Author	Thread: Loneliness
Christiane View Profile History	Loneliness Posted : 8 Nov, 2011 03:15 PM Why do single people feel lonely? Post Reply
View Profile History	Loneliness Posted : 8 Nov, 2011 08:38 PM I think God created us to live in community with each other. Post Reply
Christiane View Profile History	Loneliness Posted : 9 Nov, 2011 12:04 AM I asked why do single people feel lonely. It is a simple question and almost a stupid one, but not so. Let's look deep into the matter and I would love for your ladies and gentlemen to share if you agree with what I wrote bellow. Why do single people feel lonely? We may have several people in our lives, male and female, yet there is a void, something is missing, we feel incomplete. God creates man and woman in a very distinct way physically, creatively, emotionally, etc. so they are naturally attracted to each other for a perfect fit, like the lock and the key that fits together. There are two main distinctions between man and woman. A man needs to be respected, to be affirmed and encouraged. A woman needs to have attention, to be nurtured and feel significant. A woman often complains that her husband doesn�t pay enough attention to her or show appreciation to her and man often feel that his wife is not affirming or respecting him enough but always criticizing him. The problem is that both of them fail to fulfill their role to each other and tend to focus more on what the other one is not doing instead of doing their part. If the woman is not encouraging the man enough, supporting him, affirming him and building him up, even gently correcting him for his improvement, he will go on without having that need met therefor he has no reason to show appreciation for the woman who is instead of building him up is putting him down. As the woman was created to be a man�s helper she should be the first one to make sure she is fulfilling her role in his life. If she does so, she will get his attention and appreciation. In Ephesians chapter 5 women are commanded to respect and submit to their husbands, and husbands are commanded to love (care for and enjoy) their wives. This is the perfect Godly order for a couple. We may have many different people in our lives and many kinds of relationship with the opposite gender, but it is God�s design for us to be or to have a helpmate, the one we will cleave on to and become one with. If we fail in our previous relationship as a couple, let�s look back and examine how we fulfilled our designed role as a man or as a woman and learn from our mistakes. Repent, turn from our old ways and focus in assuming our own role in a couple. Wives respect your husbands, husbands love your wives. Biblical foundation In Genesis chapter 1 and 2 we see that God created man and woman, but Adam was created first and was the only human being on earth for a period of time. God placed Adam in the garden to work in it and take care of it. He also gave Adam so much wisdom that He assigned him to name all the animals. On doing this Adam realized that all the animals were in pairs of male and female, but for him there was no one in his human likeness. God had already planned to give Adam a suitable mate, but it only took place after Adam desired for it. Adam had everything God had created and surely was very busy working in the garden and naming the animals. There was no rush and he was very capable of doing all the work in his own time for he had the eternity to do it. The world was in perfect harmony and with all the wisdom he had, it wasn�t such a hard job to accomplish, he even had a whole day to rest every week. He wasn�t really lonely for God fellowship with him, what more could he wish for? God himself made the statement that it was not good (perfect, complete) for man to be alone so when the time was right, when Adam deeply desired a helpmate and was ready for her, God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man�s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man. The man said, �This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman for she was taken out of man.� First the man acknowledged that he was not complete, there was something missing and he earnestly desired a helpmate. The woman was made from a rib taken from the man, in this way they are part of each other, and together they are one. God bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	Loneliness Posted : 9 Nov, 2011 05:29 PM funny this subject is up. I have been divorced 14 years and I just signed up for this site today, after staying away from online dating sites for quite awhile, like a year I think? But even with fulltime school, work, church activities, reading the Word in the a.m. and the p.m. I still get horribly lonely sometimes. I live alone and don't even have a doggy anymore:( Wah!!! I hate to be a whiner:) but I can't figure out the lonliness. Seems I get used to it unless we really aren't meant to live alone, without a mate?? God bless all, Denise Post Reply
jimi66 View Profile History	Loneliness Posted : 9 Nov, 2011 06:30 PM its a good question, i've been alone for 9 yrs now and was absolutely ok with that. it had become normal to me. all that time i truly believed that it just wasn't in Gods plans for me. I guess now its all caught up with me. i see couples walking hand in hand and find myself wishing someone was holding mine. i see old couples walking hand in hand and thinking how awesome that must be to have been together so long and still so much in love, then wonder how long i'll have to love when and if i find someone. i always wondered why id get depressed at new years eve get togethers with the family and friends. i realized that when i looked around all i saw were couples and when the ball dropped i found that my heart dropped with it. theres so much of Gods beauty in this world i just cant believe he meant us to see it all alone. its meant to be shared with one you love, under the eyes of the one who loves you. i've seen to many of Gods beautiful sunsets on venice beach alone. Post Reply
View Profile History	Loneliness Posted : 9 Nov, 2011 07:01 PM Wow, thanks for sharing your heart. I don't hear a man do that often but one following Christ would be like that to my understanding. I look at the men of the bible and they certainly wrote about their feelings:) I know you will meet someone in God's timing. Now all I have to believe is the same for me, LOL:) God bless, a sister in Christ, Denise Post Reply