Ok, the question is ladies does sex really not matter to you all after a while. Is it that you lose interest or we stop treating you right. I am speaking of course about sex within marriage.
Would enjoy hearing how you respond to the question. Obviously the male sex drive is much greater than the female but is it that big of a difference or are we just setting our selves up to fail.
I'm really sorry, but no one can answer this question for every woman. Each woman responds and reacts to different things. This is why communication is so important in relationships. If there is a problem in any area, one should be able to feel comfortable addressing it to the other.
I have to disagree with you. But politely. :winksmile:
I am waiting till I am married to have sex, so I can't speak for married women, but studies show that woman's sex drives increase as they get older, while men's decrease. I think it is a myth that men want sex more than women. I have the advantage of watching my friend's marriages and a good 5-6 of them wish they were having more sex. Often they are initiators who get rejected. And my friends are beautiful women!
I think that in reality everyone has their preference. There are men and women who don't want it as much, and men and women who would like it a whole lot more.
Back to where I feel more comfortable, the Bible clearly states that when I get married, my body will be my husbands, and his body will be mine. That it is dangerous to not come together, "Do not deprive one each other except by mutual consent....then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you." 1 Cor 7:5. I would make a joke that this is guy's favorite verse, but anyone who has chosen to get all their sexual needs met by their spouse and isn't, probably wishes more sermons brought it up.
Sex is a part of marriage, and it's important enough to take seriously and talk about before you get married. Because I can honestly say, if the "practically perfect in every way" man came along and said he only wanted sex 1-2 a week, it would be a dealbreaker for me.
Thanks ladies for your response. In my marriage my wife had been sexually active before meeting me and I had not been. Once we were married since I did not have experience and she did it was all like an old hat to her in a way of speaking. While for me it was like a whole new world of experiences. Add to that that my lack of experience led to her lack of satisfaction and you have a poor result.
It proves to me just how important it is to wait until you are married and to marry people who have also waited.
Sexuality was created to reflect the character, nature, and plan of our creator to lead us to HIM, ultimately. He created it for that purpose and its ALL THROUGHOUT THE BIBLE; which most are FEARFUL TO DISCUSS and thereby PERPETUATE IGNORANCE in this regard.
The Scriptures teach us that the ULTIMATE PEAK (this program would not allow me to use the specific WORD used in drama to describe that special moment or 'peak' of the drama...the 'happily ever after' 'peak' of His Story shall be quite spectacular as the Bride is consummated with her LOVER at long last.
The physical forms we understand are merely a dim shadows of that future, rapturous GLORY of our spiritual identity with him! Nevertheless, we have been created in his image and sexuality is to represent his and our ultimate joy in becoming completely ONE with Him in the end.
Ignorance of this plan is exactly what keeps us HUNGRY FOR MORE. Either we shall learn the PROPER PARAMETERS of our sexuality or we shall become as brute beasts in our darkness. Sheep and Goats based on WHAT WE DO which is the result of WHAT/WHOM WE BELIEVE.
So, if what you are saying here is true, then wouldn't sex outside of the blood covenant of marriage be the same as worshiping another God? It would seem to only make sense, after all, our God is a God of Covenants and a blood covenant is never to be broken. Therefore anything outside of that would be Paganism. Or the worshiping of a false God, in this case, a God named sex.
In Genesis, we read a little about the real purpose of sex, as stated by God Himself.
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Then God blessed them, and God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth."
That seems pretty plain and straight forward, sex is for procreation. As with everything, God had a plan. He was aware that if it didn't feel good, then we wouldn't be worried about filling the earth, so He made it fell good and be desirable. He especially knew that with the curse of painful childbirth, He would need for women to need more than physical enjoyment, so He made her desire for her husband.
Now, since there were only two people in the Garden, you would have to assume that He planned for sex to be between two people, a man and a woman. Otherwise, He would have taken more ribs. Two would have made more sense anyway, by our thinking. It would have evened things out that way, you know, one from each side.
1 John
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Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world.
That is essentially correct. sexuality used apart from the purpose of its creation is REBELLION and that is the same as paganism or having Satan as one's 'head' rather than messiah. It is a millennium old struggle that is about to come to its end as the TRUTH exposes the lies of the deceiver as PROMISED from the garden.
I read your discourse on the Garden, and I have to say that it was one of the best I have ever seen. You have a rare understanding of the scriptures and you demonstrate how they apply to us today. That is a rare gift my friend. God has given you a great gift, thank you for sharing it with us.
Hallelu Yah! Praise YHWH! Of my own I can do nothing and am nothing.
I was created to serve him obediently and all I can do is my best. I fall sometimes just like everyone else. We have an adversary whose purpose is to try to trip us up and he's had THOUSANDS OF YEARS OF PRACTICE. The righteous fall seven times (perfect amount of tiimes) only to be purified in the end.
We learn from our mistakes and vicariously through those of others; we don't wallow in them as a dog back to vomit. We merely have to forget what is behind and keep straining toward the mark to which he has called us HEAVENWARD in Messiah Yahwshua :applause:
This is a most beneficial attitude to have that allows us to grow in him rather than keeps us chained in self condemnation. If we belong to the Messiah Yahwshua, he has set us FREE from failure to bring him victory. He must come to life in our flesh and as he does, we are FREE to live and love in Him!
As a christian wife....i feel that the desires of my husband are very important. There are up and downs with sexual desire...but, i would not want to have my husband feel abandoned . There are times when a husband can be considerate of his wifes lack of desire.....like sickness and childbearing.....but, other than that...I believe that a wife should please her husband willingly and with a good attitude.....even if she isn't exacly "in the mood".
There many ways to do that......but, the husband also needs to not put pressure on his wife if she is willing to please him but, not nessesarily going to be as active a participant as usual. Some men feel that if you aren't going to be all into it....then they would rather pass.
It's all in the attitude.....if she is willing....take it!
I enjoy my husbands pleasure even when I am not nessesarily going to reach the mountain top:)
Maybe your wife just needs a new perspective.
Also....you could ask her what you could do to please her more.....maybe at a time when the two of you are having some relaxed time together and she is receptive. Hope this helps:)
