Author	Thread: Why get married?
Admin	Why get married? Posted : 23 Feb, 2012 05:34 AM I would like to ask you ladies a question, just trying to see things from your point of view. Many people have told me that I shouldn�t get married if I am not content being alone. If a guy is perfectly content being alone, why do you think he would want to get married? What would be the point of disrupting a perfectly content life? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 05:23 AM Amendment: First make sure it's legally and morally right. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 08:59 AM Cobbler, I apologize for taking so long to respond to your last response to me. This program wouldn't post what I wrote because I used a slang word for "gamble" and then, POOF all my writing was deleted. So, let me try again. "I don�t even know how to ask for help anymore. Everything always ends up with �you just have to be content on your own.� Or �it�s not my responsibility.� " Help can come in many ways. While none of us here can solve the problem of your loneliness, we can offer support and encouragement. And, as you can tell by the number of responses you've gotten, many of us can relate to what you say and are trying to "help." Please continue to reach out and stay active on the Forums as they are at least a bit of company. "I can�t even figure what to ask for, because whatever I ask for is going to be wrong. This is one of the worst parts about Asperger�s is not being able to communicate how I am feeling or what I am thinking because it always gets twisted around. Everyone always starts off with the assumption that I am wrong, and all I do is spend all my time trying to prove I am right, and the whole idea of helping me gets tossed out the window." While having Aspergers's makes communication more difficult, I think all of us struggle to get our ideas across in this 2-dimensional medium. Most times it is easier to understand what someone is saying if we can hear the tone in their voice or see the expression on their face. I suppose that's what the silly emoticons are for. You responded wonderfully about a possible miscommunication that I posted about the other day. Can you volunteer to work with children or youth who also have Asperger's? I have found that reaching out to offer help to others helps me so much! :applause: :laugh: :waving: :rocknroll: :bouncy: Post Reply
IaoKim View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 09:39 AM Cobbler's account is no longer active . . . just thought y'all should know in case you haven't checked his profile. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 10:07 AM Thanks IoKim. We can continue to pray for him. What a mad cycle of pain to live in. Satan surely does seek to destroy! :prayingm: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 01:59 PM IODC, You have such a simplistic and unrealistic view on life. You don�t listen to anything I say, and how can you truly help if you don�t listen. Keep your advice to yourself. NRSV1953, I am not allowed around children. I am over 40, never had a relationship, and never been married. That makes me a perfect candidate for a pedophile, so there is no way I am going to be allowed anywhere near the kids. It doesn�t matter how many times I say it, no one ever believes me. The only thing that I am ever allowed to do in the church is to be put somewhere in a dark hole to work alone. I have no friends, and people my age have all been chased away from the church. My family is too busy with their own families to be bothered to spend time with me. I AM ALONE. That means I have NO ONE I can lean on, no one to spend time with, and no one I can trust to open up to. Why is it so hard to understand what being alone means? I talk to anyone because everything I say gets twisted around. And everyone has the gall to wonder why I won�t open up. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 06:36 PM Cobbler, this world and everyone in it is a fallen, imperfect world and we have all fallen short of God's standard. I really hope that you find peace in Him who loves us all. You address the emotional and mental side very well, but what about the spiritual? Your relationship with God is up to you, and it isn't dependent on what others say it's your free will to choose where you stand in a relationship with God. When Jesus left his disciples, he promised a comforter and that is the Holy Spirit. I'm not trying to sound high and mighty because I have everything going perfectly for me, in fact quite the contrary. Instead of going to gain acceptance from a community that doesn't accept you, go and seek God who will accept you and will fulfil you in ways that community with other fallen beings cannot provide. If I am wrong, let God humble me as the sinner I am as my intention is not to interfere out of pride, but for love of another brother in Christ Jesus. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 06:48 PM Yes DynastyJoseon, I should just ignore the world, I should just go away and ignore everyone. The world is fallen, so no one should try. I have no reason to be sad, I should just sit in my house and read my Bible and everything will be ok. I don�t need anyone. I am a robot with absolutely no emotions. It�s ok for everyone to walk all over me. The can betray me and I should have no emotions. I have NO REASON to be sad. I should just shut up and go away. That�s the Godly thing to do. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 08:02 PM Everything is always my fault. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 24 Feb, 2012 08:17 PM Cobbler, how are you getting THIS from what we've been saying? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why get married? Posted : 25 Feb, 2012 02:01 AM I think it's a sad indictment of the church today that they don't allow mature believers in contact with kids because of the paranoia of something bad happening - we're supposed to be salt and light and be seen to be different to the world we're in. Of course, steps do need to be taken to protect kids, but that risk is much reduced by having a pair of adult leaders rather than just one by themself. This of course expects that Cobbler has approached his church about working with the kids and not just assumed he can't. Post Reply

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