Author	Thread: What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU?
Admin	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 5 Nov, 2010 07:16 AM Is a man who is, at the moment, living on his Social Security income and wisely using this income God has provided for him to live on to pay his rent, pay his bills, pay off gradually past debts, buy his monthly food and other items of necessity, and using what's left over for fun, entertainment and dates ... is such a man of God financially stable enough for you as a woman of God? I was just wondering this morning about this as I read some of my CDFF match profiles in which the women mentioned looking for a guy who is financially stable ... would they or you consider me to be financially stable enough for you in my present income situation? ... forget the facts that you already have to not reject me because I am also physically-challenged and don't drive which I honestly shared in MY profile ... I am looking forward to my present financial situation changing as God opens the doors in His timing for my writing and songwriting gifts to successfully upgrade my present income, but in the meantime, should I even bother to look for a woman of God to be my creative "barefoot gal" counter-part complement wife, like I've shared I'm looking for on my profile, as long as I am not there yet in THAT kind of financial stability, but only have the financial stability of a monthly Social Security check? So ... this question is a two-fold one ... what is your heart's answer in general, including ALL guys ... and what is your heart's answer, personally, in my case, in my situation? Thank you for your honest answers!!! Love to everyone from my heart in Christ, Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 5 Nov, 2010 05:59 PM A woman who values money enough to state on her profile that she wants somebody who is �financially stable� probably wouldn�t think you are stable enough. It seems to me that that�s a �nice� way for someone to say they want someone with money, and a woman who states that is probably hoping for somebody that can support her. Or maybe all she really means is that she wants somebody who is debt-free, I don�t know, but it tends to be that when people go to the trouble of writing it on their profile, they value it very highly. I would consider anybody financially stable who does not have insurmountable debt (debt that they have a realistic plan to pay off wouldn�t bother me MUCH), who has relatively regular pay, and who is not frivolous with it. Of course, everybody�s definition of frivolous probably varies, but I find it very important to see how somebody spends his money if money is a factor in your decision. It sounds to me like you are responsible with what you get and that you have a handle on your debt, so I would say you were financially stable �enough�. There are a lot of women have the idea that they are going to marry a man who at least makes more money than them, or even who makes enough money that they can stay home or have the option of not working. However, there are also plenty of women who have their own careers that they enjoy and would not mind having a hand in the money-making. I can see how you might run into snags in finding somebody who works with you, but be honest about who you are and what you have to offer and great things can happen. Post Reply
View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 5 Nov, 2010 07:12 PM Thanks, siylii, for your wise reply!!! I was thinking the same things, but wanted some feedback and confirmation from others here. I was really not concerned about being financially stable (or, as some women put it: "secure") in myself, but did wonder about the "enough" thought as far as some women's intentions in putting "financially stable" on their profiles ... and then it occurred to me that this would be a good topic for discussion ... where do other Christian women stand in THEIR hearts about a man's financial stability, whether or not they listed that as one of the things important to them on their profiles. The more money a couple has, the more fun they can have in their retirement years; the more vacations and traveling they can enjoy too, of course, so this hope also comes up on a lot of women's profiles who are my age with all of their children grown and on their own ... I would LOVE, LOVE, BAREFOOT LOVE to be able to do more things like traveling too, free from financial hindrances ... who WOULDN'T? ... but that's not the possiblity yet with a more limited income ... still, God is faithful, and He will provide for these types of desires too for me and any gal who was my particular wife, in His timing, as He knows is BAREFOOT BEST for US!!! :yay::yay::yay::applause::applause::applause: ... so, this wisdom SHOULD make a difference too in considering and following God's leading of a gal's heart in whether or not to develop a lasting relationship of TRUE BAREFOOT LOVE with me or any guy whom you've become seriously attracted to here or on any other dating site or offline, wouldn't you agree? Steve Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 5 Nov, 2010 07:33 PM Well, I can't speak for the girls, but I think ideally, my wife would be a trust fund baby. That way we can do country club ministry and classic car club ministry and yacht club ministry and private jet ministry... Post Reply
View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 5 Nov, 2010 07:36 PM @Tulip :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 5 Nov, 2010 08:03 PM Tulip - you are a card. You should be dealt with. :laugh: Steve - to answer your questions: if a lady says in her profile she wants financial security, to me that is her saying she wants someone who will pay all the bills. I could be wrong, but that is what I would think if I read that. As far as your situation -- you sound like you are doing fine financially and meet all your obligations. So it doesn't matter how much or little you make. I already have a job that provides for me, so I don't need someone to "provide" for me. The last man I dated made less than I, and if we had gotten married I would have been the primary bread winner. It made no difference to me. Perhaps it is an age thing? Post Reply
View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 5 Nov, 2010 08:59 PM I think I've put in past profiles that I want someone financially stable - I don't mean that you can pay ALL the bills (mine and yours), but someone who can take care of themselves and their own debts. Sounds like you're financially stable to me barefoot. Might not be others' definition of "financially stable" per the other answers. I imagine that if two people who make enough to take care of their own living expenses and debts come to live as one unit, that it would make it easier on both. Example: If someone is living with their momma (not in a taking-care-of-her situation), that tells me they aren't stable enough to pay for their own expenses, thus would not really make my financial situation easier if we were to get married. Plus they probably are a big momma's boy and would listen to their momma over me in decision-making. ok, got a little off-topic, but you get my drift. Post Reply
View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 10:35 AM Thanks Tulip, godslamb and aly, for your wise input on this topic too!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts: Yes, godslamb, I think Tulip is a WILD card to be dealt with too ... he's definitely one of the leaders of the PACK in this category ... sort of a Tulip TRUMP card for high class ministry-minded gals and guys!!! :ROFL::ROFL::ROFL: Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 02:56 PM Three in a row! Booyah Steve! :applause: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 6 Nov, 2010 05:20 PM It's a punny trifecta! Post Reply
View Profile History	What makes a man financially stable enough for YOU? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 08:34 AM He can make his own way and doesn't look for other to help him meet his obligations!! Post Reply

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