Would you or would you not marry a Filipina? Why yes or why not?
Posted : 12 Jun, 2012 02:32 AM
strikemaster, you are right about the problem in Australia.
There have been so many Aussie's taken to the cleaners via the way you have discribed.
Without going into details, I was offered a sum of money by someone from overseas to marry them, with the intention of getting a divorce after their permanent residency came through.
So it happens, and not just from the two countries that you previously mentioned either.
In all things, commit your plans to God in prayer.
So that I am on the same page as you, I just want to repeat what I think you are relating here.
Person [a] was in contact with person [j], who in the course of ongoing communications, expressed that their feelings had gone deeper than friendship. Person [a] did not reply in the way that person [j] was hoping/expecting, thereby causing person [j] to withdraw from continual communication. Due to this happening person [g] became the main focus of communication, and an ever deepening friendship ensued. Person [a] did not respond the way person [g] had expected, when person [g] also expressed their feelings for person [a]. So person [g] moved on, leaving person [a] to pick up the pieces of the broken friendship. Person [a] then re-contacted person [j], because they were hurt and they knew person [j] would listen to their plight. Now person [a] is in a quandary as to person [j], because person [j] has finally expressed how he [j] has felt all along.
Without wanting to take sides or sound mean or anything like that, can I say this.
Person [a] has a problem, much of their own making.
Person [a] should have resolved the issue with person [j] rather than sitting back and doing nothing, and adopting a wait and see policy.
Person [a] also took the same approach with person [g], and it bore disastrous results.
Person [a] is DEFINITELY on the rebound from the breakdown with person [g], and DESPITE what person [j] says, about [j]s feelings towards person [a], person [a] is too much emotional turmoil to make a accurate decision about pursuing person [j] at this time.
I would suggest, a break of a few months for [a] to try and sort them selves out a bit, by all means communicate this to person [j], but do not read the feelings [a] has for [j] now as being accurate or true love, they are re-bound feelings.
Person [a] needs to be wary of feelings that will end up causing more hurt in the long run.
I have been in this situation myself, and at that time, you can easily over look warning signs that you to take heed off.
So that I am on the same page as you, I just want to repeat what I think you are relating here.
Person [a] was in contact with person [j], who in the course of ongoing communications, expressed that their feelings had gone deeper than friendship. Person [a] did not reply in the way that person [j] was hoping/expecting, thereby causing person [j] to withdraw from continual communication. Due to this happening person [g] became the main focus of communication, and an ever deepening friendship ensued. Person [a] did not respond the way person [g] had expected, when person [g] also expressed their feelings for person [a]. So person [g] moved on, leaving person [a] to pick up the pieces of the broken friendship. Person [a] then re-contacted person [j], because they were hurt and they knew person [j] would listen to their plight. Now person [a] is in a quandary as to person [j], because person [j] has finally expressed how he [j] has felt all along.
Without wanting to take sides or sound mean or anything like that, can I say this.
Person [a] has a problem, much of their own making.
Person [a] should have resolved the issue with person [j] rather than sitting back and doing nothing, and adopting a wait and see policy.
Person [a] also took the same approach with person [g], and it bore disastrous results.
Person [a] is DEFINITELY on the rebound from the breakdown with person [g], and DESPITE what person [j] says, about [j]s feelings towards person [a], person [a] is too much emotional turmoil to make a accurate decision about pursuing person [j] at this time.
I would suggest, a break of a few months for [a] to try and sort them selves out a bit, by all means communicate this to person [j], but do not read the feelings [a] has for [j] now as being accurate or true love, they are re-bound feelings.
Person [a] needs to be wary of feelings that will end up causing more hurt in the long run.
I have been in this situation myself, and at that time, you can easily over look warning signs that you to take heed off.
Women in Bikini�s on a Christian Dating site was the post�s heading.
I have read every post listed in reply pertaining to this post.
This post was not a question as to the appropriateness of bikini photos. What it actually was personal attack by one member on another member. Which is a far more inappropriate and obscene thing to be posted, on any dating website, especially one purported to a Christian dating website.
The quoted text of 1 Timothy 2:9-10 in the original message of distain for said photo to the woman who posted the bikini shot, is an inappropriate use of the text, and it is totally taken out of the context it was written, to whom it was written, and about what subject it was addressing.
The fiery reply is then held up for public ridicule, and to bolster the inappropriateness of the profiles photos.
The real issue here, is not the photo�s and the publishing of both messages.
The real issue, is that an opinion was formed, a judgement made, an offence taken, followed by inappropriate action, all based on one persons view of another persons behaviour, on what is now the smaller issue.
The response taken, is clearly unscriptural, unsound assessment, and a form of grandstanding.
There are mechanisms in place to make official complaints about another persons profile and/or behaviour. These were not activate or used, so how can one avoid the conclusion that this is nothing but a �character assignation� of one member by another.
Which highlights a more concerning problem than bikini photos.
One reply mentioned Mark 9:47:
And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hellfire- NKJV
That does not work, plucking your eye out will not stop you lusting after a woman. I have a mate who has no eyes, they were both surgically removed years ago. There removal has not stopped him from struggling with the same issues as a sighted person.
2 Corinthians 10:5a is appropriate.
,bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.
It is not the looking that is the problem, for there will be times when we are unexpectedly exposed to inappropriate images, it is the second look and the dwelling on the images that causes the problem.
In John 8:3-11, the account of the adulterous woman.
It has been stated, that the reason Jesus stooped down to wrote on the ground, was she was brought before Him naked. So He took action to avert His eyes from her, at the same time defuse the situation, and teach a lesson.
