Author	Thread: Dating verses Relationship
Admin	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 6 Sep, 2012 10:42 AM A man should be more concerned about where the woman is in her relationship to Christ, rather than if he has Chemistry for her as to be his wife. A man friend on here ask me why I dont date and desire a relationship. Dont I have to date to see if there is Chemistry for a relationship to develop. My answer to him was a want to date a man not to be just dating but for a potinital partner for a relationship. Why cann't some " So Called" Christian men understand that? This man has over 20 favorites listed on his profile and says he looking for ANYTHING. Not sure what that really means...to me it sounds like a DATE. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 7 Sep, 2012 08:23 AM To me, it sounds as if he is desperate. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 7 Sep, 2012 09:59 AM Apostelle He maybe , but many people on these sites are and that should not be, we are suppose to be waiting on God to provide for our need. This is an Older man , but age does not always have to do with being desperate, many young people are deperate to find a spouse. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 7 Sep, 2012 10:16 AM I viewed many Men's profiles that say they are looking for Anything , and many say looking for dates. Unfortunately, they look for Chemistry more than they look at the heart of a Lady. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 7 Sep, 2012 12:02 PM I agree, ExceedingJoy. It is better to find out what kind of person we are talking to, in regard to their relationship to God, than their personality, hobbies, etc. We can find out the other thing later. If we are not compatable with them in a religious sense, then the other will not matter. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 7 Sep, 2012 02:33 PM ExceedingJoy: If "Anything" is posted on a profile it means any of the possibilities listed under Profile. Examples are activity partner, worship partner, date, talk and/or email friend, and long term relationship/marriage. May the LORD's face shine upon you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 9 Sep, 2012 08:38 AM So the Man is confused about whom he is seeking!!!:excited: Post Reply
Cortezisboaz View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 9 Oct, 2012 08:05 PM Anything in a profile seems to mean any and all of the choices provided by this site. IT doesn't seem to mean confused simply not focused on using a dating site for TUNNEL vision on making a particular type of connection. I would say that the number of people who have favorited someone is really out of their control. Anyone can favorite another person without them even knowing it. Chemistry is very important. A person's heart and walk in Christ is obviously important to Christians but what good does a person who is a good believer have to someone seeking a life partner if there is little or no chemistry between them outside of their mutual desire to love and please God? They should just be friends. A life partner requires real chemistry as well as the tools for relationship building, in addition to having a mutual love of God and desire to do his will. Without those 3 components in balance a relationship is doomed. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 10 Oct, 2012 12:00 PM Cortezisboaz You made some good points, however, Chemistry is not the most important issue when a Christian man is seeking a wife. He should seek a Godly woman. Many men are into looks and do not seek out if a woman is really walkint in Christ footsteps. Post Reply
Cortezisboaz View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 10 Oct, 2012 02:25 PM Doveabove Thank you dear sister. I however believe you misunderstood my comments about chemistry. I never said that it was more or the most important. I contend that it is very important. In fact this is what I stated: "A life partner requires real chemistry as well as the tools for relationship building, in addition to having a mutual love of God and desire to do his will. Without those 3 components in balance a relationship is doomed. " You see, my point has been that it is the 3 components that are very important. Have you not witnessed good christians who were not well suited for each other? I certainly have. I think its best to recognize the importance of chemistry and possessing TOOLS for relationship building such as communication,understanding, temperament, work ethic ect.before taking a step into dating let alone marriage. Christian marriages are failing as much as secular marriages for real reasons. How many pastors and evangelicals have been divorced? Something(s) is wrong. Its in the thinking. I think a person's heart and spiritual walk are extremely important...crucial for a good christian marriage. However if that is the only or main thing that draws two people together, they are better just being platonic friends in Christ. Post Reply
Cortezisboaz View Profile History	Dating verses Relationship Posted : 10 Oct, 2012 02:26 PM Doveabove Thank you dear sister. I however believe you misunderstood my comments about chemistry. I never said that it was more or the most important. I contend that it is very important. In fact this is what I stated: "A life partner requires real chemistry as well as the tools for relationship building, in addition to having a mutual love of God and desire to do his will. Without those 3 components in balance a relationship is doomed. " You see, my point has been that it is the 3 components that are very important. Have you not witnessed good christians who were not well suited for each other? I certainly have. I think its best to recognize the importance of chemistry and possessing TOOLS for relationship building such as communication,understanding, temperament, work ethic ect.before taking a step into dating let alone marriage. Christian marriages are failing as much as secular marriages for real reasons. How many pastors and evangelicals have been divorced? Something(s) is wrong. Its in the thinking. I think a person's heart and spiritual walk are extremely important...crucial for a good christian marriage. However if that is the only or main thing that draws two people together, they are better just being platonic friends in Christ. Post Reply