[I like doing things that people who are alive do and will convey this in a single sentence profile]
[something else vapid]
Especially of there is not 10 photos of you looking aesthetically appealing (making it obvious what kind of response you are primarily after).... what kind of response do you actually expect to attract like this?
There is nothing in these profiles that gives any man any reason to contact any of you whatsoever.... except for a handful of really impressive woman who unfortunately are so far away from me it would never work out which annoys me.... everything nice is out of reach... but that's besides the point.
What's the point of putting yourself on display only to hide yourself? God won't do every single thing for you, you have to at least put in minimal effort.... am I wrong?
Any (almost) woman can get a man.... just show up naked and someone will grab you out of oppertunism. What kind of man do you actually want to attract?
If you don't date to marry, you are either playing a game or being emotionally promiscuous. Sure no unless a man is attracted to a woman physically he won't care what's in the profile.... But if there is almost nothing in the profile why would he bother to contact her unless he's just looking for something physical. Most men don't use dating sites for anything not in some way connected to carnality.... There are other places for men to find friends if that is what they want.
You are basically explaining why online dating is a waste of time, woman don't treat it seriously and men don't treat it honestly.
At this point after all these years if nothing happens soon I am just going to stop even trying. I'm basically done trying. I'm tired of children pretending to be grownups and and selfish fools using others for fantasy fulfillment, this isn't fun for me it's a frustration and I have no interest in being anyone's entertainment. Insanity is repeating something constantly and expecting different results.
It's better being alone than being someone's dog doing tricks for them so that they can call you a good boy. I'm just too tired of all the nonsense.
I can't speak for men's profiles but I do whole heartedly agree about the lack of information in women's profiles. And yes it's very lazy of them but I put a lot of the blame for that on the multitude of men that message these vapid women. All that does is boost theses women's egos to the point where they believe they're Gods gift to men.
Men have got to step back and stop being desperate simps to women. What most men fail to grasp is that most women beginning in the sixty's stopped caring about what men want and started focusing only on themselves and their carnal needs.
Gone are the days when a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolate was seen as attractive to women. Nowadays men who put women on pedestal are seen as weak and unattractive by women. Oh sure some will say otherwise but then turn around and run to the men who are bad boys that treat them like dirt.
Since I have been on this site I have never sent a message to a woman first. IF I see a woman's profile that has enough information that shows possible compatibility then I will message first, otherwise they get bupkis.
I whole-heartedly agree with the frustration. You guys only see the womenās profiles, obviously. I assure you that it goes the same way with the menās profiles that I encounter. Not just here, but also on other dating sites. Vast Number of Profiles: 1 photo in the gym, if a photo is there at all. Interests: āAsk me.ā (Really, guy? Youāre gonna make me do ALL the work in this relationship? Sorry. Nope. Thatās exhausting, and a waste of my time.)
But, in the midst of this shallow wasteland appears the occasional real guy who is willing to put in the effort, to give us women Something to go by. Granted, those things might not be what Iām looking forā but isnāt that the point? To help us all, men and women, to find our way through the crowds, to our kind of people, so we can narrow it down from there?
From my perspective, Iāve begun to realize that most of the men (the 1/3 that arenāt bots or scammers) who contact me are doing so based solely on my photo. Again, I speak of all dating sites. My first response has been: āThank you for reaching out. Have you read my profile yet?ā After which, I often donāt hear from them again.š¤·āāļø
So, why are almost all profiles so lazy? All I can conclude is that these people are really, really poor communicators , not serious, way too shallow, way too confident that all should flock to them based on whatever crumbs they offer, or truly just lazy. All of which say to me, āMove right on by.ā
All that said, DONāT GIVE UP! God can guide us to our people, whether on the web or in the grocery store. If weāre His kids, Heās got this. Sincerelyā Marti
Who cares whether a profile is short or long? Some are well-worded with few words. Some are well-worded with many. But the more one says, the more revealed and it is not good that all that information is out there. So, it is one's personal prerogative. I do not expect much content, but short or long, I choose to read the profiles. I am happiest with the one's that post an age range that excludes me. That saves me a lot of time. I am happiest with them.
For me less is more when it comes to profiles. I just need enough information to know whether Iād like to have a conversation. There has to be a balance I donāt want no information but I also donāt want to read an autobiography ājust sayingāā¦:-)
