This one (no pun intended) has been on my mind for awhile and before I actually say what my view about this and how it is related to the Bible, I am curious about what other peoples views on this are on what part of the Bible they base in one.
The goal here is NOT to argue, but to shake out the truth about this topic based on the word of God and please keep that in mind when you post on this one.
Answers may vary. I think the world's concept of "The One" is skewed, and perverted.
Pray and see, God has a different plan for different people.
The bible does say ask and you shall receive.
I do believe God has one person in mind for those he has chosen that one person for, I know that sounds vague, but everything good that happens for your life is because of God, it's not fate, it's not fortune and it's not our own doing, just his will.
Well the answer to this question greatly depends on how you define certain terms.
If by "The One" you mean something along the lines of the one person God made for you and you for them according to His perfect will, then I would say yes it is possible for "The One" to exist.
The best Biblical example I can think of is right there in Genesis with Adam and Eve. God saw that it was not good for man to be alone so he created Eve from Adam's rib. Eve was "The One" for Adam and Adam was "The One" for Eve.
Does this mean that they had the perfect relationship or that they never had relationship issues? Nope!
Does everyone have a "The One" for them? The simple answer is no. For some God gives the gift of singleness which allows them to focus on the tasks God has planned for them. For example, the Apostle Paul never married and was focused solely on Christ. Do you think he could have done all the things that he manage to accomplish dragging an old ball n' chain? (kidding, don't hurt me ladies! lol)
The question we all wonder about is whether we have someone out there just for us according to God's perfect will and timing. The problem is we aren't omniscience only God is so it is pointless to speculate. However, God's word is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path and we can use it in our quest for "The One." "The One" will never be outside of God's will. If you have a crush on a really hot girl/guy, but they are living outside of God's word then they are NOT "The One" at least not yet (No that does not mean you "missionary date" them! :rolleyes:
Ultimately love is a choice, Christ chose the cross and bore our sins in the greatest display of love the world has ever seen. God gave us free will and we can choose to love who we want even if it is not within God's will for us.
If we truly believe that God has a perfect plan and purpose for each of our lives, then our focus should not be on the "little things" like "The One" but on Christ. If we are in a right relationship and if we are seeking after Him first and foremost in our lives then we will be ready when God sends "The One" our way.
Does that mean we shouldn't be looking or dating or courting or getting set up on horrible blind dates by our well intentioned friends?
Nope! But that should not be our primary focus. We should place nothing before God even if it is as good as something as "The One."
God must be first in our lives before all things and He will sometimes put us to the test just as God tested Abraham's faithfulness by asking him to sacrifice his own son!
If God asked you to place all your hopes, dreams, and desires for "The One" on the altar would you give them to Him and never look back?
My opinion is not etched in stone, but a work in progress at this particular time. Thus far?
God speaks about a man finding a wife, Ruth "put herself out there" and got her man Boaz, Jacob got a wife based on who was going to water his animals etc..got tricked and manipulated and ended up with 2.
Rather than reaching into the Bible and trying to figure out the formula, I choose to be lead by the Spirit.
I was talking to this guy last year and I had been asking God is he the "one". He didn't answer me right then (when I asked), but one time after speaking to the guy on the phone and THINKING about how I think he was good husband material, the Holy Spirit spoke to me (very clearly) and said, if you do, you will die early.
Yeah, I was trippin too. I was like, huh? I kept talking to him but was now on high alert for signs and signals and it didn't take long to see them. He got into an altercation while on the phone with me and WENT TOTALLY OFF. Man of God was cussin ole dude out real good. I couldn't believe it. He has a very volatile temper.
I don't know. I think God gives us choice, but if we will ask & listen, he'll direct us to the "one" that He approves.
I'm reposting this since this question was posted in 2 different forums, but I'm thinking it compliments IoaKim's answer nicely...
Just to throw it out there...
How many women did Adam have to choose from?
Did he have options?
Did he have to choose whom he'd be with?
Since we are unable to "see" the hearts of others, is it really any different today?
Who was it that prepared the "one" for Adam?
Who was it that prepared the "one" for Eve?
To this day, who is still the only One able to prepare the heart of anyone in order to present them to another of His children?
Who provided a wife for Issac?
Who was it that chose the twelve?
When we are focusing on serving the Lord, is there anything that God says we will have to "add" unto ourselves?
Or does HE say these things will be added unto us as we seek 1st His Kingdom and Righteousness?
Something else,
"if we who are wicked are able to give good gifts" - reminds me of our views on courting. In other words, if we who are parents think that "we're" interested in who our sons and daughters marry, just think of how interested God must be!
I thought that this was a very good post from "stegoodie" on the guys side and I want to post it here.
God is sovereign. He knows everything that has happened, is happening, and ever will happen. Nothing is outside his control. Since that is the case, there is nothing stopping God from bringing a man and woman together in marriage if that is his plan. If it's the plan, it will happen.
God also gives humans free will. We can choose to follow God or not. Here's where I think my argument is being misunderstood. There is no way I know what God's will is unless I'm in relationship with him. In fact, I have no idea of the details of God's grander plan so how can I see marrying any one person as part of God's plan until I've done so. I think God's will is very different from his plan. God wants what is best for all his children but he knows not all his children will choose to follow him. The plan reflects this. So if I can't know what the plan is, I see many options but whatever I do is part of God's plan. If I follow God's will in choosing a spouse, then all the better for me because I've done what is right in God's eyes and together, my spouse and I can work in accordance with God's will for the forwarding of his plan.
In light of this, the point I'm trying to make is that the idea of waiting for God to bring the "one" into your life can be dangerous/misguided. God directs us to follow after him, always tuned to him and the movement of his spirit. If we get so caught up in our idea of "the one," we may miss the person God wills us to marry or we may miss some other aspect of God's will because of our focus being incorrect.
So you see, tulip, I don't really think we are in disagreement. I think we are viewing things from different perspectives. There are always options, and God is always actively involved in our lives showing us his will. We can choose to follow or not but ultimately, whatever we do, it happens according to God's plan because he knows all.
