Author	Thread: Looking for a friend
Admin	Looking for a friend Posted : 5 Jun, 2012 11:21 AM I have a question, if a person on this site, male or female, is only looking for a friend, and truly looking for a friend, why then would you put limits on who can message you. I myself am looking for a friend, someone I can just hang out with, go to the movies, eat, or just plain message back and forth on this site or face book and have someone to have a conversation with. Now I know what the obvious answer is going to be "Well if you spend time with one another then you may start to like one another and you may not meet the criteria set forth by the user. True enough, but thats only if you hang out personally. If you just have a verbal friendship then there is no harm in that. What we are basically saying is, if you smoke, drink, or you are to young or to old then we cant talk. This is just to funny to me, I see a lot of yes women that I would just like to talk to on this site because they seem pretty cool. Maybe I'm just to country to understand this lol . Make no mistake, I made this same mistake when I first joined and that is when it hit me, surely we can just say hi to each other and message each other especially if we say we are just looking for a friend. :dancingp: Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 5 Jun, 2012 08:20 PM Louisianna is a long ways from Nova Scotia, and I wouldn't be able to have dinner or go to a movie, or even write to you because of the limits you've put on your profile...But I'd talk to you anyway, brother! :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 04:41 AM Are you open to men? If not..that is a limit Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 05:09 AM Hey, I'll be your friend, or substitute "auntie," or whatever! We can't have too many Christian friends. But, we have little in common and can't meet for coffee. So, the ball is in your court! Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 05:09 AM Hey, I'll be your friend, or substitute "auntie," or whatever! We can't have too many Christian friends. But, we have little in common and can't meet for coffee. So, the ball is in your court! Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 09:51 AM good point. lol But no, not interested in men the way you mean it but always looking for a friend Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 09:53 AM I think the big question is, what do we mean when we say friend? Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 11:35 AM Could it be, that what your heart is really asking is... how do I become friends with a women that I would actually eventually want to work into a dating relationship? You need to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with her. Otherwise, you're both going into it pretending it is something else... she's looking for a guy friend that she can just be herself with (and women can do this, no attraction involved!), when all along he's wondering how long before he can get a kiss! Not a good scenerio for building trust. :rolleyes: Group settings are probably much better for building friendships with no pressures, until you both draw each other out. If that ever happens these day! :excited: Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 04:02 PM I would like to say most Christian women would want to be friends first with a man, whom they can not only talk with but share a meal or coffee or see a movie with in person. lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 07:32 PM I guess you are right after all this is a dating site so a person who is truly looking for friends/chat buddies is really at the wrong place and should stick to Facebook right. Lol. Thanks for all of your input all of you :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for a friend Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 08:22 PM I think there's something in what ExceedingJoy said, and it is one of the fundemental differences between men and women. To use the world's terms, women want to feel safe in a friendship first, and allow that relationship to develop into a lover. A man wants the excitement of lover to develop into friendship. Neither is wrong; in fact, it's probably a combination between the two. But, we were made that different! So, an all-knowing, all-loving God designed us this way on purpose, and said..."now go work things out". What do you suppose He's trying to teach us? I think it's not alot different than what He is trying to teach us about our relationship with Him... it's not a tug-of-war or my-way-or-the-highway ... it's about paying attention and listening to the heart! Women could explain a dozen differnt rules about how 'we all' want to be treated, but until you (not just you, OP) hear the heart of the woman you've befriended...it will be religion to you, not a relationship. If companionship without expectation is what you really want, then hear the heart of the woman who offers it, at the start and as the relationship grows. She may want only that, or she may expect that you are like every other man who has told her that but really meant something quite different, or... she may be hoping you mean something quite different! Whether you meet them here or FB or POF or at a BBQ! Blessings brother! Post Reply

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