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Dutchvan777 View Profile History	Can any of you fellow men identify with these problems? Posted : 21 Mar, 2013 07:41 PM Hey fellow men out there in CDFFland. I thought I would post this so we could compare notes. Can any of you fellow men identify with these problems? Could I for once get a job as an air traffic controlling and start com-plane-ing about one little thing? Haha, :) Very, very few of you women out there reply to my messages. I'm sorry for complaining, am I sinning? I guess I am. Israel complained in the wilderness and God punished them. I know that the desire for a wife is not wrong, but desiring a wife can become an idol. Desiring a wife becomes an idol when I sin in my desiring for a wife. Somehow, I must find all that I need in Christ. May God help me. It is alittle rough at times, finding the right woman for you. With online dating, it is like looking for a needle in a haystack. It is so frustrating for me because I have like a strange phobia/shyness/disorder when it comes to dating the girls around me. There are many, many girls at the Bible college I attend, that I would LOVE to marry. The problem is I just can't seem to get the courage and bravery to choose one and step into their lives. I have prayed to God for the grace needed to have the courage needed to just walk up to a girl I like and talk to her and try to start a relationship. However, it is like a phobia/shyness/disorder. I don't like the publicity I feel with dating at my Bible college. I feel like everyone is looking at me, if I started talking to girls that I like. Also, it makes me feel nervous to let everyone know that I am sexually attracted to a certain girl. On the other hand, I think online dating is great! I don't have the strange phobia/shyness/disorder problem. I email any girl on CDFF that is a non-cult protestant Christian. This would include non-denominational women. I email any girl who says anything about God, church, or the Bible. I email any girl who is my age or younger. I email any girl who is my height or shorter. I email any girl who is thin and attractive. I email any girl who is single and does not have kids. I am not racist, but I tend to like girls who are not African, that is unless they are more lighter skinned. I want to do all this talking, but the problem is the GIRLS don't respond to my emails or say no. These are my points that I feel I have to have for me to be interested in a girl. I must admit, however, godliness should be top priority. Groan! I don't talk to ANY girls at Bible college, but VERY FEW girls talk to me in online dating! Very messed up world we all live in. I am also on match.com. The women on match.com are even worse, they hardly ever respond. It is times like these, we need to trust God. Jesus died on the cross for my sins. I owe my life to Him. I have many, many undeserved blessings. Health, education, a job, a car, loving parents, a warm dorm-room, clean clothes, a peaceful and free country, and most of all when I die, I will go to heaven for all eternity. 1 Peter 5:6-8 says �Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, 7 casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.� God REALLY DOES CARE when you and I face these trials. May you and I pray to God about our problems of finding the right woman for us. I have been talking to a girl from the Philippines who was on CDFF, for the past few months. We were getting sortof serious. However, she just told me, no, because she thought our doctrinal differences were too great. Her church has women pastors, yet the Bible explicitly says that ONLY men should be the pastors. (1 Cor. 14:34, 1 Tim. 2:12-14, 1 Tim. 3:2, 1 Tim. 3:4-5, 7, Tim. 3:8, Titus 1:5-7) Honestly, I was shocked. I didn�t think that the issue of women pastors was that much of a deal-breaker in our relationship. I also talked to a girl from Malaysia, and a girl from Indonesia, but I am not really that serious about these relationships. I am also talking to another girl from the Philippines who was on CDFF, for the past few weeks. This girl is Baptist like me. Her sister recently married an American from Texas. She seems quite interested in me. I may go this route in my life, who knows? Post Reply
View Profile History	Can any of you fellow men identify with these problems? Posted : 22 Mar, 2013 03:56 AM No risk no reward....... So here is what you do in real life. Find a girl you are not intimidated by and start talking to her. Ask her out and begin to get to know her. Practice being around girls and feeling more comfortable with them. Remmber girls are more insecure than you are they just know how to hide it. Girls want a guy who will take the first step toward them. The fear of rejection is greater than the reality. Girls are responders some will respond favorably and some will not. Remember Jesus was rejected. Do you think He was rejected for good reasons? If He was why not you? It only take once or twice to be rejected and you will begin to develop confidence and security. Complaining and pointing out girls flaws never works. It makes you look pethetic in their eyes and they want strength. Girls need our strength but you have to learn how to be strong since no one taught you. They need a ballence of strength, compassion, witt, and tenderness. Girls love to laugh. If you can make a girl laugh she will want to be around you always. If you are downer she will avoid you like the plague. Now go get them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Can any of you fellow men identify with these problems? Posted : 24 Mar, 2013 08:50 AM I think you really need to know who you are in the eyes of the Father.Totally acceptable to accomplish all things in life.Completely equal with all people,from the beauty queen to the muscle man.You have to always remember your equality in that when you fail,ALL have failed also.Every failure brings lesson and you one step closer to success.So what if she says no or people laugh.Who are they to laugh that they have not been rejected themselves and are only trying to suppress thier own pains by your demise.Brother you have been placed on this earth in Love with great intent!Know who you are and things will come easier for you! Post Reply

View Profile History	Can any of you fellow men identify with these problems? Posted : 24 Mar, 2013 10:16 AM Right on Mike, Post Reply
Dutchvan777 View Profile History	Can any of you fellow men identify with these problems? Posted : 3 Apr, 2013 08:40 PM Yes, Mike, Thanks for your wisdom. Just got to have patience. Pray for God to work, and quickly! Post Reply