How do you know whether or not a man is truly interested in you, and wants to be a husband and provider, or whether he is interested in you because you're beautiful, or you have something they want at the time?
How do you know whether or not a man is truly interested in you, and wants to be a husband and provider, or whether he is interested in you because you're beautiful, or you have something they want at the time?
Well, for starters, if he tells you willingly that he wants to be married and wants to be a father, a husband, and a provider, that�s a good clue. When men tell you that they are not ready to be married, they aren�t just being coy, they are telling you the truth. If he really truly wants to be with you, he will not hesitate to ask you to marry him, and he will want to be married right away, and not have a prolonged engagement.
Unfortunately, it�s hard for us men to know when to tell a woman that you are ready to be married and settle down, because if you say it too soon women panic and run away because they think you are too desperate.
My point is, listen to what he is telling you when you are not having to drag the answers out of him.
I suppose you could wait 20-30 years and see if he's still interested (or even still available)!
Realistically, unless you know his past history for yourself (i.e. not just the bits he's told you about), then really you've only got trust to go on if he says he will commit. Then you've got to decide whether you do trust him at his word, or not.
I'd hope that guys on here are mature enough (and to be fair, most seem that they are) to recognise that physical beauty will be gone in a few decades, and the things they do together they may not always be capable of. Of course, this works both ways around and in thirty years or so, you may wonder what you ever saw in the guy you just woke up next to...
The only advice I can offer, and not even from experience unfortunately, is just to be patient and don't rush or be rushed into things.
"How do you know whether or not a man is truly interested in you, and wants to be a husband and provider?"
Examining a man's desire for marriage can tell you a great deal about whether or not his desire for marriage is motivated by "self" or motivated by a desire to further the Kingdom of God, and to accomplish God's calling in his life.
"or whether he is interested in you because you're beautiful, or you have something they want at the time?"
When this is the case, a man's main focus will continually be the woman he's pursuing, and not the woman's relationship with Christ. The "substance" of conversations will levitate towards personal subjects and compliments, such as the deceptive "charm" and vain "beauty" spoken of towards the end of Proverbs 31....conversations unattached to true meaning - to Christ, whom all things were created by and for.
How do you know if he'll stay faithful to you?
Dig down deep into the person you're courting and work towards establishing your relationship upon the Rock, which is Christ - " Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain."
Also,
Abraham lied twice regarding Sarai his wife, and twice he sent her into another man's harem while he collected material possessions! In the end, all that we do must be done by faith unto Christ including marriage. Marriage is more about trusting the Lord than it is trusting the fallen sinner you're marrying.
"For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?" Luke 14:28
The verses above, Psalm 127 and this passage from Luke, are speaking individually and corporately of our lives being laid down as living sacrifices unto God, and both verses definitely apply to marriage.
What cost must be counted before committing to such a thing as marriage (marriage as a type of tower)? Well, what did it cost Christ to love the church? Indeed, it will cost men their very lives as they symbolically, spiritually and literally lay down their lives, that Christ would be enabled to love their wives through them.
If a man has not already "dug down" to establish himself upon the Rock / Christ, and surrendered his life to his Headship, then how is he going to lead a woman, where he has never been himself?
God is the only way to know. When its right you just KNOW its right. No one can predict if someone will cheat its ultimately that persons choice. Many Spirit filled men have cheated. Sometimes you can get past it sometimes not. When you fall in love you give your partner your heart, trusting that they wont break it. If you have doubts or question wether a person is completely honest with you then hes probly not the guy. It took me awhile to realize that I cant fix a relationship, it either works or it doesnt :angel:
