I seem to come across an awful load of frauds !!! In fact , there are more scammers than decent honest well-intentioned members here . The bad are causing the good to deport /abandon it . The only men that contact me,( or even seem to be active on here) , are scams . Mainly they are men claiming to reside in the U.S. , but are foreign origins . There are many red flags , and it soon becomes obvious to me that they are ''marriage'' shopping quickly for citizenship . An I am sure all a woman is worth $$$ as well . I have even been convinced that in at least one of the cases , the guy likely had a wife already in his homeland . His phone # exchange was here in America , but that actually doesn't prove he is really living here currently and more importantly what his motives are for pursuing a marriage so fast . Sometimes they have expressed to me a preference for white women and maybe they do like that , but still have the evil agenda . Perhaps that is part of the hidden plan , lure us by flattery . These are the only men that hover over this site , I am discovering . I think I have been sought out because I am in my 30's & seeking marriage , although they might view me as ''old & desperate'' . Not the case , I am strong , smart , and single by choice . This site is over-run with scammers and I wanted to know what other women thought ??? I noticed there aren't any current posts regarding this serious issue when it's saturated the site . Are people pretending this is still a respectable site ? What else is disturbing is that I report such filth but nothing is ever done about these men and they just remain on here being allowed to potentially victimise more weaker & vulnerable people .Lonely members with hopes for love & acceptance . I did see other members be removed before , but never ones that I report personally . The impression I am getting is that I am being ignored , and /or if there is monitoring they rarely boot criminals . Very troubling indeed !!! I am going to leave this site for good . I just felt to post a final message to see if any other women respond and what they think ? Have any of you experienced the same with predators bothering you , scammers messaging you ??? Like I said , I hear from ones that seem to be after citizenship through marriage , trying to use an American for that purpose to their needs . I have never out-right been asked for money because they are more clever than that . Although I realize that is a part of the scam , they are entitled to your assets if you are foolish enough to marry without any pre-cautions . My warning to people & esp. more vulnerable ,lonely members & women , be VERY picky in whom you interact with on this site !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Try and keep it local if that is possible . I only deal with Americans now , and even they can be users & jerks so the narrowing down continues . Not many locally and unfortunately this site is World-wide opening too many doors in my opinion.I did have a lovely pen-pal from Sweden here , who is a doll . He was nothing but kind & my friend , truly . He is the only foreign person however , that was ever trustworthy and genuine , sincere towards me . Happy I came across him here , even though a relationship is not possible . The scam men have come from Iran , Eastern Europe such as Albania , at least this is what I encountered .Yet they reside here in the U.S. , (some of them do). I am guessing their visa expired , they are over-staying , not in a good position and afraid of being deported . They won't waste any second of their time on you , if you give them reason to think you are not marriage serious because they are on a mission and must hurry that up so they tend to rush you. I had this mistreatemtn done to me but being a suspicious person in my nature , stopped it before it could even begin .Scammers I would think typically come from the poorer regions of the World . Ladies , thoughts /opinions /experiences???
Thank you for your time .I'd be happy to listen to anyone else's story !!!
Exactly George. This is why I have repeatedly said on here that I have given up on online dating and I am very close to giving up on the idea of marriage in general. It is not as if I have to get married. Paul said it was better to remain as Christ, and Paul himself, but if you can not refrain it is better to marry than to burn.
Not paranoid. Its just that 75%-80% of the women I have courted have lied about one thing or another.
You know the old saying, "Nice guys finish last"? Well, Im a nice guy, but unfortunately, some women read nice guy as "sucker". One woman I had been courting for 6 months and the whole time she was fornicating with one of her ex's. When I confronted her about it, she actually said, "But that doesnt mean that I dont love you".
"Well, yeah, it kinda does", was my reply. She must have thought she saw the word "Imbecile" written on my forehead or something.
Then, there was "Amy". Before I became a graphic designer, I used to get home from work at around 3:30/3:45pm. The guy who worked second shift was a little late coming in and I worked an extra 90 minutes. So, I get home a little after 5 to find "Amy" in my front yard, screaming/cursing, and several of the windows in my home broken. The cops were already there. It seems that Amy liked to drive by my home in the evenings to make sure I was home. When I wasnt home when she thought I should be, she went nuts.
I could go on and on and on, but hopefully you get my point. The morals of those stories is, "It doesnt pay to be a nice guy" and "A little paranoia can be a useful thing".
Thats why I signed up here in the first place. Going by the numbers, if 80% of women are scammers or crazy, then checking out a larger pool of people should have meant that there were thousands of decent, sane, Christian women on here. Sadly, that doesnt seem to be the case.
Proverbs 18: 22 "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD".
Take note of 'FIND' and the meaning of 'find' is "to come upon or discover by searching or making an effort.
So a man making an effort can meet a woman from any part of the world. This isn't about USA but finding a woman. Proverbs 31: 10, 'Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
It's about finding and not everyone who is searching from out side USA he is a scammer. So don't put all of us in one basket and if God gives me a woman from USA I'll gladly take her and make her the happiest woman in the world.
Women don't like genuine guys, they are attracted to crooks who charm them and at the end of the day they start complaining.
Please take everything to the Lord in prayer.
Lastly, once you receive a message pray about it before you reply and the Lord will guide you.
Just reported a scammer who first asked me to open and register a bitcoin account, then to purchase a $100.00 iTunes card for his son....though his profile says he has no children. Shameful what we have to go through just to look for a mate!
