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HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 3 Jan, 2023 01:30 PM I started talking to this guy about a year and a half ago. We would talk but I noticed he never would ask questions about me and when I would ask questions about him, he would not answer or never go into depth about what I asked but we talked every day for like a year and a half. Recently, I expressed that I did like talking to him to which he was shocked and said Oh I thought you saw me as a friend. I told him why would I see you as a friend if we talk everyday and he flirted with me first. He said yes I did flirt with you first. Then later on, he said he never flirted with me I don't get it. Anyways, we had the same moral values. I did notice though that he was very critical of me saying I was serious, not open (hilarious!), and he wanted to come down from out of state to meet me to see if he "liked" me. We told each other that after meeting, we would be honest with each other. We met and would go out someplace for about 5 hrs for three days getting a meal or just walking around. We even gave each other gifts and he gave me something pertaining to the nickname he gave me. He did want to meet at a park at night which I thought was suspect but I did see him in the day. We barely talked and he was quiet literally 80% of the time. Two days after he flew back, I messaged him. Then I sent another message near Christmas. 10 days later, he responded and said sorry I couldn't reply sooner! And said hope you had a nice Christmas. Today, I sent one more message saying he owes me an explanation at least. What do you think this guy wanted? Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 3 Jan, 2023 08:52 PM It would be very difficult to pin down exactly “what this guy wanted” with such limited information. That will just have to be the big UN-reveal that remains hidden between the man’s ears. But after this much time, one would think whatever he wanted would have been made clear by now. Post Reply
Nightowlnw^ View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 3 Jan, 2023 11:49 PM Hard to say for sure. But being quiet during his visit sounds like he might be an introvert. The idea of being in a relationship appealed to him but he wasn't prepared for more than online messaging. Post Reply
Nightowlnw^ View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 3 Jan, 2023 11:49 PM Hard to say for sure. But being quiet during his visit sounds like he might be an introvert. The idea of being in a relationship appealed to him but he wasn't prepared for more than online messaging. Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 5 Jan, 2023 05:47 PM Good for you that you did not meet him at night. What was he thinking/motives/whatever?... Pretty difficult to ascertain what they may be. I would be hesitant to try to continue any kind of relationship with someone who was that closed about themselves unless it was in a ministering one. You lasted longer than i have in the same situation (genders reversed of course) as i find it too much work to continue trying to drag information and conversation out of someone that we are supposed to be building a relationship together with. You are right to expect an explanation. And probably a change in how he continues in the relationship or move on to someone who will be your equal. Post Reply

HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 6 Jan, 2023 05:27 PM Update: thank you guys for your answers. Also I meant to add two days after he flew back, I messaged him. He waited 10 days later and said sorry for the late reply. Then waited until today (days later again!) And he said sorry for the late reply and he said how did you know something unfortunate didn't happen to me? He never explains and keeps going away instead of explaining and talking. Post Reply
FDCWillard^ View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 6 Jan, 2023 08:58 PM When woman do it it's "mysterious" when a guy does it he probably is looking for a side-chick. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 7 Jan, 2023 08:29 AM Online dating is not for everyone! Although thousands on sites . Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 9 Jan, 2023 07:32 AM HaxelEyesSparkle, please beware of anyone wanting a relationship with you who refuses to answer causal questions. Some people just don’t like answering questions and they appeal to shallow excuses like being a “private person” as a cover. No one is arguing for gushing intimacy but refusing to share even common knowledge with a perspective date is disturbing Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	What do you think this guy wanted? Posted : 9 Jan, 2023 08:04 AM I should add a footnote. Obviously my comments are based on limited information and perspective Post Reply