As someone who is over "there," right now I can say that, spiritually, I have no issues doing what I do.
90% of it what I do is in support role this time 'round.
During my last deployment, I had to test my metal a few times. Though I still often wonder if I could have had a different outcome if I did things differently I dont feel that what I did was wrong.
Some things, despite them being right or wrong, will leave you with questions of "what if this didnt happen? Why did this happen?" It makes the choices no less right and no less wrong.
I'm sure those Biblical soldiers who were sent in to clear entire cities of every living item had second thoughts before, during and especially after the fact. It didnt make what they did any less right.
There is no "red letter" (as used a few posts above) view on war. One should never confuses their own views on morality with doctrine issued to them, weather it is handed down by a boss or a government.
While over here fighting for whatever lame-braned idea it is that we are here for, the only time I've seen a soldier use force (despite what media would have you believe) was during a time of imminent threat to himself or those around him.
Granted, I dont see everything that happens, but I've seen enough and done enough to believe this is the case. Which brings me to the idea that doing one's duty in a professional, conservative manner is A-Ok.
At any rate I dont think I'm lying to myself when I say that I dont think that there are any negative Biblical implications to doing what you gotta do when you gotta do it.
If it's not for you, it's not for you and dont sweat it.
While I think most of the people here (or at least the ones who use the forum) will be fast to hop up and say "Boy, I like the nice ones!I just cant seem to find them! Too bad youre not closer!"
It may be for more than the reasons that'll be stated such as "Worldly guys only want one thing, youre better than those girls, etc, etc," that some women have trouble attracting a guy.
That whole set of rules that women silently (or not so silently, some times) judge us guys by is just the same for women. It is a fairly level playing field, requiring no side to settle for what they dont want.
I've met plenty of nice girls who are are attractive and seem to have quite a bit going for them but they are just so boring. Not that "nice," and "boring," go hand in hand at all, but some people just need to learn to help carry a conversation; have some preferences, have some hobbies to talk about, have an opinion on SOMETHING. ANYTHING! From you not liking onions in your eggs to why the economy is how it is, just be willing to talk about it.
I have a TON of hobbies and I KNOW that there probably isnt a woman alive who is into ALL of them, let alone even knows anything about some of them. But because I love my hobbies, I can talk all day about 'em. What made me get into them, what's kept them interesting to me, where they are going in the world, if it was just a fad or not and why I feel they are more valuable to me than money.
Bottom line is there are a ton of reasons why a "nice," girl can fail to attract someone and I think the least powerful piece of the puzzle is that the world is rejecting their religion.
If there is a scripture that says that a Christian girl cant be flirty, fun, accepting, alluring, enticing, exciting, seeking or open minded, I havent found them. Of course, I guess that can all depend on youre view of the above list...
If there is a scripture that says that they have to be so nice they are door mats, I havent found that one either. In fact, there are plenty of examples in the Bible of (good) people who were opinionated, pushy, crude, sneaky and conniving.
There is, to my knowledge (Granted, I am a VERY fledgling Christian) nothing that states "Good Christian," = "boring."
Ok, all that stated, it could be the environment you choose to look for these guys in. If you are going to a honkey tonk bar dressed as a school house marm, it's unlikely that someone will talk to you. There are some things you should be selective on, of course.
I feel like I'm losing my point here. Yah, I think it's lost.
Back to the point: There's no reason to expect that because you are a Christian that you need to be less than anyone else out there. You dont need to sit there piously and wait for someone to fall into your lap. Life isnt the movies. If you are not finding what you want, look within yourself.
Are you happy with you? Would you date you? If so, why? If not, why not?
Are you too selective? Does that guy have too big of a nose and that guy have a funny last name and that guy has that one hair that sticks up and that guy talks funny and that guy has glasses and that guy's too skinny and that guy...
If you are someone you'd date...well...maybe it is the people around you.
