You didn't answer the question and of course that's your choice. But evading the question doesn't change the fact that husbands are expected to protect their wives and children and are willing to do that at the drop of a hat, even to the point of sacrificing his own life.
It's funny that you brought up women not being children and of course when a woman turns 18 she is considered an adult. But most adult women do very childish things, and because of that need to be protected from their childish actions.
Spiritually in God's eyes men & women are equal. On the earth we are not equal and God put men over women for good reason. Women are far more prone to making rash decisions due to their emotional instability and proof of that is plain to see when one looks objectively at how women are acting in this modern world and the more perceived freedoms they get, the more they put themselves in bondage to worldly things.
Once a woman becomes attached to a man she is under the protection of that man. Claiming she can wear, go or hang out with whoever or otherwise do whatever she wants is a worldly mindset, not a Godly one.
Weird questions. I think, we need to study the person we are about to marry, and if we notice that he or she dresses a certain way or has questionable friends, then we should address that before marriage. After marriage, you should know her style, her friends, her favorite places, favorite stores, hobbies, etc. There shouldn't be huge surprises, you know.
That said, if her behavior changes suddenly, and she starts hanging out with different friends, starts wearing different clothes, etc, then that should be addressed. You need to talk about each other, about how you think, how you believe, how your views are evolving. If you never talk, then surprises can happen.
I am not the same person I was at age 11. I have changed a lot in beliefs and behavior. And I am 42 right now, but I will be a different person at age 73. So, we all evolve and go through changes. But if someone is married, it's important to talk about how we are changing and keep each other updated and involved in the process so we don't grow apart but grow together.
That way you don't even have to ask these questions whether a wife should be allowed to wear whatever clothes she wants. I mean this is assuming that you don't like her clothes. If I was married and I didn't like her clothes, I would tell her which clothes I like most and which look good on her in my opinion. I would let her know which ones look great on her. But the question assumes that a husband and wife are in some sort of a controlling-servant relationship. That's not how an ideal marriage looks like. Some marriages are like that. But ideally, you shouldn't have to ask if it's okay to allow a wife to whatever... In an ideal marriage, she should be allowed to do whatever she wants to do. Don't worry, she is not going to do anything crazy. Just let her live.
