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When are you ready for a next relationship?
Posted : 2 Sep, 2013 07:04 PM

So I've had a 6,5 years of marriage behind me.

I know in the first 3 months, I've gone through crazy emotions. Sometimes wanting a person so badly that 2 days later when I came to my senses, I saw I made a mistake being with that person, going really really fast.



It's been 6 months now, and I still feel like I want to meet someone, spend a week together, and from that decide if we fit together or not. Sounds totally wrong, but I feel like that's what I feel like right now...

I feel like I never am going to be able to build a relationship slowly from scratch anymore, like it was when I met my first serious relationship.



When can I make rational decisions?



And when re-marrying, does my relationship need to build as slow as it did on my first marriage?

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When are you ready for a next relationship?
Posted : 3 Sep, 2013 03:25 AM

Heartaches and breakups cool or heal with time.

To be able to build another serious relationship you have to heal from the past otherwise it will always interfere with your present relationship.

People react in different ways,others go straight into new relationships and in most cases they don't work.

Take your time,pray about it,don't rush into anything.

It may not take as long as the first one but don't rush my dear.

When you wait upon the Lord and trust in Him to show you the way,then don't worry how long it takes coz God in His wisdom will be preparing you.

I hope it helps.



All the best brother.

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When are you ready for a next relationship?
Posted : 3 Sep, 2013 07:25 PM

The answer I like the best is half the time of the relationship plus a month. So for you it's gonna be a while, if you go by that rule that is. Anything longer than that indicates that you have deeper issues that ideally need to be addressed with the help of a counselor or psychiatrist and there's nothing wrong with that.

Also keep in mind it's not so much a matter of time that heals all wounds so much as what you're doing with that time. I'm not saying it'll go away tomorrow if you do all the right things, but it won't go away eventually if you don't do anything either.

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