Author	Thread: Confused
Admin	Confused Posted : 22 Aug, 2011 03:51 PM Ok so I met this girl on another dating site who is a christian. She showed interest in me and we started chatting back and forth on that site. She then tells me to look her up on FB. I find her on there and we chat back and forth a little more. I am interested in this girl and she seems to be in me so I go ahead and msg her saying that I find her to be a very fun and interesting person and that I would like to get her number so we can acually talk to each other and possibly meet up. I send her the msg and I dont get any response back. Ok I figure she isn't ready yet to talk. Acouple days go by and I see that she is online, so I try and chat with her again. She doesn't respond. Now I'm confused, she seemed to show interest and now she acts as if I dont exist. Does it seem like I did anything wrong? I would really like to get to know her better but I dont want to seem pushy and forceful. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Confused Posted : 22 Aug, 2011 04:00 PM Without knowing exactly what was said on both sides, and without knowing the exact timeline, it's hard to really tell. But from what you said about the situation, I didn't see where you did anything wrong. (Of course, I wouldn't "friend" a guy on FB unless I were willing to also give him my phone number. That's just me, though!) Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Confused Posted : 22 Aug, 2011 08:45 PM I agree with BC...I think your approach was appropriate. She obviously hasn't be reading the threadsnhere that talk about etiquette for online dating sites! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Confused Posted : 22 Aug, 2011 10:35 PM It could be anything from her friend going through a bad breakup and needing all her emotional support to another guy she likes better to a church service she just heard about how you should stay single forever to her praying about your relationship and getting a no from God but not being able to tell you maturely to her being on her phone and not being able to message you back. Don't worry about it. If you want, you could send her another message saying that you thought she was cool, and you enjoyed getting to know her, but it's probably best that you two part ways. It may help give you closure to send a final message. I guess there's also the chance that she could message you back for whatever reason out of the blue, wanting to talk again. It's your decision what to do if she does that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 22 Aug, 2011 11:14 PM I would not befriend anyone on FB if I was not interested in them. Not sure why she doesn't give you her phone number or at least message you back. I would just send her a final message. Then wait to see what happens. I have been asked by guys online to give them my phone number and why I reaply no, it is too soon. They usually drop out of the picture. I do not give out my number quickly, emailing and chating is less personal, so maybe this gal is the same way. But at least I would message the man and tell him so. Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 23 Aug, 2011 08:07 AM She isn't interested. And despite whatever people may say here, if someone isn't interested in a dating-site, POTENTIAL relationship, they don't owe you anything. Not a response, not an explanation, not anything. I would take her lack of response as disinterest and let it go. If she was interested in you, she would write back. Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 23 Aug, 2011 09:09 AM OK, I get it! godsgirl23...you're the one he is talking about am I right? Sereiously...G-Girl is Right...for whatever reason she is just "not into you"...move on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 23 Aug, 2011 10:58 AM Prince charming she blew you off. Get over it . I know, your just like me, MISTER wonderful, and women pant in our presence, nevertheless you are not going to die. Put a band aid on your ego and soldier on. After all there are a billion or so more of them you know .... Post Reply
AllforGod417 View Profile History	Confused Posted : 23 Aug, 2011 07:12 PM I say from what you said, she is not interested! I am the type of person that will let a person know I am not interested or I would of said not at this time do I want to go beyong friendship that I am comfortable with how things at this moment. Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 24 Aug, 2011 06:46 PM Thats the other thing. I am confused as to how go about talking with them. I have heard some people say dont chat to long online becuase they can get bored and not interested. But I have heard others say too chat online and get to know them that way. I took the dont chat to long approach and it didn't seem to work. I guess that is part of dating. I sent her a final msg actually asking if I did anything wrong and that I didn't want to ruin a possibly good friendship. I got no response so I guess I will move on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 24 Aug, 2011 08:56 PM Write your own rules. Post Reply

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