Dating? A word created by man and with only worldly ways. Our modern day society created the term dating, and even we as Christians have adopted it and justified it as ok. Taking the truth of marriage and the ways of the Lord out of how the Lord intends it to be and be built. To explain further, I will elaborate. Today people even Christians look for someone who they are attracted to, and maybe even enjoy talking to, and then jump right into dating that person. Yes! Right into a relationship. All done with no consideration to being equally yoked or even having any idea of what it means to be equally yoked. I may sound upset, and that is because I am! Our society has totally abandoned the ways of the Lord and now even the church justifies these worldly ways of dating or being in a relationship. Then when these two people decide to marry, the church now wants to have premarital classes...lol what a joke! The relationship was not started in the Lord. The two have no idea what being equally yoked means, or how to wait upon the Lord and allow him to show them step by step before entering into even a courtship time before marriage. So, how can the church of today expect these marriages to last or even grow in the Lord when they were never started in him to begin with?
My heart truly bleeds for today�s Christians and how they are being told to be equally yoked maybe, but never given true understanding of it or guided in it. First off, I don�t think most young people or people today really sit down know who they are in the Lord. What I mean here is. What gifts do you have? What is your thinking and beliefs in the Lord? What direction do are you being lead by him that you were created by him to be? To me, how can one even begin to think about a relationship based upon and in the Lord without know these things about themselves? These are just truths to begin with. It goes much deeper. Truth is the Lord created every one of us, and has a his will and purpose for each of us. What makes us think we are smarter than the Lord, and can pick own spouse? When I stopped to think about this, it truly blow me away! For yes, I thought I knew what was best, when in truth I had no understanding of what I was doing. That is where most are at today also. Most do not have any true idea or understanding of the Lord�s ways or how to even follow him or how to allow him to prove all things in time.
For if you desire a relationship in and of the Lord, you must begin by allowing him to prove all things in time. To me this does not mean jumping into meaningless dating relationships to see. No, it means getting to know the person inside through talking and communication, casual meeting as only a friend. It does not mean you should or have to be in a committed relationship or do the worldly dating to allow the Lord to prove these things. What I�m saying is first discover who you are in the Lord, and stop focusing on having worldly things in common with someone. Start focusing on the gifts and things of and in the Lord you have. If you desire a godly marriage, you sure will not build through worldly common things, huh? My heart truly bleeds and yearns for all to come to understand how to come to know who you are in the Lord and then allow him to prove all things for marriage in time and not taking steps or committing to anything he does not prove in time and make totally clear. For to follow him is to allow him. Assumption is only of self and off the path of waiting on him or allowing him to guide you. I pray this can truly help and bless many to understand the truth of a relationship in the Lord.
amen brother. it is written: "seek ye first the kingdom of God..." too many of us fumble around in the dark instead of following that commandment, we do not realize how vital a foundation it is.
