Not easy looking for get dating and relationships with a man western. Sometimes, i said from my heart never ever can find but i dream it get married with a man from outher country.
Onnylestari, it can be very difficult for many reasons. First of all, we western men tend to get offers from a lot of women who are only looking for a way to get US citizenship (or German or British or French�.). While there are some men who just want to have a wife for the sake of having a wife, most of us want a wife who will be our best friend. But, it can be very difficult to know if the woman really loves you, or is just looking for a way into our country. I am not sure why you are looking for a western man, but I have heard a few very good reasons for why a woman from your country is looking for someone who is not from your area of the world.
The second reason why it is hard is because for many of us being married is all about the �feeling� of love, and it can be hard for us to feel that way when we are so far apart.
The third reason is that most of us would prefer to meet you in person at some point before getting engaged, but we don�t have the money to fly over and meet you.
Those are some of the reasons why, but I would say the first reason, trust, is the biggest reason why you are having problems meeting someone. I know this is probably not easy for you, but the best way for you to meet a westerner is to go to places where they are.
1) But, it can be very difficult to know if the woman really loves you, or is just looking for a way into our country
=> I thought that's why we need to have an open communication to share views and though before decide to go forward into one serious relationship. I do believe that you western guys will not meet a girl from outside of your country and decide to marry them in one week, at least you will spend some time to know each other more whilst continue to pray for God's will.
2) for many of us being married is all about the �feeling� of love, and it can be hard for us to feel that way when we are so far apart.
=> and what is the definition of "feeling" of love ? In my understand love is more about action than only just a feeling because feeling can be changed by the circumstance but action will be last. If you said you love someone then do something, distance can be solved in a few hours by the modern transportation.
3) trust, is the biggest reason why you are having problems meeting someone
=> Still related to the first one "communication". There's no guarantee even the girl from the same country with you that you can trust them more, all you need to know is find out by communication and pray.
Hi Onny & Assing, I am glad knowing that there are other Indonesian women who frankly talked what are inside your heart. Yes, I have the same problem as you all. I tried to submit my friendship offering to western guys, but most of them rejected me, I thought : do I look so bad, so nobody want to be my friends. :glow:
Most of us here want to have more friends and if we are luck so we can find our soul mate here, but due to many scammer or wrong motivation from wicked people, so make the trusty fly away. Yes, maybe some people think we only use them to get benefit for citizenship, basically all talking about trust.
Purely, I join this website hoping that I can find a partner who has the same vision with me to fulfill God's will, perhaps if I can't meet in Indonesia, so I can meet at other area out of the country, but it's not easy as I expected. Sometimes I think that they are afraid of Indonesian, maybe full of terrorists :laugh: or more over, they think we are scammer, just want to get their money and being a cheat. :ROFL:.
But I still put my confident that one day I can meet a man who has an open minded and have a braveness and a willing heart to give a chance for a friendship, who can trust and be trusted. I believe if we have pure motivation, He who reign in Heaven will grant us the best partner with the best heart.:peace:
