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Admin	I'm new at this... Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 04:40 PM Ok so I am really going to put myself out here with this but here it goes. Im clueless...I dont have much dating experience... wait I dont have any, and I dont know what Im doing...LOL. My question to you gals is how long or how well do you want to know somone before you feel comfortable with them asking you out? I have only every had one girlfriend and she asked me out so that doesn't count. I dont want to sound like a winy or needy but I truely dont know what I am doing. So any dating advice would be of great help Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 06:22 PM Hi - my suggestion is to invite a girl to join you for a youth group activity for a start. Then maybe you could think about double dating with a friend. This will give you experience and you won't be under so much pressure. Confidence comes with experience. Maybe your library also has some books on the subject. Just be yourself and have fun. Don't try too hard to be perfect. Hope this helps you. - Wanda Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 07:16 PM Well truely and honestly it depends on the woman. Asking her out for a date? Toss the idea around. Get her to talk to you about a subject like movies coming out. And say hey that one sounds good maybe we should go see it sometime. If she wants to go on a date she'll either agree or disagree. But if you mean as your girlfriend when it feels right in your heart. Hope this helps :) Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 07:49 PM Thanx gals this really helps Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 09:53 PM If you haven't already, read my post in the young adults forum under misconceptions about niceness. It already has a lot of the advice I would give you. Really though, a strong woman of God is going to be looking for a strong man of God. Instead of worrying quite so much about the particulars of dating, focus on your relationship with Christ. Read books like, "Wild at Heart" and "The Silence of Adam" that will give you some good application of biblical masculinity in real life. Pursue your career, go where you feel called, and don't worry so much about girls. Above all, pray that God will make you more like him. Also, seek out guys you know who are really good with women. They can teach you all kinds of things about them that can't really be taught over the internet. Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 10:48 PM Hello again, Caleb! Tulip's advice is really good... The foremost thing that I'm looking for in a potential mate is someone who has a really strong, grounded relationship w/ God and who understands and practices Biblical masculinity. As far as how long you should know a girl before asking her out... For me, I'd want to know a for a few months first... Long enough to establish a good friendship and a comfort level where we can talk about pretty much anything w/ each other. It would be difficult for me to jump into a romantic relationship w/ someone who I barely know. Adding romance into the mix immediately complicates things and I need to feel safe w/ a guy before I am okay w/ being vulnerable w/ him in that way. But us gals are all different... And I don't always even follow my own rules... haha... I met this guy online last October and he expressed his romantic intentions for me about a week into knowing me and I leaped in head first. But I shouldn't have because he was all wrong for me. And had we just been friends for a few months, I probably would have figured that out w/out tangling up so many emotions in it and then feeling practically suicidal when he broke up with in February. I think when you know each other as friends first, it enables you to make a good judgment as to the suitability of your friend for a future spouse. There's a lot you can find out about a person w/in the context of friendship. I don't think there's a real need to be romantic w/ someone immediately... Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 11:20 AM Basically, if a girl really likes a guy, all her rules go out the window, so don't worry about girls' rules. If you think you like a girl, ask her to coffee or something. Don't do the whole, "Can I maybe meet you for coffee sometime possibly maybe? You don't have to if you don't want to. You know, it's just as friends or something," thing. Be confident! Confident + funny = magic! Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 01:54 PM Dating: When it comes down to it dating is giving you the chance to make the other person comfortable with interacting with you. It's delicate but worth it. Meeting 'the right one': Meet as many people as possible. Value and enjoy friendships as much as possible as often as possible. Look for ways you can be a better friend as that usually corrolates to being a better person. You never know what or who those friendships will lead to. It's all about choice. Think about the kind of person you want to be then choose to be just that. Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 04:11 PM Thank you everyone so much this info, it really helps and I appreciate it. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 05:47 PM You're welcome. We got your back like a chiropractor! Post Reply
ForgetMeNots View Profile History	I'm new at this... Posted : 12 Aug, 2010 05:39 AM I am sorry this doesn't help make things less confusing, but it varies cause it all depends on the relationship and its developement and the ones involved, because no one person is the same and their comfortability varies. One person may just want to be friends first, so then there would be a longer period than someone who wanted to date and see if date Number whatever, they bring up exclusiveness. Post Reply

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