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cowgirl1984
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CuriousPosted : 19 Nov, 2011 12:45 PMNo matter how devoted you are to the Lord, I strongly believe you cannot have a happy marriage if you do not have other things in common. Regardless of whether it fails, it would not be happy. For example, if you are outdoorsy and want to live in the country but your spouse hates the outdoors and wants to live in the city, one of you has to sacrifice what you want. And while that might seem noble, it is impractical. If you don't want the same things in life, one or both will be miserable. Most likely both, because if your spouse is miserable, generally you will be also even if they don't mean to make you miserable over it. If you have no interests or activities in common, then you will either never spend any time together, which is bad, or one of you will be bored while participating in the other person's activity or at the very least hold them back, which is not fun for either of you, which leads to frustration and a lack of enjoying the activity, and that also is bad. I think you should have things that each of you enjoys and does separately, but you also need things you both enjoy doing or talking about in order to be able to spend enjoyable, quality time together. A relationship cannot grow otherwise. And if it's not growing, it's either wilting or stale, and no one wants that. Another point is that the healthiest marriages are where the spouses become each others best friends. You can't be best friends if you don't love spending time with each other. And to love spending time together, it's important that it's something you both enjoy. That way when the spark dies, and it ALWAYS does, though it can also always come back, you have your friendship to fall back on.
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Time clockPosted : 16 Nov, 2011 03:51 PM*But just LIKE IHeartDogs, not just IHeartDogs
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Time clockPosted : 16 Nov, 2011 03:50 PM1) No. I will never settle. Too many bad dating/relationship experiences to even consider settling now.
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Oh my gosh!Posted : 24 Oct, 2011 10:08 PMENF, that is so cool that you had a breakthrough/revelation in how you see Godly relationships :applause:
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Should I have handled this differently?Posted : 24 Oct, 2011 09:37 PMAlways go with your gut when it's telling you there's something off, because there probably is. I think you handled it fine. It's kind of interesting actually to see the shoe on the other foot. I didn't know this happened to men also. I always thought this only happened to women.
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Profile reviewPosted : 24 Oct, 2011 09:22 PMI agree with the previous posters. There is nothing wrong with your profile. And it looks like you have several pictures on there that show you very well, which is great. I'm not sure why you aren't getting a response. Maybe it is the message and not the profile? Certain types of messages get better responses than others certainly. What's an example message you send?
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3 types of RelationshipsPosted : 24 Oct, 2011 09:18 PMI'm not sure I 100% agree with what was said on the radio station. I mean, at least they allow for friendships as some of the really brutally strict Christian "experts" do not, haha. I think somewhere between friends and betrothal, there has to be something. I don't want to use the word "antiquated" for courting, because I don't think there's anything wrong with it, and "antiquated" does not always mean "not applicable" or "bad" or anything like that, and "modern" is not always better, but in many ways it is an antiquated concept and dating is not necessarily bad. I think Christian dating should be halfway between. As Christians, when we date, we should of course keep our hearts, minds, and bodies guarded. But at the same time, the population today is much MUCH higher than it used to be, so options aren't quite as limited as they were when people were actually still doing the courting thing. When options are limited, courting makes more sense. However, with such a high population, busy lifestyles, and most women working, it takes more time to get to know someone than it used to, and the first person you get to know might not be the right one. As far as I'm concerned, I need to know I like him BEFORE he starts coming around my family and my home!
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Does this bother anyone else as much as it does me?Posted : 10 Oct, 2011 08:59 PMI disabled the chat feature because it was bothersome to me as well.
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What do you say???Posted : 2 Oct, 2011 09:39 PMThanks for the advice everyone! It doesn't happen to me very often either, but when it does, it makes me uncomfortable when it's right there like that. I think part of my discomfort stems from some of the inappropriate comments that have been made to me about my body. Part of it too is it makes me wonder if they're talking to me because they're interested in what I have to say or if they skipped my profile and only cared about the pictures.
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Going nearly insane here...Posted : 2 Oct, 2011 12:54 AMA few things:
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