Author	Thread: Repentence, Where did it go?
Admin	Repentence, Where did it go? Posted : 18 Jul, 2012 04:05 PM I hear alot of comments about what my spouse did this and they did that. I hear justification for divorce and even for remarriage. If we are called to confess our sins to oneanother and pray for oneanother thaT we might be healed. Where is that? Where is our responsibility? Where is our contribution to our failed marriages? Where is our need for a savior? Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Repentence, Where did it go? Posted : 21 Jul, 2012 02:42 PM I agree that we should be examining ourselves when any dispute, disagreement, or less than optimal situation occurs in a marriage (as well as a friendship or work relationship). I try to evaluate the other person's view as well as what I may have said or done, how I said or did it, and why I might have said/done it. For instance, I can sense when I am getting frustrated in a situation...and will try to step back from it and analyze why I got frustrated. If the other person is doing something that just irritates me, I will try to talk him about it...by identify the irritant, two things can happen. I can work on being more tolerant of it and he can work on not doing it around me so as not to irritate me. (or vice a versa). An example: I had a coworker that couldn't stand the sound of someone cracking their knuckles. I was an avid knuckle-cracker. When I found out she couldn't stand it, I became more conscience of knuckle cracking when she was around...and would do my best not to do it. Even though she had never said anything to me directly, my efforts made a great friendship even better. Knuckle cracking isnot a sin...I had very right to do it...but it was better that I decided to respect my friend's dislike of the practice. We can all make conscience choices if we know what to change to keep from irritating/provoking our spouse. Post Reply
View Profile History	Repentence, Where did it go? Posted : 22 Jul, 2012 05:02 AM So, since we have those triggers and buttons that others push........... isn't it obvious our spouse has buttons we have pushed????? And maybe......since we pushed their buttons so many times and they not kowing how to process these emotions they began to react toward us. React by growning distant, react by becoming angry....etc Isnt it possible if we just stop and think about it and humble our selves before our spouses those buttons can be healed? And their can be healing between divorced couples. This is not a easy thing to do. I had to do it with a neighbor of mine. To ask forgiveness for pushing one of his buttons. But in large we dont do this because we either are to afraid or to proud or we just lack faith that anything good could come from it. Who has the courage to do this work? and stop making excuses. Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Repentence, Where did it go? Posted : 22 Jul, 2012 08:32 PM Yes, we may push the other's triggers...sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally. �We are accountable for that...not for how they react. We should always be evaluating what we may have done, seek forgiveness as appropriate, and work to change those things we can. �We should work on changing our reactions to others...those are things we can and should do. We should not be blaming our spouse or anyone else for our actions or sins. �We can choose to be angry or to refrain from anger. �We are responsible and accountable for that. With God all things are possible... Post Reply

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