Ok, I'm not really asking, heh heh. I just recently felt burdened to share what I've learned about some men, with women who maybe have felt similar to the way I felt before. I figure if I post it in the Ask a Woman section maybe someone who had my same problems and questions will find some answers.
It all started two long years ago when I had my first boyfriend. I was 20. To make a long story short, my boyfriend broke up with me. The breakup was very one-sided however, because I was still very much in love with him and sure he was in love with me. Finally, a good friend of mine demanded that I watch the movie "He's Just Not That Into You" and it helped me put him in the past and move on.
Since then, that concept has saved me from so much heartache. A guy may like you a bit, he may be into you, but he's just not that into you. So its good to keep it in mind. Say for example, you're at a dance, a man you like looks at you, and then asks another woman to dance. Before watching that movie, I would think, "He's just trying to make me jealous, so I'll like him more", or "He likes me so much that he's too shy". But the truth is, if a guy really wants what you offer he'll go for it, he'll call you, he'll stick his neck out for you. And all his other excuses for not showing up, not remembering to etc etc, not calling can be boiled down to those six words.
I don't know. It's saved me soooooo much heartache just remembering "he's just that into me". It makes things so much clearer, so much more black and white. And then you can go on and find someone worth your time.
Its like, you're not going to have a relationship with some who isn't that into you or doesn't love you, because you need to save your love for someone who does. It's just that simple.
Hi sister JesusLovesYouAndMe! Thanks for the advice! I do appreciate it.
I kind of thought about the question you posed on what we should do to avoid heartbreak. I have an appreciation for results and not for what looks good. !! (That�s why I like Christians like Rob Bell and Curry Blake!! In my opinion what they offer is Christianity with the option of death, as you may die of a heart attack from listening to them). Well, my thoughts on how to avoid heartbreak. � What does God want from you and for you as an individual? He wants me to be a son of God and to be happy. (That�s what God told Curry Blake and he told me the same thing.) So, if he wants me to be happy, what is it I do that makes me happy? Living for him, helping others, and not being equally yoked with unbelievers, not being around people who tare me down but people who build me up. So, God�s will for me would be to avoid mean or cruel people, but to find people who respect God�s Spirit and life in me.
I know its funny. I say my exboyfriend dumped me. But I had another boyfriend after that, and I say things like �I ended the relationship�, or �I explained to him that it wouldn�t work� etc, etc. I never say I dumped him. Reminds me of that joke where a son asks his dad, �What are people who leave our church and go to another church called?� The dad said, �Backsliders.� The son asks, �And what are people who leave another church to join ours called?� The dad replies, �Converts�.
So, that�s kind of the way I am. I�m beginning to realize that �sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.� And �All have sinned and come short of the glory of God� in some way...and if you haven't sinned, it probably means you're self-righteous, which is a sin anyway. ha! We all need Jesus, cause we all have the capability of being a mess that only He can clean.
Actually, I don't think he is the grandson. But I know he runs and operates Lake's mission though he doesn't claim his anointing.
Some of those guys like Wigglesworth had great faith...but what I really like about Curry is that he seems exceptionally kind, caring, gentle, and compassionate. Good stuff, listening to his audios.
Ok, I guess I am confused why do we have to play games anyway? I don't believe we do. I think we depend on what we think or feel more than what God wants, or thinks.
If we want the right person we need to be the right person in Christ first. Many times Women or men, but since I am a woman I am speaking as what I know from personal experience.
We try and go through our life trying to find the right guy to fill the spot only Jesus can. And until we fully come to Him and let the spirit work in our lives we go on trying to find the right guy. However there will never be a man (human) that can fill those shoes except for christ.
Remember in Christ Alone.
God will not disappoint.
Does mean we can't have hopes, but quit playing games and be truthful, so you get hurt. But at least the relationship was based on truth and not a game.
JustSimply, thank you for sharing that. I totally forgot about that thread, then I happened upon your profile because I was reading another one of your forum posts and checked out your profile, I then noticed your comment. :applause: Such a good comment. No one can fill that place in your heart which longs for God. Some of the loneliest people I've known have been married people. We have to find Christ, search him out and we will find him.
