Author	Thread: "You're a nice guy, but............."
Admin	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 17 Mar, 2011 08:42 PM "You're a nice guy, but I'm not attracted to you" "You're a nice guy, but I don't think we'd be right for each other" "You're a nice guy, but I just don't see any chemistry between us" "You're a nice guy, but I don't want to hurt our friendship" ...and the list just goes on and on and on and on......... Everytime I hear the words "you're a nice guy, but..." come out of a girls mouth, I just feel the urge to punch her. I know it's not right to feel that way and I certainly do not condone physical abuse of any kind toward women (after all, I am a nice guy). But I have developed such a strong HATE (that's H-A-T-E in all capitol letters underlined and in bold with 3 exclamation points in the end) toward the term "nice guy". You know what they say about nice guys, right? "Nice guys finish last". I would probably make the perfect poster child for that phrase. I am 30 years old now and the older I get, the stronger my hatred for the term "nice guy" becomes. It leaves a very bitter taste in my mouth and it makes my stomach twist and turn more than a pile of rotting dog vomit infested with maggots. Most of my life I've suffered from being that nice guy that girls like having around as a "friend" or a "brother" because "I'm such a wondeful guy to have around". :goofball: I feel like I'm being punished for being a nice guy as if it's some kind of curse. Ladies, please do NOT tell me that I'm a nice guy. That term has completely lost it's meaning and value in my life. I'd much rather just have you punch me hard in my stomach instead. Post Reply
View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 17 Mar, 2011 10:14 PM I like being called a nice guy. jahjah, nice guys don't always finish last. The alternative is being a bad guy? No thanks. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 17 Mar, 2011 10:21 PM In general, nice guy = puppy or doormat. The other option is not necessarily bad guy, but good guy. Good guy = Man. Post Reply
View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 18 Mar, 2011 11:33 AM I think "nice guy" = "nice guy". I think it's the BUT that sucks sewer water... Post Reply
View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 19 Mar, 2011 01:42 PM "Everytime I hear the words "you're a nice guy, but..." come out of a girls mouth, I just feel the urge to punch her." "sucks sewer water..." --------------------- What a great thread, so many good one liners! Many women do not know how to express themselves simply. That is why they use so many words. (It is funny when a man says simply "I feel _______" , a woman will ask "what do you mean" and the man looks at her like 'I just told you'. It would be beneficial if the vocabulary of some women was limited, it would force them to say what they mean. Translation : Nice Guy = You lack the leadership qualities I look for in a man. *note : this does not necessarily mean a woman wants someone to follow, she may just want someone with enough backbone to argue with. Women want leaders to either follow or a man worthy of their powers of manipulation. Post Reply
View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 08:49 AM Alright, first off, jahjahwarrior, I would never be friends with a man who said the things you said. I would never feel safe around him. ... I know the funny thing about this site, and its something I have to watch out for is, in a moment of turbulence you may say the wrong thing, and there�s no delete button. It�s there forever. So, after reading your post I figure it was just one of those moments for you. However, I�d like to ask you to please reread your post again and see if you don�t owe women here an apology. That�s my opinion. Think about it. Post Reply
TonyP View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 10:22 AM dont like the your a nice guy but Post Reply
View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 07:23 PM quote by "live": "Alright, first off, jahjahwarrior, I would never be friends with a man who said the things you said. I would never feel safe around him. ... I know the funny thing about this site, and its something I have to watch out for is, in a moment of turbulence you may say the wrong thing, and there�s no delete button. It�s there forever. So, after reading your post I figure it was just one of those moments for you. However, I�d like to ask you to please reread your post again and see if you don�t owe women here an apology. That�s my opinion. Think about it." ------------------ Owe an apology for what? Being honest? All I was simply saying that I'm just sick of the how the term "nice guy" has been so degraded over the years. Perhaps maybe you got offended by the "I just feel the urge to punch her" part of my post. But if you really read through like you think you did, you also would've noticed that I followed that by emphasizing that I don't condone physical harm to women, but it's rather just an expression of frustration. I apologize that you cannot handle someone being brutally honest about something I have an issue with. I apologize for not sugar coating the issue to suit your emotional needs. And it's too bad that you don't want to be my friend, because I'm actually very kind and gentle and easy to get along with. Sometimes I just have my moments of frustration. Don't we all? Or are you one of the rare exceptions of people who have it all together? Post Reply
View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 10:06 PM "In la sua volontade e nostra pace."--The Study of Poetry It says, In His will there is peace. Think about it. Post Reply
View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 04:30 PM I get told all the time, you're such a great friend and i'm always the friend and I used to get down about it but then I realized one day God will place someone in my life that will end up being more than a friend so therefore I'm okay with being a great friend or a nice girl or hearing you're amazing but you're more like a sister because its just not the right people and there is no point in getting upset because at least you're not being called ugly things meaning you have something good to offer, just not for those people. Post Reply
View Profile History	"You're a nice guy, but............." Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 04:43 AM :( jahjahwarrior, I wanna apologize for the way I came off, kind of self-righteously when I said I wouldn't be friends with someone who said what you said. Obviously I'm not very understanding. :S But I'm sorry. And you're a cool person. :D God bless you for sharing your heart honestly on the forum post. Take care. --Me Post Reply