Hello sisters. I'd like some answers to this question that has bothered me for some time because it causes me to be confused about the dating process...
Why SHOULD MEN PURSUE if it's up to the Lady to choose the man she wants?
Why not just the ladies choose the man by messaging him, and the guy pursue her from that point after? What say you? (and yes I already know the biblical example of Christ pursuing his bride, but online dating is tooootally different and coupled with our feministic culture, it sets up a double-work effort for most men; the cuties have it easy)
I think a Solution for MOST MEN & WOMEN ONLINE (who happen to be average) is to break off the dating sites and go back to OLD FASHIONED Meeting and Greeting. AT least your chances of success are far better and your competition is FAR LESS and MORE Realistic. 2 things I've noticed about Online Dating: 1.) Average Men work twice -if not three times as hard to connect with a lady;
2.) Women are twice as proud and 2x less humble. (yes, the inflated ego/pride thing, though they may not see it because like the goldfish that doesn't know its breathing in water, women don't know the changes the internet has made on them since they just go with the flow of things). The above observations is why we have MGTOW "Men Going Their Own Way" & Passport Bros in secular America. One big thing feminism has accomplished: it made women more unhappy/ bitter/ depressed and its' frustrated Men. How can us Men and Women change the culture to a MORE positive and vibrant one where people aren't trapped in the Matrix of the INTERNET ? Perhaps you can Break all your devices and go back to old style living (as those who did in the 1950's-1980's). Meet Women in person and ask for her phone number and address and write her letters. And phone call her on a flip phone or see if you can get back the old fashioned telephone service again.
I think after 15 years of Cyber Dating (aka, online dating) and the internet age, more and more women are becoming dependent on the dopamine rush (hit) of validation from guys. Because women are given more to literacy-porn while men are given to visual (video porn). Internet, Cyber validation to women and cyber sex to men.
See that? Can you see how we Christians have jumped into a snare of the devil (with allll the hundreds and thousands of choices of people to be pleased (worshiped) by?
Moonlight: Go dutch at first. That way there's no pressure, unreasonable expectations or unmet expectations. Then after both like each other and desire to spend more time together, then it's fine if he pays. If she wants to pay, she can offer to. And that's fine. You two should view each other and "brother & sister" in the Lord. Don't make money an issue. Don't keep long tabs either. Speak up if you want certain things done or have certain expectations.
This is for the guys. The video has a carnal attitude towards online dating, but I think it has a lot of truth in it. Also, since I don’t know if any Christian videos on the topic, I share this.
If the internet is the problem (as people are constantly exposed to thousands of images per day, then consider handing over your devices to someone you trust to hold on to them, and take a long-term or permanent vacation from it. Addictions don't have to be just this in the video, it can be SUGARY drinks, COFFEE or Energy Drinks (stimulants), foods binging, TV or Video binging, etc. It can be work too. All idols need to be repented of (Commandment #1 of the 10). Blessings to you all.
Lieberkim if a man's not interested in pursuing you it's because he doesn't see you as worth pursuing.
Trying to date the the modern " independent woman " has changed the way most men see women. If a man pursues a woman in this day and age he sets himself up for the potential of losing his job and or having his reputation destroyed and possibly end up in jail all because he let a woman know he found her attractive.
Women also have the power to destroy their husbands and tear apart their familys for no good reason. So it's no surprise when a man doesn't pursue women.
