Hearing hissing noises and seeing creepy women says to me that someone is off their meds or needs a medication adjustment. That person should be talking to their psychiatrist or med manager, not collecting opinions on a forum.
With that said, I would not be comfortable dating a man who needs daily medication and does not take it whether it be for diabetes, thyroid, heart disease, mental illness, or... I would interpret that as him not caring enough for me to take care of himself.
Couldn't really speak for the hissing, but as for mental illnesses some things for both sexes to watch for, read up on, and familiarize ones self with would in my opinion be borderline personalities, narsicism, misoginy, and general obsession.
I'm guessing you mean the baby-talk lissping. Like...you know...sshe is jusst ssooo annoying? If you're sensitive to sounds then I could see how that would get on your nerves.
Just now noticed this...but Rose...why do you hold someone with a thyroid disorder responsible for their dysfunction. I have hypothyroidism and take Synthroid daily to correct it...I was born with it, I didn't choose to have it afflict me. Trust me, had I been given the choice to NOT have hypothyroidism and NOT have been obese at a young age due to it, I would have jumped all over it...but it's an affliction that one is born with; personally, the medication has been a gift from God because it facilitated a massive weight loss (100+ pounds) and has allowed me to become a stronger person with more energy. I'm sorry, I just think that's a little ridiculous to think that someone taking thyroid medication is a case of them "not caring enough about themselves" and frankly I take offense to it.
These could potentially deter me from seeing someone's potential, but are not guaranteed deal breakers. Ok, so, they're shy. But are they friendly? Are they cheerful, and upbeat, maybe even funny? Good sense of humor?
Poor? Disability? Well, it depends on the person. Are they poor because they've had some hardships in their life? Have they, or are they trying to make something of themselves? Do they have dreams? Goals? Are they working towards those dreams/goals, or at least trying? Are they making the best out of what they got? Making the best out of the situation? And, if on disability, what do they do with their time? If they still try to participate in society, maybe even volunteer, then great! Also, do they feel sorry for themselves or have a good attitude? Again, making the best out of their situation.
Awkward? This can be a dealbreaker if it goes unsolved-assuming you are describing the chemistry between two people.
This is just what would run through my mind. I don't know. I think the important thing is to do like the serenity prayer-change the things you can change (work on them, do your best), accept the things you can't. And, focus on what you can do, and view yourself, your life, and your talents as assets and gifts from God-not to be let put to waste, but applied wisely, as God has a plan for your life-plans to prosper you, and not harm you. So, keep seeking God's will, and doing His work for you, whatever it may be-everyone can do something, in the body of Christ! Hope this helps somehow.
Rose, you lack much tact and I consider your opinion very rude and crude. I take showers every day, watch what I eat, etc. I do indeed take care of myself.
I have autism. I need to find an understanding wife.
I have many great qualities. I have goals and hobbies. I stay busy as much as I can. I study the bible with a church friend multiple times a week. I have plants I take care of, actually indoors and outdoors.
I am constantly considering the well being of others although from the perspective of others I might appear aloof and distant.
I am growing exotic plants from seed in my bedroom to sell and have made a bit of money with a plan to expand it.
Medication? Yes I have been there and am still suffering permanent damage from risperdal and clonazapam in the form of movement disorders and a derailing of my nervous system among other myriad symptoms.
I am unable to take medications as my body can not tolerate them.
For what I have to deal with I am not doing too bad.
I should have explained myself better. I apologize.
I'm sorry that my post offended you. There was no intention to do so. It does appear that my assessment wasn't that far off. The fact that you are unable to take medication was not available when I made my post. My sympathy for your situation is far greater than you know. I can't imagine what my life would be like if I was not able to take daily medications, so I can't imagine what you are going through.
Perhaps you could re-read my post. I never accused you of not taking care of yourself. The question is would you date...? My answer was a general answer to a general question. I realized immediately that your question could cause explosive answers. I wanted to redirect the answers to include more than mental illness. I would expect someone who suffers with mental illness to be offended if I had mentioned which mood disorders I would accept and which personality disorder or psychosis I might not accept.
You posted this question on the girl forum. I am disappointed that Liv and I were the only ones who answered and that so many guys did. In my 34 years of adulthood, my experience is that (in general) men have less tolerance for emotional/mental weakness. Men have this innate trait of wanting to train and control their physical bodies. Unfortunately, you are struggling with the inability to fulfill that natural drive and your peers likely don't understand. Possibly you've experience people telling you to s*ck it up, man up, and worse�
I would like to commend you on your willingness to be vulnerable. It is not unusual for people who need professional help to come on the forums to vent and not really want any advice, or they want people to feel sorry for them instead of doing the work necessary to heal. You have proven that you are truly looking for answers.
There are also the co-dependent women on site that will latch on to you because of their own neediness and not because they want a healthy relationship. Beware and stay in touch with the men that are willing to help. There are several on here that can guide you through red flags.
God's blessings,
Rose
P.S. LOL Now I'm a fowl mouthed, rude woman. My first version was refused for cencorship.
