemic began this coincided with my business shutting down on account of those I live in amongst. As my income stream couldn't sustain the incursion of these undesirables continuing to perpetrate their illegal acts upon my customer base. So after a hiatus from how I use to make my way in this world, but motivated no less in positive community driven goals; I find myself getting back to grass roots I established early in life and a form of work much easier on my body than my previous line of business, I'm surprisingly happy about the change.

Likes: A twisted sense of humour, Aung San Suu Kyi, badonkadonks, benevolence, biodiversity, Buddhism, Cadel Evans, chewable earlobes, cleanliness, Dave Chappelle, dawn, Formula 1, freedom, green space, Harvey Birdman, Heinrich Harrer, honesty, hot cross Nuns, innie bellybuttons, John Fitzgerald Kennedy, justice, karma, Kimi Räikkönen, La Tzoumaz, Levis Dark Denim boot cut 502 button fly jeans(The reason I like the button fly: you know that scene in the Farrelly Brothers film "There's Something About Mary" where Ben Stiller catches his bits in the zipper of his trousers. Well, I can relate very personally to that moment; thankfully for me not that severe, but still painful enough to never forget. It was mixed feelings when I saw that scene, tears of laughter from something a bit too close to home.), Michael King Snr & Jnr, Morehead - Kentucky, Oliver Stone, openness, not having to cook, passion(super kinky not just missionary), PEACE, Plucka Duck, street art, the New Zealand international cricket team(For such a small nation, New Zealand seems to have a sporting prowess that at least I'm envious of. Back in the eighties the men's team use to wear these light and dark and dark brown uniforms - I think these should be brought back with one modification, being there should be realistic screen printed poo stains on the rear quarters of each players trousers. I still don't think the Aussies could win against the Kiwis with an advantage like that.), the open road, the Perth Wildcats, the West Coast Eagles, Thor Heyerdah, the Tour de France & Vicky Pollard.

WARNING EXPLICIT CONTENT: If you can't see yourself getting your groove on to any of the following artists due to them being
'too heavy, soft, lame, old' well you've been warned...

Musical essentials for a contented, balanced time here: AC/DC, Alanis Morissette, Amon Tobin, Amy Winehouse, Andrea Bocelli, Ash Grunwald, Asian Dub Foundation, Astrud Gilberto, ATB, Audioslave, Avicii, Basement Jaxx, Bee Gees, Ben Harper & The Innocent Criminals, Beto Villares, Beyonce, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy, Bjork, Black Sabbath, Bing Crosby, Blondie, Blur, Boards of Canada, Bob Marley, Bobby McFerrin, Bobby Womack, Boston, Boler Mani, Brothers Johnson, Bruce Springsteen, Busta Rhymes, Cake, Cecilia Bartoli, Cherry Poppin' Daddies, City High, Colt Ford, Coolio, Cowboy Junkies, Creedance Clearwater Revival, Cream, Crowded House, Cypress Hill, Daft Punk, David Bowie, Dio, Dizzee Rascal, Drive-By Truckers, Dr. John The Night Tripper, Dropkick Murphys, Eagles, Eagles of Death Metal, Electric Six, Elvis Presley, Eminem, Empire of the Sun, End of Fashion, Eric Burdon, Eskimo Joe, Eurythmics, Everclear, Everlast, Faithless, Faker, Fatboy Slim, Fine Young Cannibals, Fleetwood Mac, Flobots, Flume, Flying Neutrinos, Foo Fighters, Frankie Goes to Hollywood, Frenzal Rhomb, Garbage, George Michael, Gerling, Goldfrapp, Gotye, Go West, George McCrae, Gnarls Barkley, Godsmack, Gomez, Gorillaz, Grinspoon, Guns'n Roses, Haddawy, Hall & Oates, Har Mar Superstar, Head East, Hilltop Hoods, Hoodoo Gurus, Iggy Pop, INXS, Jack Johnson, James Brown, Jet, Jimi Hendrix, Joe Cocker, Johnny Cash, Johnny Diesel & The Injectors, Jose Gonzalez, Journey, Kasey Chambers, Kate Miller-Heidke, Kelis, Kings of Leon, L7, La Bouche, Lady Gaga, Led Zeppelin, Leftfield, Les McCann, Little Birdy, Los Lobos, Los Pamperos, Louis Prima & Keely Smith, Luscious Jackson, Lynyrd Skynyrd, Machines of Loving Grace, Madonna, Margot Bingham, Massive Attack, Medicine, Mekon, Metallica, MGMT, Mickey Avalon, Miles Davis, Mirwais, Moby, Muddy Waters, Mudvayne, Muse, NERD, New Order, Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds, Nick Lowe, Nine Inch Nails, Nirvana, No Doubt, Oasis, Otis Redding, Pantera, Paul Kelly, Pavarotti, Pearl Jam, Perry Como, Placebo, Pnau, Primus, Prince, Q Lazzarus & Garvey, Queen, Queens of the Stoneage, Rage Against The Machine, Rammstein, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Regurgitator, Resin Dogs, Rick James, Rick Springfield, Rob Zombie, Roxette, Roy Oribson, Ryan Bingham & The Dead Horses, Salt'n'Pepper, Sambistas, Santana, Sarah Blasko, Schoolly D, Sepultura, Shawn Smith-Shield of Torns(Album), Shu-De, Silverchair, Slayer, Slipknot, Sonic Animation, SOULFLY, Soundgarden, Southern Culture on the Skids, Spiderbait, Spiller, Squirrel Nut Zippers, St. Germain, Steak, Stone Temple Pilots, Sugar Ray, System of a Down, Teenage Fanclub, The Beach Boys, The Bloodhound Gang, The Cannonball Adderley Quintet, The Chemical Brothers(The Dust Brothers), The Coasters, The Cure, The Darkness, The Doobie Brothers, The John Butler Trio, The Killers, The Offspring, The Presidents of The United States of America, The Prodigy, The Ramsey Louis Trio, The Rolling Stones, The Roots, The Sleepy Jackson, The Smashing Pumpkins, The Byrds, The White Stripes, Tjupurru, TLC, TONE-LOC, TOOL, Transvision Vamp, TV on the Radio, Underworld, Van Halen, Van Morrison, Vance Joy, Vince Giordano and The Nighthawks, War, Weezer, Whiskey Myers, White Zombie, Willie Nelson, Wolfmother, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Yothu Yindi, ZZ Top to name but a few.

Dislikes: I suppose it's different for each of us, however, in my case behaviours, habits, traits and features such as duplicity, excessive uninformed gambling(very dangerous), manipulation, ignorance, LAZINESS and let's not forget littering, as this this results in environmental catastrophes such as Atlantic/Indian/Pacific Ocean garbage patches. The NRA(National Rifle Association), nuclear power, Darren Lehmann(After an international match at the GABBA before his being appointed Australian coach, now wrongly appointed former Australian Cricket Team coach Lehmann; apart from being a CHEAT and disgracing the game. One night I was getting my groove on dancing the night away with some lovely ladies in the beer garden of Royal Exchange Hotel in Toowong when Darren Lehmann, out of jealousy, decided to throw fruit at me. Lehmann was pulled into line by, at that time a young newcomer to the team the now legendary ex-captain Michael Clarke; some folks adversely view public displays of affection for me it is public displays of manboobs that I find offensive.

Willing each of you brightness, fulfilment, safety and prosperity in the short time we each have here.


P.S - I am pessimistic as to the chance of successfully finding a suitable companion on this dating website, if one reads the terms and conditions carefully, you will see that the operators of the website retains the right to use defunct profiles for their purposes. So a great deal of the profiles that appear under your matches may be operational, although there is a high likelihood that the user behind the photo has rightly given up.

I've been on two other online dating websites prior to this with varying degrees of communication with other individuals sitting behind the profiles. Experience with this has left me dubious as to the how many profiles are active or honestly seeking.

This is the first time I have been on this dating website and I recognize a number of the faces in these profiles that have had the same picture of themselves(to which I am dubious of, one of a few reasons for my dislike of the human variety of Siluriformes) on other websites and now I am finding them here.

These so-called singles have had the same picture of themselves on their profiles for up to eight years and are still single. Likely Catfish but more likely something a great deal more concerning, namely a forum for criminal anonymity. This website appears to be just as fraught with issues(speaking as a male seeking female here), strangely in the "viewed me" area I am greeted with a photo of a female apparently looking at me to then when I check it once more and find the photo of the female has disappeared to show a default black shadowed male profile with blue background sitting where the female photo once was; this is an issue I encountered on the first dating website I utilized also.

Looking at Catholicism the religion I was born into, according to theologians, for each unforgiven venial sin for which I do not repent I am to spend seven years in purgatory. Not to mention mortal sins which warrant a lifetime in chains for a chance to get to heaven.

Are you aware masturbation is regarded as a mortal sin? That's right people you stroke it or rub one out and don't repent, well you won't know that pleasure for a lifetime if you've only done it just once. How many years are you looking at? If the gatekeepers abide strictly to the rules, I think I'll set the record.

I suppose only time will tell if this is going to be enough to have the moderators of this website ban me for bringing this to light. If this is the case, all I can say is to those genuinely seeking, I wish you well in your journey and safe passage.

One more thing, I use to work with a lady a very bubbly woman of Spanish heritage. A terrific conversationalist all sorts of topics came up, she use to ask me about what I think about the dating situation she was in and my interpretation of her partners possible thoughts or feelings, to which I use to oblige(in hindsight this has happened quite often when speaking with the girls). On one occasion we were speaking about body language; now this being a place where there is very little to go by when it comes to body language and I don't know what the statistics are here as to successful bonding. I'll say what I said to Miss X, for me at least I'm fairly blind to body language in dating situations which is only exacerbated in an environment such as this. You could be like the flight control crew atop an aircraft carrier, waving me in with the glow in the dark hand signals and I'd look behind me for the plane. About the most obvious signal here to clearly show interest would be to firstly 'look' at those that interest you and if the individual 'looks' back at you it's fairly clear there's a mutual interest; the 'favourited by' is also pretty clear as is this 'wink received', however this 'superlike' is just confusing. One hundred and twenty pages of 'matches' and every profile has this heart with and arrow through it, what the?

Here's to blue-balls in purgatory.
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