Author	Thread: Stay or go
Admin	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 09:58 AM if you're talking to a girl, and she really doesn't seem like she cares and she isn't opening up, should i try harder, or move on? Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 10:04 AM I would say move on...or "keep your options open" Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 10:14 AM Hey remp, I would say it depends on how much long-suffering you have in your storage bin. Without knowing all the factors and variables...... Many women have been hurt and wounded from their past. Some women are just reserved and their trust is slow coming and hard won, again usually because of those bad experiences and sometimes thats just how they are. The important thing to know is that only God can heal. You can't make a woman 'better' by being the 'one' that will show her how a 'real' man does it. You can not heal her, but men try, as do women. If you are healed and healthy and she is wounded, you are unequally yoked. If she is willing to yield that area to God and you are willing to stay and be patient while she goes through her process, then good. If not, you will suffer unduly because of what someone else has done and if it was me, I would remain a friend and try to encourage them. I would not enter into a relationship with someone who is not unbound and free to love. Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 10:17 AM 1babygirl have you been spying on me? :goofball: great advice, the both of you. sounds just like what the dr. ordered. Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 10:24 AM No spying! :laugh: But the we have the same Holy spirit, and He spies all the time! :peace: And I'm so glad He does, it's the reason we are able to effectively minister to one another. :rocknroll: Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 03:21 PM Before moving on, I would try having an open, honest conversation with her... Just explain that you enjoy getting to know her but that you feel like she doesn't care and isn't willing to open up to you... And that you would like to know why that is. Probe a little (gently, of course) to find out if she's just not into or if she just needs some more time. If she's not that into you, then move on. If she says that she just needs some more time to establish trust with you and open up, then you need to mutually decide together if the two of you are able to pursue a relationship in light of that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 03:38 PM yes. i did that, and all she does is avoid discussing it. it's evident she's not into it. i just hate not knowing why. Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 04:03 PM Hey Remp...If ya have done as Pixy suggested which is great advice by the way...an the Gal still aint openin up..well then..I wouldnt put anymore time in...she aint fer you...sometimes its best ta not know why there is no connection...Anywho...its her loss... :-)...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 04:19 PM Then I would move on! If she's not mature enough to even have that basic of a discussion with you, then she's not mature enough to be in a relationship that could lead to marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 06:37 PM You don't give the details. For me, it would depend on how much time I have invested. And, there may be temporary reasons (that have nothing to do with me) why the other person is not communicating right then. Or it could be they are very shy. You are the best judge since you are in the situation. If you feel that you have done your best and you are not getting any interest or response, then time to move on. May be you will never know "why". Add it to the list of what you'll ask about when you get to heaven! Post Reply
View Profile History	Stay or go Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 07:34 PM hehe. that's a good way of putting it godslamb :glow:. i now realize whether i ever know why or not, i just need to let go. thanks guys. Post Reply

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