Thread: Men: Learn To Manage Your Anger Like Jesus Did
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Men: Learn To Manage Your Anger Like Jesus Did
Posted : 5 Apr, 2018 11:48 PM
Men: Manage Your Anger Like Jesus Did
This is such a great piece from Bill Perkins' new book, "When Good Men Get Angry." It is a word for such a time as this, to ALL men who call themselves Christian believers in Jesus Christ, they must learn to manage their inner anger like Jesus did.
You can count on feeling angry sometimes in our fallen world. But if you allow anger to run wild through your mind, it will control your thoughts and behavior, filling your life with its destructive power and hurting people around you. Thanks to your relationship with Jesus, however, you can control your anger so it won�t control you.
When you understand your true identity in Christ � as a good man with access to God�s Spirit to help you overcome sin � you�ll be able to think and act more like Jesus when you get angry.
Here�s how you can learn to manage your anger like Jesus did while He was on earth:
"Distinguish between good and bad forms of anger." Anger is a natural emotion that arises whenever you encounter a situation you perceive to be wrong. You can either process and express your anger in sinful ways � such as yelling at your wife or driving aggressively � or you can handle anger in ways that fuel a passion to advance God�s kingdom work. Ask God to help you see situations that make you angry from His perspective, so you�ll learn to recognize the difference between good and bad anger.
"Understand your true identity." Your true identity is in Christ, but when you allow anger to take over your thoughts and behavior, you�re allowing your flesh to steal your identity and define who you are. When you get angry, remind yourself of who you really are, and pray for the Holy Spirit to empower you to subdue your anger and direct it in the right ways.
"Turn to God for the respect you need." God has wired you as a man to need respect, but that need can become distorted so that any real or perceived act of disrespect can trigger inappropriate anger. If you�ve got a deficit in your respect bank, you may try to use anger to force others to treat you respectfully, but that will only lead them to disrespect you more. So whenever you feel anger due to disrespect, refuse to act on your initial impulse to explode in verbal or physical anger. Instead, remind yourself of how much God loves and respects you (it would help to memorize Bible verses like John 3:16 and John 17:23) and quickly pray for God�s help to act like a man of infinite worth even when you feel otherwise. Then determine whether the words and actions that have angered you are real or perceived acts of disrespect. In either case, don�t just react to your anger. Control your response as God leads you to do so.
"Let go of attempts to control others." People who don�t comply with your wishes can make you mad � from a child who doesn�t do chores to a fellow worker not following your instructions. But you can�t control other people. While it�s fine to give people advice, you can�t make them take it. Since God doesn�t impose His will on others, neither should you. Ask God to help you respect other people�s freedom to make their own decisions. Decide to trust God to work in other people�s lives, changing from them from within in ways that you could never do yourself. Have faith that God will work in other people�s lives when you pray for them rather than react angrily to them.
"Trade pride for humility." Pride can deceive you into thinking that you must be right on all topics, which leads to anger when others disagree with you. But if you pray for humility, God will give you an accurate view of yourself as a person with weaknesses who needs God�s grace. Read and meditate on Bible verses about humility, such as Philippians 2:3-8. When you get angry, ask yourself whether or not your anger is justified, and consider how you can use your anger in the way God wants you to do s to serve others. Don�t let pride prompt you to argue with others to try to set the record straight. Pray for God to help you see other people�s points of view. Wait until you can be calm before you talk to them about how they�ve treated you. Control your thoughts, words, and actions in obedience to God.
"Choose to forgive." After people hurt or offend you, you can choose to respond either with anger that will harm you even more or through the forgiveness God calls you to pursue. You can rely on God to help you through each step of the forgiveness process, despite your feelings. Instead of mentally replaying the incident in which you were wronged, focus your mental energy on positive and healthy thoughts. Pray for the people you need to forgive, asking God to bring something good into their lives. Gradually, you�ll start to see your feelings toward them change.
"Break the generational cycle of anger." You can help prevent your children from dealing with anger in destructive ways by blessing them through intentional acts like speaking words of encouragement to them, giving them physical affection (hugs, etc.), and offering visionary prayers that focus on how you believe God will use them in the future to fulfill great purposes. Talk with your children often and help them develop a biblical view of life. Teach them to talk through anger when they experience it, and respond to it in ways that reflect biblical truth.
"Help your wife help you." Talk with your wife about how she can respond to your anger in ways that will help you calm down and deal appropriately with your anger. Encourage her to listen to you, empathize with you, gently explain what happened from her perspective, walk away when you�re too angry to talk calmly at a particular moment, and work through the forgiveness process with you.
Adapted from When Good Men Get Angry, copyright 2009 by Bill Perkins. Published by Tyndale House Publishers, Carol Stream, Ill., www.tyndale.com.
Bill Perkins served as a senior pastor for 24 years and is the founder and CEO of Million Mighty Men. He is a graduate of the University of Texas and Dallas Theological Seminary. Bill has authored or collaborated on 17 books, including Six Battles Every Man Must Win, 6 Rules Every Man Must Break, and the best-selling When Good Men Are Tempted. He also coauthored the business book Give �Em the Pickle! He and his wife, Cindy, live in West Linn, Oregon. They have three sons, a daughter-in-law, and two grandchildren.
What is a pastoral candidate, i cannot find such a title, name of phrase in the WORD of GOD Almighty. That must be another work of man, not GOD Almighty seeing that POSITION is not mentioned even once in the Scriptures.
Maybe that position reminds me of politicians, do they not also candidate to be the candidate.
As i have stated before, and will state again, the 'church' whether 501C , or any other is not of GOD Almighty, the 'church' is the work of men.
Since Ella continually refuses to answer as to whether the above Scriptures are inspired by God we will have to speculate about her reasons for refusal.
We know that she has been a woman Pastor of a Baptist church in Las Vegas, Nevada for the past 32 years. This is probably a Liberal Baptist Church that believes all or some of Paul's writings are not inspired by God since he condemned woman Pastors in I Timothy 2:11 and I Corinthians 15:34,35 above.
Since most of the people in Las Vegas work for some of these very evil Vegas gambling Casino Hotels or work for companies that profit from these Casinos; the more liberal churches rarely condemn these Casinos even though they essentially rob people of their money because of the tremendous odds against them and corrupt people's morals with free Alcohol and their Topless women's shows with their very evil gyrations.
In her profile Ella lists her profession as an Divorced Evangelist who is looking for a man who is a minister, and who wants to move to the beautiful, luxurious Hawaii where they both will minister until Jesus returns **BEFORE** the Great Tribulation. Liberal churches who preach some degree of the Prosperity Gospel never teach that their followers will have the go through the Great Tribulation.
Just an observation....I dont see the point as to why Richard is do obsessed with Ella's history of evangelism...why he Continues to Harrass her (where's the love of Christ in it?) on Every Post... I've been on this site for sometime now...(Years)...and all the times Richard has been asked to Stay on Topic and Answer dirrect questions...he doesn't...I prefer not to speculate...it only opens doors to confusion.....
All I read and see is Anger...Harrasment
..Opinions...Control Issues and Childish behavior...Not much Management of Any of it...weres the scathing the head icon???...Anywho...I really don't see the point of wasting energy of beating a person down about any of it...Yahshua/Jesus NEVER beat down Anyone over and over and over again...He loved them...regardless of their shortcomings...Only those which Denied that He is Messiah did He rebuke...and then...while hanging on the Cross...
"Father...forgive them for they know not what they do"...
GodsJude: Your loyalty to your good friend Ella is very commendable. So maybe you would like to answer the question that Ella refuses to answer:
Do you believe the following scriptures are inspired by God??
I Timothy 2:11: A **WOMAN** should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a **WOMEN** **TO TEACH** or to assume authority **OVER A MAN**!
I Corinthians 15:34,35:**WOMEN** should remain silent in the churches, They are not allowed **TO SPEAK**, but must be in submission, as the law says. If they want to inquire about anything, they should ask their husbands at home; for it is **DISGRACEFUL** for a **WOMAN** **TO SPEAK IN THE CHURCH**!!
2 Peter 3:15,16: Bear in mind that our Lord's patience means salvation, just as our **DEAR BROTHER PAUL** also wrote you with the **WISDOM GOD GAVE TO HIM**. He writes the same way in all his letters, speaking in them of these matters. His letters contain some things that are hard to understand {To unbelievers} which **IGNORANT AND UNSTABLE PEOPLE DISTORT**, as they do other Scriptures, to their own **DESTRUCTION**!
I Timothy 3:16,17: All Scripture is **GOD-BREATHEED** and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who will judge the living and the dead and in view of His appearing and His Kingdom, I give you this charge: **PREACH THE WORD**; be prepared in season in out of season, correct, rebuke and encourage--with great patience and careful instruction. For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear!!
I Peter 1:23-25: For you have been **BORN AGAIN**, not of perishable seed but the imperishable, through the living and enduring **WORD OF GOD**. For all people are like grass, and all their glory is like flowers in the field; the grass withers and the flowers fail, but the **WORD OF THE LORD ENDURES FOREVER**!!
At last, Ella who is a woman preacher in churches is responding to Scripture which condemns woman preachers in Churches in I Corinthians 14:34,35
Ella's Quotes:
GNWS... "Please explain what this passage means that you have quoted: 1 Corinthians 14:34 "The women are to keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves, just as the Law also says. ."
"Also what "LAW" IS IN REFERENCE HERE THAT PAUL SPEAKS OF?..."
I Corinthians 14:34,35: {NIV}**WOMEN** should remain silent in the churches, They are not allowed **TO SPEAK**, but must be in submission, as the *LAW* says. If they want to inquire about anything, they should ask their husbands at home; for it is **DISGRACEFUL** for a **WOMAN** **TO SPEAK IN THE CHURCH**!!
Ella obviously challenging whether the law Paul is speaking of is OT Law or some law not in God's Word or **CHRIST'S LAW**.
Paul has stated about 14 times that we are no longer under the supervision of OT Law as per: Galatians 3:25: Paul was inspired by God to write: Before faith came, we were held prisoners by the law, locked up until faith should be revealed. So the law was put in charge to lead us to Christ that we might be justified by faith. Now that faith has come we are **NO LONGER UNDER THE SUPERVISION OF THE {OT} LAW**!
I Corinthians 9:21: Paul said, "I am not free from God's law but am under **CHRIST'S LAW**!!"
Acts 22:14,15: Ananias said to Paul, "The God of our ancestors has chosen you to know **HIS WILL** and to see the Righteous One and to hear words from His mouth!! You will be **HIS WITNESS** to all people of what you have seen and heard!
Acts 20:27: Paul said, "For I have not hesitated to proclaim to you the **WHOLE WILL OF GOD**!
God chose Paul to write 14 of the 27 books in the NT of **CHRIST'S LAW**! And God chose Paul to give the rules for teaching and preaching in the church by Elders, Overseers, Pastors and Teachers in I Timothy, 2 Timothy, Titus, I Corinthians 14 and Ephesians 4:11-24 and other places.
Some of these inspired writings include:
** WHAT DOES GOD'S WORD SAY ABOUT THE PREACHING AND TEACHING OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE CHURCH**??
Titus 1:6-9: An **ELDER** must be blameless, faithful to **HIS** wife, a **MAN** whose children believe... Since an **OVERSEER** manages God's household, **HE** must be blameless... **HE** must **HOLD FIRMLY** to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that **HE** can encourage others by **SOUND DOCTRINE and **REFUTE THOSE** WHO OPPOSE IT**.
I Timothy 5:17: The **ELDERS** who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of a double honor, especially those whose work is **PREACHING ** and **TEACHING**!
I Timothy 3:1 Whoever desires to be an **OVERSEER** desires a noble task. Now the **OVERSEER**is to be above reproach, faithful to **HIS** wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable and **ABLE TO TEACH**!!
I Timothy 2:11: A **WOMAN** should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a **WOMEN** **TO TEACH** or to assume authority **OVER A MAN**!
I Corinthians 15:34,35:**WOMEN** should remain silent in the churches, They are not allowed **TO SPEAK**, but must be in submission, as the law says. If they want to inquire about anything, they should ask their husbands at home; for it is **DISGRACEFUL** for a **WOMAN** **TO SPEAK IN THE CHURCH**!!
2 Peter 3:15,16: Bear in mind that our Lord's patience means salvation, just as our **DEAR BROTHER PAUL** also wrote you with the **WISDOM GOD GAVE TO HIM**. He writes the same way in all his letters, speaking in them of these matters. His letters contain some things that are hard to understand {To unbelievers} which **IGNORANT AND UNSTABLE PEOPLE DISTORT**, as they do other Scriptures, to their own **DESTRUCTION**!
I Timothy 3:16,17: All Scripture is **GOD-BREATHEED** and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who will judge the living and the dead and in view of His appearing and His Kingdom, I give you this charge: **PREACH THE WORD**; be prepared in season in out of season, correct, rebuke and encourage--with great patience and careful instruction. For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear!!
I Peter 1:23-25: For you have been **BORN AGAIN**, not of perishable seed but the imperishable, through the living and enduring **WORD OF GOD**. For all people are like grass, and all their glory is like flowers in the field; the grass withers and the flowers fail, but the **WORD OF THE LORD ENDURES FOREVER**!!
Apparently Ella has consistently for 32 years broken **CHRIST'S NT LAWS** in I Corinthians 14:34,35 and I Timothy 2:11 unless she can prove that these are not CHRIST'S NT LAWS**.
Ephesians 4:7,11-13: To each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it... It is **HE** {Not churches!} who gives some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, and some to be pastors and teachers, to prepare God's people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up.
5 Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;
2 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.
3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
4 Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.
5 For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.
6 Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.
7 Be not ye therefore partakers with them.
8 For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:
9 (For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;)
10 Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord.
11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.
12 For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.
13 But all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is light.
14 Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light.
15 See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,
16 Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
17 Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.
18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;
19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;
20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
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