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JistJoe
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Family's ruin everything!Posted : 8 Nov, 2009 08:56 PMSo Ive just gotten out of a relationship that lasted a little over a year. I guess the reason it didn't work is mainly because of our families. Her sisters and their boyfriends that I'm supposed to keep up with and her rich, impossible to live up to parents. And my family if thats what you wanna call it. My oldest brother who is like a distant relative. Only comes around on holidays and I don't blame him. My second oldest has a few disabilities. Torrets syndrome, obsessive compulsive, dyslexia. basically he's socially retarded. I love him but its impossible to have friends or a girlfriend become comfortable around him. And my third older brother commit suicide two years ago this thanksgiving. If anyone has had something like this happen to your family you know that it can either brings you closer together or rip you apart. After that I became so closed off from them and I'm not sure why, but its very hard to introduce a girl to my family. And this girl I was dating lived far enough away that I always found ways to get out of it. I always avoided her family too, but I did meet them and in any other situation I would have gotten along with them fine, but because I knew it would ruin my relationship with her If I didn't get in good with her family I froze up around them always and was never comfortable when we went over to their house. It drove her nuts. We were talking about getting married and having kids. We loved eachother to death and I still love her. About the only thing we would fight about was our families. I didn't let her meet mine and didn't get along with hers. I still feel sick about it and its been over a month since we broke up. The rest of my family is so distant already. they live in another state and I never see them. Its hard to imagine a wedding with family on only one side. So thats my story.Im sure I didn't explain everything but the jist of it is, I met a perfect girl and we loved eachother and wanted to get married and I still love her and now its over. Not because of anything she did or I did, but simply because of our families. |
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Family's ruin everything!Posted : 9 Nov, 2009 02:42 PMHey Joe!! :waving: |
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JistJoe
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Family's ruin everything!Posted : 10 Nov, 2009 01:32 AMI dont know how to expain it fully. I just wanted to rant to someone how frustrated I am. I love my girlfriend and want her back and i think she wants me back but its impossible because of our families. I guess theres nothing anyone can say. Thanks for you input. It does mean alot. Also she is not a christian and i am. And I come from a christian family and she doesnt so that made it a challenge too. |
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Family's ruin everything!Posted : 10 Nov, 2009 06:45 PMDude, I would just tell you to give your trust back to God & follow Him with a childlike faith. |
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JistJoe
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Family's ruin everything!Posted : 12 Nov, 2009 12:33 AMWow...thanks dude. I dont really know where i stand with God. It seems wrong that were not together. We started having sex after dating for three months, not that that was right, but "the two become one flesh" you know? I felt like I owed her my life after that even though she's not a Christian. She would ask me about what I believe sometimes like she wanted it. I worry that without me she will eventually forget why she was ever interested in that. On the other hand sometimes she would be so arrogant and cynical towards Christianity that she made me feel like never talking to her again. And just hanging out with her, I would always do things that I could avoid otherwise like drinking or whatever. You loose your identity in a person when you get close enough to them you know. I still dont know what to think. The whole thing is so confusing to me, like no matter what I did it was wrong. Maybe its good that I dont really have a choice. |
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Family's ruin everything!Posted : 2 Jan, 2010 04:20 PMThe main thing right now is to focus on God. Ask God what He wants you to do. There is so much temptation and when it comes to love making that is when we have to live by God's rules. It makes it even harder when you love someone so deeply. I have been celibate for 6 years and I will until I marry again. I won't make the same mistake again. I am here to please God and live my life in His glory not mine. We have to put God first no matter what and once we do then God will bless you in so many ways. |