Author	Thread: women with serious personalities
FocusIsEverything View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 19 Jan, 2012 04:49 PM where are the christian ladies who care more about making sure she and her guy both have a solid understanding of their beliefs (apologetics) rather than romance, flowers, beach walks, and candlelight dinners. your beliefs will hold you togeather in the long run not the gifts. i believe in romance but only after im sure the woman is the one i want to be with. i dont want to "woo" you with gifts and sweet words in order to get your attention. LADIES...... could i get some feedback? godbless Post Reply
View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 20 Jan, 2012 04:21 AM How do you intend to find out their character or get to know the girl? I assume you might want to take a walk with her somewhere, or maybe share a meal. Perhaps give her a flower as a token of your appreciation that she has agreed to spend time with her. The "romantic" overtones can come later. Post Reply
View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 20 Jan, 2012 06:58 AM I really don't think apologetics are the foundation of a good relationship. For the record, I don't think flowers are either. I think a couple needs to be compatible with one another, truly friends, and committed to making the relationship work. Flowers AND apologetics are irrelvant. Post Reply
View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 20 Jan, 2012 08:57 AM Ok, I agree to an extent. The bible states that you are not to be "unequally yoked together" or unevenly matched with unbelievers in a relationship. This means that yes, you do need to agree on the basic (and not so basic) Christian beliefs. If you don't, then this can cause division and stress later in the relationship, especially if the relationship is geared towards marriage. However... Personalities, Preferences, Since of Humor, and the ability to be able to enjoy each other's company are also crucial things to keep in mind. I have several guys at my church, that I love to death (as brothers) but I would probably want to murder them if I were married to them, (and probably vice-versa.) So yes, the fundamentals need to be, well, fundamental. The faith that you share is the solid ground that the rest needs to build upon. You can be best friends with that person, and love the same things, feel all warm fuzzy around them, and you can be romantic as you want, but if the rest isn't there, it's all going to fall apart when the romance is gone, tough times occur, or there is stress in the house hold. Post Reply
View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 20 Jan, 2012 06:33 PM If you want a woman who is serious, start by talking... Honestly, I believe most Christians will not be able to find the type of personality they seek in a person, because preconceived notions of beauty and vanity get in the way. If you want a good woman, find someone who claims to have the same beliefs as you and make sure she is serious in her faith. Aye carramba! Post Reply
View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 22 Jan, 2012 10:29 PM There are many christian's, both ladies and men on, this site that truely do want to know the beliefs of another before they will even agree to meet them. This is because the modern day definition for "christain" today has many definitions now. And within each definition, there are many levels. With combination of this and people meeting online that do not attend the same church it is good to find out what another believes. Be assured there are ladies on this site that feel the same way. In fact, ladies have made similiar comments on this same topic in the past. However, keep in mind that this is the internet and because of this you will come across people from all walks of life. Just keep being true to your heart. I myself would not want to be "romanced" from someone I am just meeting. I consider those I meet on this site as a brother or sister in the Lord. I believe we are to care about, respect, and treat each other with brotherly/sisterly love. Post Reply
View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 24 Jan, 2012 09:36 AM Women like Romance!!! I know I do; and Plenty of Christian men know about how to Woo a woman; as you say. lol Just Maybe you can find one who doesn't .:excited: Post Reply
View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 25 Jan, 2012 07:43 PM I agree with Angelforlove, most women loved being wooed. It is just in our nature. This of course in no replacement for the bond and christian values to be shared in a relationship, but it would help break the ice in getting to know the other person better. I'm not talking about buying glorious gifts of any sort, speaking for myself I would just love a guy who opens the door for me, carriers my bags, opens the car door....it's pretty simple. Post Reply
View Profile History	women with serious personalities Posted : 6 Apr, 2012 01:12 PM Yea I agree wit u. I like to be wooed over small simple things such as da guy opening da door for me, or holding my purse (shopping bags). :rolleyes: But, also for their to be a connection there needs to be good communication between Christian values and beliefs and other stuff to get to know one another well, before you want to move into the next level. Post Reply