Hello sisters. I'd like some answers to this question that has bothered me for some time because it causes me to be confused about the dating process...
Why SHOULD MEN PURSUE if it's up to the Lady to choose the man she wants?
Why not just the ladies choose the man by messaging him, and the guy pursue her from that point after? What say you? (and yes I already know the biblical example of Christ pursuing his bride, but online dating is tooootally different and coupled with our feministic culture, it sets up a double-work effort for most men; the cuties have it easy)
It is the hanckerchief principle. Back in the day women would drop their hanckerchief when passing the man they would want to approach them. The man would be the hero, returning the dropped hanckerchief and it would open up a conversation with the woman. Still the woman did all the selection.
Online: The women should hint in an obvious way (in words) that the man is welcome to pursue her.
I do this. I normally message men I find interesting telling them I noticed their profile, liked it and that I would be interested in talking to them and open to them inviting me out. This is a great way to avoid confusion.
True. The thing is is that Socialist/Communists moved quickly in the USA (the WEST) 1800's and started to deconstruct the Christian Culture that the Mayflower Christian Pilgrims brought, and by the turn of the 20th century (year 1900), Feminism kicked in full gear starting with the suffragettes (thus accomplishing the breaking off of the WIFE from her husband by way of allowing her to VOTE her mind. The goal was to destroy the Man while elevating the Woman to ultra-human (aka, angel status). Men are a drop in a bucket, irreplaceable and virtually useless according to the mindset of our culture. Androgyny was Satan's goal and he's reached it (with the exception of those remnant who haven't drank the feminist Koolaid poison). Women have double benefit from Men while Men work twice as hard to provide what the culture requires in order to sustain its feminist view.
Solution: Return back to what Scripture says. Otherwise, if ladies want equality, then they ought to initiate messages just like men do and start pursuing men too. Double-standard culture isn't bright, even online. What say you?
What a stupid thing to be fighting over.... it's not rocket science. If a woman wants a man to pursue her she tells him she's interested... if he is also interested then he pursues until one of them loses interest and tells the other.... how difficult exactly is it to act like a grownup about grownup things?
There are no "rules" anymore, realize this. It's now a nasty freeforall where currently woman have all the social power but refuse to actually use it unless they are angry..... this is not a teenage girls fantasy where "the one" man will at the right time say the right thing and everyone will live happily ever after.... this is real life. Similarly "the one" woman will not just start to plot to ceaselessly nab the man.
These things happen basically ONLY in fiction which is sad because it would have been nice to have a gorgeous but not crazy or old heiress stalk me and randomly be naked when I least expect it forcing a shotgun wedding.... or something like that.
Everyone keeps expecting to rationalize the current disaster of a culture.... that's stupid, there is nothing rational about anything anymore. Right now generally only those of high marketplace value actually get into long term relationships, the stability that existed to get most people married by a certain age is GONE. And I hate to break it to you dear reader but if you have been on this site for years without success.... you probably are of low marketplace value either inherently or you are doing something wrong.... if only by living in the middle of nowhere.
Even in the "good old days" (and you can actually do this now if you are not ashamed of it and have the capability) the only way to get a woman to move to the middle of nowhere and marry a man was for him to PAY for her to do so as well as provide her with something better than she currently had. The only way for a woman to marry a man without him doing the pursuing is by him drawing her with something she cannot get on her own.... you are either tasty or you are not.
Men pursue rewards they can actually achieve without too much risk.... if a woman is too risky or not rewarding enough she won't be pursued..... simple. If a man thinks that he will most likely be rejected he wont bother.... and by a certain age of little or no success something dies in a man and he stops trying leaving it up to a woman to coax that thing back into life.
I fail to see how anyone can actually honestly not get any of this it's basic human behaviour and frailty.
