This is the obvious mistake people make.... they make their selection of potential partners based on what they want without taking into account what potential partners would want in them.
Just because you are not looking for someone to make children with does not mean someone considering you won't be.... the reverse also being true.
The sad fact is in general men seek woman who can enrich their lives with sex, a well run home and children... whether the woman want this or not is utterly irrelevant to what men want.
Conversely in general woman seek men who can enrich their lives with children, stability and status..... whether men are interested in any of this or not is utterly irrelevant to what woman want.
The only point of intersection here in general (not every single individual) is children. From a very practical point of view the only thing woman have to offer men past a certain age is a roommate and nurse.... and that you can get a dog or a paid nurse for considering the money you will be spending on a wife anyway.
It's a game where if you don't win early.... your chances of winning again are slimmer by the year. Men on the other hand have no chance if they cannot give woman what they want no matter their age unless they settle for someone desperate which causes it's own kind of soap opera drama if only because the woman once caught turns resentful and starts immitating a witch of some kind or simply ruins his life out of sheer selfishness and spite.
This is the general trend however, some woman are very much worthy of praise but increasingly they are the exception not the rule. Men on the other hand are a confused frustrated mess as a demographic because of the brave new world they forced to live in where only the unscrupulous gets what they want it seems.... 10 percent of men attracting 90 percent of woman.
That will just shift the burden not change anything.
The only reason online dating even exists is that apart from it's use for promiscuity it's the last method a lot of people have left in the modern world for social interaction with the opposite sex.
It's a solution to a problem, not a problem in itself. It's a symptom not a cause. The only way to fix this imbalance is for people to start speaking the truth to the deluded about the real nature of the sexes instead of feeding the currently socially acceptable fantasies.
Woman are natural orthodoxy enforcers, they never create new orthodoxies. The current feminist orthodoxy ironically was invented by men for the benefit of their political long term goals... woman just think that it was woman that did it because it feeds their ego's but the current generation only believes all the nonsense it does because of revolutionary activity that brainwashed the past generations with beautiful lies.
The problem is even conservative woman are infected with extremist feminist ideologies like woman must never under any circumstance let men make the rules for woman..... but it's perfectly fine in their eyes for woman to make the rules for men. A lot of the time it's so subtle no one notices until it goes wrong and someone loses and eye.
Ironically the only cure for a majority of woman afflicted this way is to get married and get children forcing them into reality which works like a massive spanking that resets their brains to default settings. You see this constantly, in youth a radical feminist and when the drivel starts to negatively affect her children suddenly its a massive crisis.
What a stupid thing to be fighting over.... it's not rocket science. If a woman wants a man to pursue her she tells him she's interested... if he is also interested then he pursues until one of them loses interest and tells the other.... how difficult exactly is it to act like a grownup about grownup things?
There are no "rules" anymore, realize this. It's now a nasty freeforall where currently woman have all the social power but refuse to actually use it unless they are angry..... this is not a teenage girls fantasy where "the one" man will at the right time say the right thing and everyone will live happily ever after.... this is real life. Similarly "the one" woman will not just start to plot to ceaselessly nab the man.
These things happen basically ONLY in fiction which is sad because it would have been nice to have a gorgeous but not crazy or old heiress stalk me and randomly be naked when I least expect it forcing a shotgun wedding.... or something like that.
Everyone keeps expecting to rationalize the current disaster of a culture.... that's stupid, there is nothing rational about anything anymore. Right now generally only those of high marketplace value actually get into long term relationships, the stability that existed to get most people married by a certain age is GONE. And I hate to break it to you dear reader but if you have been on this site for years without success.... you probably are of low marketplace value either inherently or you are doing something wrong.... if only by living in the middle of nowhere.
Even in the "good old days" (and you can actually do this now if you are not ashamed of it and have the capability) the only way to get a woman to move to the middle of nowhere and marry a man was for him to PAY for her to do so as well as provide her with something better than she currently had. The only way for a woman to marry a man without him doing the pursuing is by him drawing her with something she cannot get on her own.... you are either tasty or you are not.
Men pursue rewards they can actually achieve without too much risk.... if a woman is too risky or not rewarding enough she won't be pursued..... simple. If a man thinks that he will most likely be rejected he wont bother.... and by a certain age of little or no success something dies in a man and he stops trying leaving it up to a woman to coax that thing back into life.
I fail to see how anyone can actually honestly not get any of this it's basic human behaviour and frailty.
This is hardly rocket science, if a woman past the age of 30 still is not married she either has made long term strategic mistakes on that front, has something wrong with her that repels men... or she simply has been too picky.
Average it not this particular individual is very much not unattractive and most likely has always had men actively pursuing her.
Looking at past threads if taken at face value she suffers from Llittle Disney Princess syndrome where she expects some kind of Prince Charming to come rescue her or "the One"tm to find and court her very little effort on her part.
No one can tell you what's wrong with you or what you have done or are doing wrong, this is something that needs introspection and brutal self honesty. At the same time there is the modern phenomenon of "white woman syndrome" driven by priviliged liberalist ideas where you have oversensitive creatures who only see the world in terms of victimization. Part of this is the baffilng phenomenon of attractive woman calling themselves ugly or fat or whatever other insult they can throw at themselves and it's stupid.
A lot of this is because they foolishly listen to bitter, spiteful narcissistic woman who tear other woman down all the time.... men don't care half as much about the things woman beat themselves with as woman do. It's no wonder these woman become neurotic bundles of "oh poor me" self hatred.
The hard truth is especially in the modern Western world with men increasingly terrified of taking the initiative it's up to woman to take their romantic lives into their own hands and stop insulting themselves. We all wish this was the old world but it is not anymore. This calls for two things not natural to woman, the courage to learn to gently approach men to let even the thickest know you have interest and learning to take the rejection that comes from that. Half the problem is woman don't approach men because of fear of rejection, they want the men to take all the risks and then magically find someone perfect without pain.... this is the way a child thinks not an adult.
But of course this is while I am assuming these threads are not merely narcissistic cries for attention and actual cries for help. At the same time yes a lot of men on this site are bitter failures that need someone to convince them they can be better because they just don't really believe that anymore, and others try to blame woman for everything including their own weakness because they cannot bear to admit they fought the world and the world won.
We are all broken in some way or we would not be here.
There is one very broad rule of thumb, a man devides his age by 2 and adds 7 which give the minimum age of a woman with who a relationship will work. For a woman you merely reverse the calculation by subtracting 7 and multiplying by 2 to get the best maximum in age for a man with who a relationship will work.
Any coupling with a woman the same age or older than the man has a higher risk of failure the higher the difference.
