Could I for once get a job as an air traffic controlling and start com-plane-ing about one little thing? Haha, :)
Very, very few of you women out there reply to my messages. I'm sorry for complaining, am I sinning? I guess I am. Israel complained in the wilderness and God punished them. I know that the desire for a wife is not wrong, but desiring a wife can become an idol. Desiring a wife becomes an idol when I sin in my desiring for a wife. Somehow, I must find all that I need in Christ. May God help me.
Why don't you reply? My best guesses are: you think we live too far apart, or you gave up on CDFF years ago. You might think I am creepy, or am a scam.
Maybe you are just too busy to respond to every message from men?
Maybe something you don't like about me, not rich enough or something?
Maybe you missed my message?
Maybe I'm too short?
Maybe I don't look fun enough?
Maybe I'm too conservative?
Maybe I'm too spiritual?
Who can know the mind of a woman? haha! :) I'm still figuring out my own mind sometimes. :P hehe!
I am completely polite in every message I send. :) If a girl views my message and doesn't reply, I don't continue sending messages. I don't ask why. If a girl sends a reply and says no thanks, I don't send any more messages.
If a girl sends me a message, I can nearly guarantee I will reply to the message. Whether the subject of the message is getting to know each other or some other subject, like growing in Christ, I will probably respond. I have enough time on my hands to be able to try to encourage other people. However, if someone sends me something bad, I will probably ignore them, depending upon the content.
There was a girl on match.com who winked at me, but I did not respond. I guess I probably should have said something.
If a girl starts sending me messages just for viewing her profile, I will play along for awhile, but eventually, I will politely say no thanks.
Wow, man, you really sounded like me. I am short, conservative, have strong faith. And having similar problems as you do because I do not get American women to reply. All I get mostly are Filipinas/Pinays followed by neighboring nations of the Philippines and rarely, Africans. Ok, maybe one or two I got were scammers. But I get smart not to reply that fast because usually scammers are caught before I get to read. Maybe once yes.. that is all..
However, I am picky and this is why I am not getting responses. I can tell you are similar and I congrats you for protecting yourself and being cautious. I went thru badly with females in past so I am very strict!
I have been played by females, not scammers, players asking me to help her out and I often say no because it is take-money-and-run kind of thing. I prefer I meet her first and already engaged by the time, we can share some money but of course, pre-nup will be drawn legally.
So, be patient. Write some women. I wrote quite a bit and I got no responses. I am talking about American women. I do not understand why. Maybe I am too "old" or them? It is all about chiche. For example, American women perfer men closer to their age compared to the Foreign ladies who are willing to accept any gentleman of any age as long as they are Christians.
Foreign ladies ignore height, age, inter-Christianity (Catholic-Protestant or LDS with JW, etc... I am just saying as example but not factual but it can happen), and willing to relocate. American women tend to want to stay at one location. Or not want to have children. All depends on age, career-oriented rather than family, etc..
I tell you what you can do, my brother in Christ. I did very successfully to pray and fast years ago. This is my advice for you. Stop completely thinking about women, stop looking for a woman completely, ignore women completely except for your female family members such as mother, sister, grandmother, etc. and NOT talk to any other females. Be a bit like a Catholic monk which I did act like that for THREE WEEKS.. It worked to fast. but please DO pray to God BEFOE you start what you are going to do and desire. Then I am sure one will come along which mine was when I was going home from my sister's computer school business and a lady ran down and stopped me when she was crying and wanted me to fix her flat tire when it was 10 degrees outside in January 1985. I did not want my fasting to break but because of this, I was being a good boy scout (although I was 20 at the time), I changed her tires on her old VW Beetle. Then I went home and prayed to God for my WIFE because my fasting was broken to help her. And God showed me in the Bible to read Genesis chapter 24 and I sure did. And I learned how to find clues because that is what the Servant did when he was at the well and prayed to God how to find right woman for his master, Abraham's son, Isaac. I asked for mine and rest is history and still waiting and I know my clues. That is why I am bit picky now.. I married wrong one because I felt at age 40 I did not want to wait.. I was wrong.. but now, I am patience. I will pray for you, brother. I was going to ask same questions but you had it all the same and I see same answers they are saying.. I not need to put it up now. God bless!
Yes, wow! Thank you for responding to my post. Yes, it is alittle rough at times, with finding the right woman for you. With online dating, it is like looking for a needle in a haystack. It is so frustrating for me because I have like a strange phobia/shyness/disorder when it comes to dating the girls around me. There are many, many girls at the Bible college I attend, that I would LOVE to marry. The problem is I just can't seem to get the courage and bravery to choose one and step into their lives. It is like a phobia/shyness/disorder I have. I don't like the publicity I feel with dating at my Bible college. I feel like everyone is looking at me, if I started talking to girls that I like.
On the other hand, I think online dating is great! I don't have the strange phobia/shyness/disorder problem. I email any girl on CDFF that is a non-cult protestant Christian. This would include non-denominational women. I email any girl who says anything about God, church, or the Bible. I email any girl who is my age or younger. I email any girl who is my height or shorter. I email any girl who is thin and attractive. I email any girl who is single and does not have kids. I am not racist, but I tend to like girls who are not African, that is unless they are more lighter skinned. I want to do all this talking, but the problem is the GIRLS don't respond to my emails or say no. These are my points that I feel I have to have for me to be interested in a girl. I must admit, however, godliness should be top priority.
Groan! I don't talk to ANY girls at Bible college, but VERY FEW girls talk to me in online dating! Very messed up world we all live in. I am also on match.com. The women on match.com are even worse, they hardly ever respond.
It is times like these, we need to trust God. Jesus died on the cross for my sins. I owe my life to Him. I have many undeserved blessings. Health, education, a job, a car, loving parents, a warm dorm-room, clean clothes, a peaceful and free country, and most of all when I die, I will go to heaven for all eternity.
I have been talking to a girl from the Philippines who was on CDFF, for the past few months. We were getting sortof serious. However, she just told me no, because she thought our doctrinal differences were too great. Her church has women pastors, yet the Bible explicitly says that ONLY men should be the pastors. (1 Cor. 14:34, 1 Tim. 2:12-14, 1 Tim. 3:2, 1 Tim. 3:4-5, 7, Tim. 3:8, Titus 1:5-7)
I also talked to a girl from Malaysia, and a girl from Indonesia, but I am not really that serious about the relationship.
I am also talking to another girl from the Philippines who was on CDFF, for the past few weeks. This girl is Baptist like me. Her sister recently married an American from Texas. She seems quite interested in me. I may go this route in my life, who knows?
I am very sorry about your divorce. I know you are struggling more than I am. I have prayed for you, that God would give you grace and mercy in your many times of need. May God bless you abundantly!
I skimmed through your profile, syracusesinglemale. I like your joke at the end, Cat got your tongue or should I say, cat got your mouse, because its ONLINE dating! haha that's funny!
If someone contacted you through message or wink,please just say something.Wink back,or say thanks,it makes the other person feel appreciated and its very important to us human beings.
1. Some men begin their message with, "hey I like your profile and wish to know you and hope we can hit on each other - SERIOUSLY? Hey not all women here like this style.
2. Some men ask like this, "how are you?
- You must be kidding me! The space is too big to ask only this message, then when we check your profile all we see is your name and place where you're from! Do you expect us women to get interested to you by that profile? Oh, you might say there's nothing to talk about when you put all things there, I don't think so. Leave it to women to decide whether to believe what's in your profile or not, give us something to think about or ask based on your profile!
3. Some men are too "HIGH" on their profile. I am a good chrisitian, I am kind, easy going, gentleman, I got my own house, I am, I am...
- The only I AM I know is Jesus Christ alone! Don't put too much of your self-proclaim I am, it's up to us to see whether you are kind, or cool, or bla bla... (Humility please)
4. Some men message their whole bunch or testimony in their first message! - oh no, this is a NO-NO!
5. Most importantly, not all women here are looking for partners, never, ever, begin your greetings with "I am interested with you" this makes a woman uncomfortable talking with you! Some women here are looking for real christian men who can lead them closer to God, not the other way around.
