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luvinpray
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Talking to multiple women??Posted : 18 Oct, 2014 05:59 AMSorry I didn't respond back to this post. I have been quite busy with work and school.
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Talking to multiple women??Posted : 8 Aug, 2014 06:29 PMI have to agree with Hidden. Because while we were at dinner, she was texting, and he was and showing me what she wrote. So I think part of it is he does want her, but she doesn't want him. so this is partly a last ditch effort to get her jealous, but he is also curious and wanting to meet new girls. But also he told me a few days later that after I left from the restaurant he went home and she showed up at his house. That was after 9:30pm Idk He is also on dating sites that are not christian ones. Regardless I think I did the right thing by not hanging out with him anymore on a one on one basis.
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luvinpray
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Talking to multiple women??Posted : 7 Aug, 2014 03:47 PMGuys, I know this is online dating, so many of you might be talking to multiple women. But here is my situation. Sunday I met a guy at a singles church group. I had seen him before, but never talked to him until then. We chatted and I ended up having a bible study tuesday and he showed up. Well after the bible study he asked me if I wanted to get dinner with him. We went to a restaruant and ate, and he payed. He opened doors, and was very gentlemen like. Well Last night we went to dinner for a second time.
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luvinpray
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Interracial RelationshipsPosted : 26 Jul, 2014 05:41 PMI come from a family that part of my dads side is racist and ignorant. As a child, teen, I was not allowed to be attracted to black guys. Or date them as a teen. For some reason though I attract black men more then white men, though I am attracted to the person no matter their color.
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Dating after abuse??Posted : 16 Jan, 2014 04:32 PMThank you so much. I wanted to update ya'll on the situation. I decided not to date right now. But I still keep this website because I have found valuable friends and good conversation.
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Dating after abuse??Posted : 5 Nov, 2013 07:39 PMWow, thank you so much for your response. Def the words I needed. Well it is tricky because my ex husband was a preacher. So I still have hang ups with certain scriptures, preachers (if they have deep southern accents), etc. I think your right. I do need more time to just fall in love with the Lord, and let him heal every inch of the brokenness in my heart. I had a lot of brokenness caused by men, and I do not want to project that on to my Christian brothers, future dates, or future husband. I still struggle with my past because it was really traumatic, and still have nightmares. But God has already done miracles in my life, and I believe he will keep it doing them. I am actually really busy now with getting my life together as a single mom. I was too dependent on my ex, so I have had to learn how to work, pay bills, get my own place, and now I'm also in school. It is amazing to think how far I have come. So maybe like you said my "husband" God is still working on. Or maybe it's me God still needs to work on before we can find each other. I'm not terrified to be alone like I used to. But the feelings that come and go every couple of months of the desire to be loved, and have a family tug at me. And having a child, I wish that they had a good father figure in their life. But maybe I just need to have more faith, and show my child they can depend on God instead of man? Well thank you for your response. :)
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College Students?Posted : 5 Nov, 2013 06:53 PMMe!! :applause:
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Dating after abuse??Posted : 5 Nov, 2013 06:43 PMI have a question about dating after abuse? I have a long history with abusive guys, so when I finally realized something was wrong I stopped dating, ended up becoming a Christian, and really healing my life. I didn't date for about 2 years. My best friend and I decided to date because we felt a connection there. Well dating him just didn't feel right. I didn't feel like he was going to be the man I marry, so there was no reason to keep dating him. I valued his friendship way more then I did a boyfriend. So my question is what does healthy dating feel like? Do you still get all those feelings like butterflies, and little crush? Do you think maybe I just need more time to sort through how I feel? I guess I'm just confused about the whole Christian dating. It is so different then how I used to date. For one the men are different, they actually treat you with respect, and are kind to you. They value your opinions. But they take forever to ask girls out too. lol. So you have trouble knowing if they like you. Most of my past relationships were based on sex and abuse. Which I haven't been sexual now for two years, I wonder if that will change the chemistry and feelings towards a guy I date. I don't believe that Christians should be having sex, I've seen too much of the consquences of it, so I know I won't want that in my future relationships unless he puts a ring on it. Should I just stay single and not date until I figure out myself more? Or should I date as long as I can keep it healthy and pure? I missed a lot of the social interaction that most people have when they are younger. At 18 I got married, and was married till I was 27 to an abusive controlling man. So my social dating skills are lacking big time. lol. I still have a hard time getting to know a guy and trusting him. My best friend is the first guy I've let get so close to me, and it's been a year since we met. I've noticed as each year passes and I heal more, my self esteem grows and my wants in a relationship change. So maybe I just need to make more healthy male friend relationships?
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