Author	Thread: Messaging.
Admin	Messaging. Posted : 3 Dec, 2010 04:39 PM Hi again to all.My apologies for deleting my original profile here.Me & other people in my country are having some technical difficulties with the computers as a result with internet explorer,but i'm on here via Google Chorome.Anyway,my question is this,what is the right way to messaging to someone?It may be a strange one to ask here,but i'm asking here because of some problems i had with some ladies i had messaged here.One was about a time messaged some girls who i usually will look at their profile,& then if she replies to me back,then i would put "no" on the mail settings & then i would regularly message her this way.The problem was when i sometime later message them,they do' nt later reply & then they look at my profile which i guess to probly see if i'm real or something like that.So my question to you ladies (guys are welcomed if you know the answer) is this:Is it important to you to see that i viewed your profile?What about compliments.Are looking for compliments when you add or change your pics on your profile?Another problem is when i asked some ladies that i messaged "how are you?" they replied back,but if i ask "is everything ok out there with the weather?" or something along the line,they do'nt reply at all.So what should a guy ask or say then in order to make a conversation?How is important Instant Messaging to you?Do you prefer this than a Private Message which could take more time(which to me, is better when i want to know a girl).How come a girl can IM me,but i can't IM her?& last but no means least,why do some of you do'nt reply to my message when i first message you? I think that if you're truly a Christian,then the right thing to say is that you're not interested in the first place. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Messaging. Posted : 3 Dec, 2010 10:48 PM You have a lot of questions Mr. Wiseguy! The easiest answer is that women want a message that stands out or catches their attention. With as many messages as they get, it's rare that one seems worthy of a serious reply. The ones that respond for normal messages often respond with normal questions because that is the kind of question you asked. Try asking them something unique, like their favorite movie scene or childhood memory. Standing out and being unique should help you a good bit. As far as ignoring messages, many people think it's more polite not to respond than to respond with a message saying they're not interested. Don't take it personally or you'll end up rather upset unnecessarily. By the way, welcome to Google Chrome! Post Reply
View Profile History	Messaging. Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 03:42 AM the instant messaging problem is probably down to their internet security settings, their firewall prevents 'pop-ups' from being seen. I know this is the case with mine. I have to consciouly allow the 'pop-ups' from this site to recieve IM's Post Reply
View Profile History	Messaging. Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 08:17 AM Definitely try to stand out. Maybe start with a short introduction of yourself, and follow up with a unique question. Do not take it personally when they start to ignore you; a lot of women operate under the misconception that it is more rude to tell a man you've rejected him than to leave him hanging. Or it's just easier for them to leave you hanging. Keep in mind that most women are absolutely SWAMPED with messages and winks, and out of those kajillion she'll probably only be interested in one or two, so the odds are already kind of against you. It probably looks like I am trying to discourage you, but I'm not. It is all a matter of what God has planned for you and you being open to that and putting trust in him. But a standout message wouldn't hurt! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Messaging. Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 02:38 PM Like Siylii said, I think it's important to understand where a lot of women are coming from. Only when you understand where they're coming from can you begin to effectively communicate with anybody. One practical trick is to just start your first sentence in the subject line, and then finish it in the body of the paragraph. They'll be curious how the sentence ends and be more likely to open your message. For example, "subject: You sound like... Body: a pretty cool girl. Have you always wanted to be a pharmacy sales rep?" And so on and so forth Post Reply
View Profile History	Messaging. Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 04:26 PM So Tulip, what did you mean when you said...... (Just practicing ...how'd I do?...hehehe) Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Messaging. Posted : 4 Dec, 2010 04:32 PM Well if you... Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Messaging. Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 10:25 AM "Keep in mind that most women are absolutely SWAMPED with messages and winks, and out of those kajillion she'll probably only be interested in one or two, so the odds are already kind of against you." This is exactly the reason I wish that men would relax with all the messages. It makes the dating process that much harder. Post Reply
View Profile History	Messaging. Posted : 6 Dec, 2010 08:11 PM Thankyou all.I will keep in mind what you said here.Right i have more to say,but for now,it's a little too much to think about at this time. Post Reply