Author	Thread: Always the friend never the boyfriend
Topherious View Profile History	Always the friend never the boyfriend Posted : 9 Feb, 2013 11:51 PM Hey everyone, So I'm 26 and never been in a relationship. Every time I'm interested in a girl I'm either politely told she just wants to be friends or she ends up dating someone else. I don't really know how to go about dating, I've never done it. I always felt I should be friends with the girl I date but waiting till we are friends usually ends with me alone and her dating another guy. What do I do? Post Reply
PianoIsMyForte View Profile History	Always the friend never the boyfriend Posted : 10 Feb, 2013 09:07 PM I've actually found myself in that same boat many times. I have all brothers, and they jokingly tell people I get along with guys a lot better than I do girls. But it's the truth! Honestly, I find the best way to handle wanting to be in a relationship, but getting "friend zoned" is to just keep being a friend. You're absolutely right! It's important to be a friend first before the romance stuff starts. Look for signs that the girl may be interested, but take your time and really get to know her. Then speak with her about your interest and see what happens. Most girls want to be with a guy they can be best friends with. Hope that helps. :) Post Reply
Fuzzybluetoesox View Profile History	Always the friend never the boyfriend Posted : 11 Feb, 2013 03:33 PM Sometimes women are drawn to men they can easily be friends with. The kind of guy you instantly feel comfortable around. He feels 'safe'. In my experience these guys are usually the ultra-dependable, best friend type of guy. Unfortunately, it is SO easy to be friends with this fella, he gets stuck in the friend zone a lot. Even if he is faithful, loyal and handsome, sometimes it is hard to move from friend to boyfriend. (The best chick flicks in the world are when that type of guy gets the girl :yay: ) And then there is that other guy. He is easy to talk to but somehow he just keeps us on our toes--keeps us off kilter a little bit. He has this elusive something. The best way I can describe it is a comfortable confidence. He is interested in us but not over eager. There is always something a little charming or mysterious or quirky about him--like there are a lot of puzzle pieces that fit together to make up who he is, only he doesn't toss the entire puzzle to you as soon as the two of you start to develop a friendship. You have to work to undercover the pieces. Okay, that probably makes no sense whatsoever, and I'm not talking about playing games. I guess I'm just saying, always be yourself but make sure you genuinely exude enough confidence and mystery to intrigue a girl. Be her friend but don't let her be so comfortable around you that she sticks you in the friend zone right off the bat. Post Reply